hi, sorry i havent been around.. i would rather not get into what happened as i dont want the ’story telling crap’ to go on…
i will just say… i made a promise to myself that i would never allow anyone to disrespect me ever again in my life… no matter who they are.. and someone i really cared for (a friend) did that to me.. and i am heart broken over it… because i gave them my full trust which is very hard for me to do..
well… best way to handle that situation is this… when one tells you one thing but her actions are not showing the same… then you must show her that you are not going to wait around for her… show her that you have a life… because what is happening is that she knows that you are going to be there waiting… for when ever she is ready… and she knows this… so she will take however long she wants.. but if she sees that you are not going to sit there with your hand on your butt… in pity… waiting.. and that you are going to go on with your life… with smiles.. and with self awareness that you are a great guy… and that anyone would be oh so very lucky to be with you… it will make her very cautious and be more apt to make her move!!! trust me… from a girls point of view… ~wink wink~ best of luck…
omg…. that is exactly how i have lived for soooooo many years… and it has got to be one of the toughest things that i have had to try to occomplish… yeah.. im still working on that issue.. for ten years with the ex husband.. i heard six or seven times a day.. for eight years… i was fat, i was ugly, i was nasty.. no one could ever care about me… blah blah.. and i believed that… and deep down.. i guess i still do… it is something that you have a real hard time dealing with when someone else says that… oh, youre such a good person.. blah blah… and although you smile at them… and thank them.. deep down its like.. yeah.. ok…
so i doooo know where you are coming from… and it sucks.. but im here for ya… always… love shie.
im actually doing ok… just had my surgery on friday.. im going to be making a post about it and my experience with it… and how i really really hate that hospital.. lmfao.. but other than that.. im doing pretty well.. a bit stiff.. but is expected… love tammy..
im doing alright.. neck has been bothering me lately.. had to go to the disability dr the other day.. and of course.. once they start probing.. i hurt the next few days.. i have flexiral but i hate taking it.. because it makes me feel funny.. and knocks me out.. so i decided the other nite to take half of one.. i even took the smaller of the two pieces.. and yup. knocked me out… i went to bed at 1 am.. in which i usually go to sleep at 4 am.,… til 10 am.. and i went to bed at 1 and slept til 5 pm… totally took me out… other than that.. im still feeling a bit ick.. from the meds.. but doing a bit better… today… got told by the disability dr .. “no driving” ugh… i hate not being able to not drive… it takes my freedom away.. but for the safety of others.. i wont drive i guess… i have surgery set for the 25th for the herniated disc.. she said.. there is no way at all for it to be herniated.. its a top disc.. so im thinking its a long long ago fracture from my ex husband.. but we will see when they get in there…
oh.. that sucks… been there before.. as for me… i have actually been off for a few days.. i have about 700 posts to get too.. lmfao… yeah right… lol.. ill get to the invites though.. my back has actually been really bad lately… keeping me basically bed ridden for the most part… i feel a bit better today… atleast i can move around with out a lot of pain.. how have you been?
awwww… im so sorry to hear that.. as for those things… i know just how you feel… however i have finally found someone that is truly amazing… even when i was single or even with a guy (previously) i always wanted that as well… just to feel special and loved.. as the guys before were users and players… have you tried to get out and meet girls? let me tell you a little secret.. after i left my last ex.. i decided that i was completely done.. i could not handle it anymore.. all the heart aches and shit.. i decided in my heart.. i would rather be single the rest of my life.. but i wanted to know deep down.. what was wrong with me to make guys cheat and treat me like shit.. i mean.. im extremely faithful, honest and very loving.. so it just didnt make sense to me.. so i thought.. maybe my looks.. so i went to singlesnet.net.. i believe that is it.. with out adding any information about myself.. i just added a picture.. just because i wanted to see if i would get any replies… to what i looked liked.. thinking that this must be the issue.. it was a pay site.. so you had to pay in order to get in.. but others could leave “flirts”.. and mind you.. i did not fill any information out besides what i had too.. my name lil_bit_shie, city etc.. nothing else.. and this guy (my honey) and others sent me flirts.. in my heart of heart.. i knew that i did not want anyone.. ever again.. single was my life.. but once my honey contacted me through yahoo messenger.. i was intrigued.. i have no idea how he found me.. as i had no information on there.. except the name lil_bit_shie that i use for everything.. but it was a step that i was willing to take.. because he tried that hard to get in touch.. and we have been together for a year now.. and he is the best.. so , i guess my advise.. dont give up.. let her find you… rather than searching for them… you are a good person who deserves love.. and it will happen..
ive been ok.. had a melt down the other day, but im better now… lol.. im actually getting ready to go finish my house cleaning and then going to go lay down and take a nap.. just wanted to sit and smoke a cig quick so i jumped on help.. how are you doing?
hey… eehh.. not so good… tumor is really getting to me. couldnt sleep at all last night.. in fact im running on maybe an hour of sleep… and i went to walk out of my room and my balance was gone.. and fell into the wall… seem to be ok at the moment.. but kind of scared… how are you doing?
hey.. im alright.. tired today… just woke up from a nap.. but still feels like i havent slept in a week.. but other than that.. im fine.. back seems to be alright so far.. as i have taken some meds already today for it.. :) .. how have you been?
well all you can give this relationship is time, and respect her need for privacy and her time she needs to sort things out and deal or and heal if that is what she needs to do.
Most people do not like change, but it’s unavoidable, and the best thing that you can do is just let it ride so to speak… change is good, and although at the time it seems hurtful and unfair, and feels so wrong, it has always something to give. Change allows for growth and allows for love and understanding… You are a good friend and I trust that she knows that.
Hi, it’s hard not to worry, but God is ultimately in control, and you know friendships have thier seasons too. Just hold her up in your prayers, God will look after the rest.
God is taking good care of your other friend too. We may not know the whys and reasons we have afflictions in our lives, but we can trust that God is in control. When we surrender all to Him, we are comforted and given rest ( and that means free from worry.)
God Bless you!
perhapes there is more going on then i will ever know but i do know that she does not answer her e mails the last one i sent or got from her was in 2006 i keep all my e mails from all people so there is no mistake about what i said.did not say
well she may need some time to sort things out, and she may not know how to address the situation. Perhaps she’s giving it time and lay low for a while hoping that whatever the problem is or dilema will go away and fizzle itself out?
Hi Rob. I see you posted a question ages ago. Woman, like men can be very insensitive. You will however I am sure meet an amazing woman when the time is right. It is shit that saying - however it is true!!!!! The majority of us humans are all waiting for the right person
Have you talked to her the way you feel? Perhaps she is stressed too, and may be regretting her decision she may need someone to lean on, can you ask her for tea or coffee, just the two of you to have a quiet chat between friends?
Hello Rob, How are you? It’s good to hear from you again!
“As Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another” Proverbs27:17 I love this verse because it reminds me how we are to go to like minded bretheren in times of trials and triumps.
How is your friend leanne doing?
Chat soon! Your friend, shannon
well.. you are not an inconvenience.. you are human… and for them to make you feel this way is terrible.. so… they make you feel this way when their other friends are around? that is disrespectful… friends need to give respect to receive respect… maybe, its time to choose other friends… not those who only want to be your friend when their other friends are busy.
just this one although i have beeen feeeling like a bit of an inconvinence to some, i guess this is worse because i consider her to be a sister and a friend and her family as my second family. we have helped each other a lot in time past
aawww… what if i dont want to be nice… hehehehehe…. what ya doin? are you going to be on in a few? i have to go sew my boyfriends sons pants.. and its almost 8 30 pm and my sewing machine is quite noisy.. so i want to get it done… ill brb…