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• I’ve never been so ashamed. posted (5 months) ago
  I have spent three years at college goofing around, spending more time with friends and hobbies th…

• I feel that I’m losing control of everything. posted (7 months, 3 weeks) ago
  In these crucial weeks before my semester is over, I have somehow managed to let important projects/…

• I’m too shy to talk to my professor! posted (8 months) ago
  I’m a pretty shy and nervous girl, especially around authority figures–like teachers. I…

• My ex boyfriend is in my class and I don’t know how to act? posted (9 months) ago
  My ex is in my history class. We broke up two years ago. He’s been with the girl he broke up…

• How should I approach my roommate about this? posted (10 months) ago
  Ever since my new roommate moved in–I didn’t choose to live with her–she’s …

• Why do we study Tudor history? posted (11 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Why is this period in English history–I’m talking about the reigns of all Tudor monarch…

• Homework Anxiety: I’m freaking out! posted (12 months) ago
  I have a big history paper (10-15 pages) due this Friday. I’m just now starting to work on it…

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virgin_queen's Top (2) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) I am angry!
  

  That’s fracking B-S, if you ask me. I would directly ask someone the question you posed here: How am I supposed to be helped if I can only ask for help once a week?
  
  Any chance you can find some other place–a place not so “bureaucratic”?
  
  - written 7 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by Puck You

• (1 vote) So there’s this girl at work that I really like,
  

  Ask her what she thinks of what’s going on at work. Make a joke about what someone said, or about what ridiculous things you have to do. Sounds like smalltalk, yeah, but at least you’ll have a chance to speak to her. And if that works (if you get her attention, even for a moment), make it a daily thing. Pretty soon she’ll be comfortable talking with you…
  
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago – voted for by qbnightmare2

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• I just need to let this pain out, it’s not even a real question…
  

  You’re correct that you have to–somehow–learn to love yourself, to feel ok with being confident. In my experience, if you aren’t confident and feel like you’re not worth it, people (including this guy, maybe?) pick up on that. It’s like a vicious cycle.
  I can’t give you great advice on how to “love” yourself–that’s something I’m currently struggling with. I try a couple of things, though, that have helped me a little, maybe they’ll help you? Find one thing that you feel you’re really good at. A school subject, telling jokes, writing (because I think this is a very well-written post [;), comforting friends/family, even being neat and tidy. If you recognize that there is something you ARE good at, something that you can go better than a person you know, that might give you a sense of pride, no matter how small. For myself, I just keep looking for the small things I know I do well, and it makes me feel good about myself. I see that as a form of “loving” yourself. It’s kind of long-term work, but it’s something.
  As for this guy. Why don’t you talk to him? It doesn’t have to be about your feelings or anything like that, just say something to him. A comment on the weather, a joke…anything so long as you have actually said something to this guy who has earned so much affection on your part. It might make you feel better to know that you’ve done something, made some sort of contact. It’s all in the baby steps.
  - written 5 months ago

• I was looking on my boyfriends myspace, and noticed
  

  I would keep trying to talk to him, just to hear what he has to say. Not knowing his side of the story would probably drive you crazy…and once you find out, and if you decide to end things with him, you’ll at least feel like you’ve gotten some closure over the whole situation. Myspace sucks sometimes, eh? ;]
  - written 5 months ago

• do you think atheism will have a higher percentage of the population then religion in the near future?
  

  Just from looking at my high school class and my university class, I’d say that atheism is well on the rise. I certainly knew people who were very religious and utterly devoted to their given religion, but I knew MORE who were not. That could be because my schools are very liberal–religions did not have a place in daily curriculum. But atheism (or at least, agnosticism) was and still is very prevalent where I am surrounded by people from all kinds of different backgrounds and viewpoints, and I see an increase in these attitudes in the forecast.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I am angry!
  

  That’s fracking B-S, if you ask me. I would directly ask someone the question you posed here: How am I supposed to be helped if I can only ask for help once a week?
  
  Any chance you can find some other place–a place not so “bureaucratic”?
  - written 7 months, 3 weeks ago

• what does lou mean?
  

  I think it means “laughing over you.”
  - written 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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