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He doesn’t blame the bipolar for his actions…i’m just wondering if thats the case. Every once in a while he starts an argument or a rant over something incredibly insignificant and stupid, and if i give my two cents on the opposing side he goes nuts and starts attacking me personally and manipulates the situation. this is very common with him. i know far a fact that 1- he has a lot of deep insecurities for a guy his age (stuff hes gone through growing up), and 2- Its even worse when hes drunk. except usually when he drinks i avoid all contact with him whatsoever.

anyways our relationship has already been built off of a quite dysfunctional foundation, and probably adding to the stress for him…and me, for that matter. I just know that if i leave him, he’ll be a wreak, and if i stay, we’re not going anywhere, and both just content under false pretenses. I’m waiting for both of our lives to become a little more productive and stable and im sure we’ll eventually go out seperate ways but as for now, i’m holding on by a thread. I mean, i have some big issues of my own i need to be dealing with, and i really feel overwhelmed with him in the picture too.

actually, for him this is normal, he goes on these rants and says stuff, but for me to keep up with it is hard. i dont take friendships or what the people i love say for granted, and hes the kind of guy that says a lot of stuff he doesn’t mean when hes angry, and it really gets to me…but then the next day hell call and just apologize and everything is supposed to be normal. this isnt healthy, right? well at least for a person like me. UGHHHHHHHHHH

very shadyyyy

thank you so much :)

I have no idea. Maybe you can google it lol

Stop smoking weed in the house!

I support you!

Thanks guys. I think im gonna try these steps. Mainly the one about making apublic goal, if i know that there are people that are counting on me, that would be a good motivation. 33333333

I know the symptoms, I fit them all.
What I’m asking is how to actually GET motivation. How can I make myself passionate about something, and then strive for it?
>>My whole life has been wandering around in content, I’ve been given everything I NEEDED, and just dismissed the things that I want or cant attain. I’ve never actually wanted and striven for something.

But real life has hit me, and I now know that I can’t be handed everything. Somethings I need to work for. But I have no drive. Not since about 2 years ago when certain situations caused a blow to my morale.
But I’ve been stuck content and being dismissive as I watch people grow around me and realized that i want that too. I’m actually quite intelligent, and i have so much potential…i want to show people my potential. It’s time they see it. I just don’t know where to begin.
Help mee!

how does one attain motivation?

I live in LA…he’s not ready to make the move out here, a little intimidated of the lifestyle, although i think he’d be just fine. But yeah, i guess he was just really stressing the other night, but he got a relative to send him some money and hes gonna buy a scooter to get him to and from work untill hes saved enough for a reliable car lol. Hes really excited about it, and i’m happy for him.

But UGH. I hate when people get hella stressed and overemotional about things and start going crazy, bc im an empathetic person, and i get sucked into it and get stressed too. And like now hes fine, but it took a lot of energy out of me to console him. The same goes for a few other friends that i have. They drain me >:|.

Thanks a lot though guys, I really appreciate all of you on help.com, and the time and consideration you put out. I dont take it for granted :) thanks!

thanks! but unfortunately, we’ve gone through all those options… his car is reallyyy old and beat up and needs extensive repair. He actually has a bike and tried riding it 1/4 there and said that its way too far, and physically difficult for him, he hasnt ridden it for a while. As for work, there are a lot of employees, and he just started 2 days ago and doesnt really know anyone slightly well enough to ask for a ride. He’s been on craigslist looking for a cheap car/vespa, something he can use temporarily. And hes not quite eligible for any loans atm either :P He’s just sooo stressed and it suckss!
I think he should find out how the buses work and take that, or ask someone for a ride home..a bit of this has to do with his pride too. Poor guy, god bless him

Wow. You sound exactly like me. This is the exact situation that I’m in, and the exact problem that I’m going through. I’ve even gone through a mild case of depression because of it. Add me to your friends list, maybe we can talk and figure out our lives :) I know that many things can mask,or temporarily cheer you up, but it’s not until you take that initiative to change, that things will really start rolling for you.

Motivation, determination, and focus.

I’m not an expert on depression, but I have had mild cases of it myself. I think you should definitely wean off of the pills…they’re not natural, and will eventually suck the life out of you. But i also really think that you can fight it. I was going through a really depressed period in my life, and the only thing that got me off of it was changing my location and surroundings. So idk what might work for you, but with a positive attitude and a establishing a certain goal to strive for, you just might be able to climb out of this nasty hole! I believe in you!

Dont get pressured into having sex…i say wait untill you get married :)