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absolutely i will… how have you been?

omg…. that is exactly how i have lived for soooooo many years… and it has got to be one of the toughest things that i have had to try to occomplish… yeah.. im still working on that issue.. for ten years with the ex husband.. i heard six or seven times a day.. for eight years… i was fat, i was ugly, i was nasty.. no one could ever care about me… blah blah.. and i believed that… and deep down.. i guess i still do… it is something that you have a real hard time dealing with when someone else says that… oh, youre such a good person.. blah blah… and although you smile at them… and thank them.. deep down its like.. yeah.. ok…

so i doooo know where you are coming from… and it sucks.. but im here for ya… always… love shie.

im actually doing ok… just had my surgery on friday.. im going to be making a post about it and my experience with it… and how i really really hate that hospital.. lmfao.. but other than that.. im doing pretty well.. a bit stiff.. but is expected… love tammy..

ps how are you doing

im doing alright.. neck has been bothering me lately.. had to go to the disability dr the other day.. and of course.. once they start probing.. i hurt the next few days.. i have flexiral but i hate taking it.. because it makes me feel funny.. and knocks me out.. so i decided the other nite to take half of one.. i even took the smaller of the two pieces.. and yup. knocked me out… i went to bed at 1 am.. in which i usually go to sleep at 4 am.,… til 10 am.. and i went to bed at 1 and slept til 5 pm… totally took me out… other than that.. im still feeling a bit ick.. from the meds.. but doing a bit better… today… got told by the disability dr .. “no driving” ugh… i hate not being able to not drive… it takes my freedom away.. but for the safety of others.. i wont drive i guess… i have surgery set for the 25th for the herniated disc.. she said.. there is no way at all for it to be herniated.. its a top disc.. so im thinking its a long long ago fracture from my ex husband.. but we will see when they get in there…

wow.. well i really hope that you get that down and you are feeling better hun… many hugs…

oh.. that sucks… been there before.. as for me… i have actually been off for a few days.. i have about 700 posts to get too.. lmfao… yeah right… lol.. ill get to the invites though.. my back has actually been really bad lately… keeping me basically bed ridden for the most part… i feel a bit better today… atleast i can move around with out a lot of pain.. how have you been?

sorry to hear that you will not have access to the web.. i will definitely re add ya… many hugs.

i know… just needing that affection is really important…

awwww… im so sorry to hear that.. as for those things… i know just how you feel… however i have finally found someone that is truly amazing… even when i was single or even with a guy (previously) i always wanted that as well… just to feel special and loved.. as the guys before were users and players… have you tried to get out and meet girls? let me tell you a little secret.. after i left my last ex.. i decided that i was completely done.. i could not handle it anymore.. all the heart aches and shit.. i decided in my heart.. i would rather be single the rest of my life.. but i wanted to know deep down.. what was wrong with me to make guys cheat and treat me like shit.. i mean.. im extremely faithful, honest and very loving.. so it just didnt make sense to me.. so i thought.. maybe my looks.. so i went to singlesnet.net.. i believe that is it.. with out adding any information about myself.. i just added a picture.. just because i wanted to see if i would get any replies… to what i looked liked.. thinking that this must be the issue.. it was a pay site.. so you had to pay in order to get in.. but others could leave “flirts”.. and mind you.. i did not fill any information out besides what i had too.. my name lil_bit_shie, city etc.. nothing else.. and this guy (my honey) and others sent me flirts.. in my heart of heart.. i knew that i did not want anyone.. ever again.. single was my life.. but once my honey contacted me through yahoo messenger.. i was intrigued.. i have no idea how he found me.. as i had no information on there.. except the name lil_bit_shie that i use for everything.. but it was a step that i was willing to take.. because he tried that hard to get in touch.. and we have been together for a year now.. and he is the best.. so , i guess my advise.. dont give up.. let her find you… rather than searching for them… you are a good person who deserves love.. and it will happen..

ive been ok.. had a melt down the other day, but im better now… lol.. im actually getting ready to go finish my house cleaning and then going to go lay down and take a nap.. just wanted to sit and smoke a cig quick so i jumped on help.. how are you doing?

No problem sweetie! We are all good, So whatcha doin? how you doin?

hey… eehh.. not so good… tumor is really getting to me. couldnt sleep at all last night.. in fact im running on maybe an hour of sleep… and i went to walk out of my room and my balance was gone.. and fell into the wall… seem to be ok at the moment.. but kind of scared… how are you doing?

eastern time… me too… lol..

seems like i keep missing you… what time do you usually get on? im in the eastern time zone.. let me know.

whats wrong hun?

hey.. im alright.. tired today… just woke up from a nap.. but still feels like i havent slept in a week.. but other than that.. im fine.. back seems to be alright so far.. as i have taken some meds already today for it.. :) .. how have you been?

Hiyas, well I am glad to see things working out. God is good all the time, and He will meet our every need!

Just continue to entrust this friendship to the Lord and He will see to it that it is led in the direction it needs to go.
Hope you are having a good day!

Greetings Robkelle your profile is indeed interesting I know you have read mine I am a bit of a bad girl but working on it! Looking forward to shouting with more!peace

hello, thank you for the heads up.

well all you can give this relationship is time, and respect her need for privacy and her time she needs to sort things out and deal or and heal if that is what she needs to do.
Most people do not like change, but it’s unavoidable, and the best thing that you can do is just let it ride so to speak… change is good, and although at the time it seems hurtful and unfair, and feels so wrong, it has always something to give. Change allows for growth and allows for love and understanding… You are a good friend and I trust that she knows that.

Hi, it’s hard not to worry, but God is ultimately in control, and you know friendships have thier seasons too. Just hold her up in your prayers, God will look after the rest.

God is taking good care of your other friend too. We may not know the whys and reasons we have afflictions in our lives, but we can trust that God is in control. When we surrender all to Him, we are comforted and given rest ( and that means free from worry.)
God Bless you!

Sure thing friend, no worries, we’ll talk soon, have a good night, God Bless.

you may be right, and she may not be willing to talk about right now, sounds like she has alot going on right now… perhaps all she needs is just space…

perhapes there is more going on then i will ever know but i do know that she does not answer her e mails the last one i sent or got from her was in 2006 i keep all my e mails from all people so there is no mistake about what i said.did not say

would it help if we took a look at the scenerio and perhaps there is something you may not seeing, from her point of view?

Or if you don’t feel comfortable enough about that, what about writing her an email?

well she may need some time to sort things out, and she may not know how to address the situation. Perhaps she’s giving it time and lay low for a while hoping that whatever the problem is or dilema will go away and fizzle itself out?

Hello, how are you doing today? I’ll be on for a bit too if yu wanna chat.

Hello, well time and prayer go along way friend… Have a good day.

Hi Rob. I see you posted a question ages ago. Woman, like men can be very insensitive. You will however I am sure meet an amazing woman when the time is right. It is shit that saying - however it is true!!!!! The majority of us humans are all waiting for the right person

Nice horse Rob, I bet you enjoy riding a lot, it shows from your picture.

Blessings…

Oh I c, well I guess the ball is in her court so to speak, but do not worry, she’s probably just really busy, sounds like she has alot on her plate. She’s in good hands with God’s watchful care…

Have you talked to her the way you feel? Perhaps she is stressed too, and may be regretting her decision she may need someone to lean on, can you ask her for tea or coffee, just the two of you to have a quiet chat between friends?

Hello Rob, How are you? It’s good to hear from you again!
“As Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another” Proverbs27:17 I love this verse because it reminds me how we are to go to like minded bretheren in times of trials and triumps.
How is your friend leanne doing?
Chat soon! Your friend, shannon

well.. you are not an inconvenience.. you are human… and for them to make you feel this way is terrible.. so… they make you feel this way when their other friends are around? that is disrespectful… friends need to give respect to receive respect… maybe, its time to choose other friends… not those who only want to be your friend when their other friends are busy.

just this one although i have beeen feeeling like a bit of an inconvinence to some, i guess this is worse because i consider her to be a sister and a friend and her family as my second family. we have helped each other a lot in time past

do you feel this way with all your friends.. or is it just one in paticular?

awwwwww…. are they mad at you… or are they busy and not getting to you.

so what ya doin? i loved your shout… about being nice… hehehehehe… im not mean… uumm.. well.. i can be i suppose… heheehehe

ahh.. ok.. well.. im back.. are you still there

aawww… what if i dont want to be nice… hehehehehe…. what ya doin? are you going to be on in a few? i have to go sew my boyfriends sons pants.. and its almost 8 30 pm and my sewing machine is quite noisy.. so i want to get it done… ill brb…

things at school are ok i guess..
I’m sick :[ but life is ok.
How are you doing? How’s life?

-Jennifer

awwww…Thanks Rob, How are you? Still riding horses? I need to get out there soon again. About a month ago, I went for a solol moonlit ride during a snowfall. Some friends where getting ready to sell their farm and head west, so I took one last opportunity to enjoy a moment like that.

i hope that you can help too… i hope that she sees that he is never going to change… and hold that close to her heart .. so that when she thinks about going back.. all she has to do is remember each and every time… why she left in the first place… i wish her luck.. and you are a great friend for helping.. lots of hugs.

Dear Father in heaven,

Take care of your precious child, Rob, you know his needs and I ask that you place a protective hedge around him and comfort Rob with your loving wings! I ask that you give him strength and rest and give him peace and security. In Jesus Name, Amen

Hey there…thanks for the shout. Hope you are well. I don’t see you logged in very often so we must keep missing each other!

great news… so glad that you two can continue your friendship… that is awesome… yay.. and atleast she does know that there is a problem there… even if she doesnt want to solve it.. ya know?? atleast she is aware of it..

hello Rob, It’s nice to meet you! IT sounds like God is working in your life, what a service! WoW! what a discipline! I am into western riding, although my friend showed me a bit of dressage but it’s not something I am totally familiar with.

It is nice to meet a brother in the Lord, please stay in touch!
love your sister in Christ, Shannon

i know hun…. i know… friends are all too important.. maybe let it go… keep it to yourself.. and see if the mother brings it up to you.. by appologizing…

the mom helps you back and forth with work.. as for her doing this.. that is great… just tell her you are sorry that you were in the way the other day.. (let her know basicly that you noticed with out saying anything more… other than you are sorry for being there when things went haywire..) let her start talking.. if she does.. great.. if not.. let it go.. as they are all in denial.. as you sit back with all the bother… im sorry.. as the children are grown.. and if they refuse to talk about it… im not really sure what to do… i mean. you could call a domestic violence hotline.. however.. being that you were the only one there… it could cause you not to get that ride to work… so.. its like a tied up mess kind of.. know what i mean… just like the other day.. the neighbors were having it out.. and i personally have no issue of calling the cops.. but only because i was there many years ago… and i did.. but….

that is sad.. i believe this must be something that has been going on since their small child hood and they have just become accustom to it… i just hope they realize that its not right.. and dont bring it into their own relationship…