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• I’m trying to find a detail from a historical anecdote. posted (9 months) ago
  The anecdote is this: Galileo had looked through the telescope at the moon, and seen all its crate…

• Here’s my rant. posted (1 year, 8 months) ago
  I thought I could comment anonymously if I had some help to offer. Now I find out that entering my…

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• told this boy i liked him that took me alot, and he
  

  It sounds like you’re approaching this situation with certain assumptions like “if he was interested in me, he wouldn’t be interested in anyone else.” It would be great (well, at least in some ways it would be) if everyone could be guaranteed to have the same assumptions.
  
  Unfortunately, though, people have very different ideas of when “exclusivity” kicks in — and to be honest, I think your idea of when it kicks in is rather rare. I think that most people believe that, until they’ve specifically established that they’re committed to one person, they can flirt with many people they’re interested in — and though they may be flattered when someone says “I like you”, they don’t think that means commitment and would be really surprised if they learned the other person thought that.
  
  I speak from experience: I once hurt myself quite badly by believing that a girl who indicated she was interested in me must therefore be interested in i>only /i> me. Of course it hurt when I found out she was interested in several others as well, but when it comes down to it, the one who hurt me was me. She never went back on anything she said; I just assumed things she hadn’t said.
  
  I wish you good luck.
  - written 9 months ago

• What shape is the sky?
  

  Try searching for “Stripper tassels” or “tassel pasties”.
  - written 9 months ago

• What do you guys think of therapy?
  

  Depends on the approach. Cognitive therapy and cognitive-behavioral therapy are quite good. A great deal depends on the practitioner, though.
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago

• Scientology.
  

  [quote SARAH!]Stop me if I am wrong, but do Scientologists believe that aliens came down to Earth, mated with monkeys and thus humans where created? I’m going to read up on in more and listen to that clip when I find my headphones because I’m a little baffled.[/quote]
  
  Not quite, but close. Scientologists believe that the actual true person is the “thetan”, and that the body they are wearing is just the “genetic entity”. Scientologists believe that thetans have occupied a multitude of genetic entities over the course of millenia, including prehistoric clams and prehistoric apemen.
  
  [quote SARAH!]Also, something creepy, a while ago we received a HANDWRITTEN letter addressed to a Mr Highfield from The Church of Scientology in London, stating that this Mr Highfield was documented to have been interested in Scientology in the 1960’s, and would he like to come to a meeting to get some further information. We have never had letters like this before but we have had a few leaflets and the like come since. Don’t know about you but it creeps me out…[/quote]
  
  This is where the Scientologists get their “8 million members” claim: by counting everyone who ever showed the least bit of interest as a “member”. Since their belief is that the “thetan” survives the death of the physical body, it makes it slightly less absurd that they include deceased people in their count of members, but it certainly is strange that they count people who have left Scientology and expressed an intention to never return.
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago

• I feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place.
  

  I’m afraid patchadams is completely wrong. “NarcOnon” (not to be confused with NarcAnon a.k.a. Narcotics Anonymous) is not based on proven science or on natural detox. It is entirely based upon the ideas of L. Ron Hubbard, who had no training in biology or chemistry. It is very expensive, it is dangerous to the health, and it is not effective. See “Narconon Exposed” at http://www.cs.cmu.edu/~dst/Narconon/ to learn the difference between what Narconon claims and what it actually delivers.
  
  If twelve-step is not an option for you, I would recommend looking into cognitive therapy. Addiction to a substance often has a lot less to do with the substance itself than it does with beliefs and associations about the substance. Figuring out what it is that’s really going through your mind when you make the decision to drink in an uncontrolled fashion may be what helps you correct that behavior.
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago

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