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I don’t want to get unemployment. Need it for maternity leave. I can’t get a 2nd job til Oct 31 and I doubt someone will hire a 7 month pregnant woman who can only work for another 2 months.

[quote Liquorice Kiss]well if your gonna be 7 months preggers when this happens maybe its a blessing, you wont be able to do what you have been doing. only buy essentials and maybe cut down on things, buy cheaper food, maybe a cheaper apartment, cut back on electricity etc[/quote]

true. i’ll try that. thanks

[quote ☠WuT☠]Try unemployment…I know you can still collect it with a job[/quote]

ill look into it. thanks.

[quote ☠WuT☠]Do you know how many pregnant women are out there right now in the same financial situation …your baby will be fine so stop worrying about that one.

As for the financial situation do you all qualify for government assistance?[/quote]

I can get maternity leave for a year which is 55% of wages. Have to wait til I stop working and then it takes 4-6 weeks. Otherwise, I doubt it.

[quote beatricegalant]Yes, your pain is normal. Unless bleeding occurs with it or severe cramps. Then you need to see the doctor.[/quote]

ok thanks

[quote beatricegalant]Pelvic pain is common, nothing to worry about. Your body is releasing some kind of a hormon which softens the ligaments, etc. to make way for the birth when it comes. ONLY if you have SEVERE pain that you can’t move that will accompany bleeding or just huge severe pain not just mild pain, is when you should go to the emergency or your gyne. That could indicate many things. Only if it is so severe you can’t function.[/quote]

It’s not exactly mild I don’t think…but not severe either. My sis is pregnant too and she has times where she hurts so much for a few minutes she can barely move. Her baby is fine. I’m trying to be positive…

I haven’t felt very good yesterday and today and kind of worried :( Been having pelvic pain and lower back pain on left side and some of the pelvic pain is on left side. I don’t see doctor for another 2 weeks and I don’t know what to do :( Last night when I used the bathroom (sorry TMI) midway to the end I had horrible pelvic pain :(

[quote beatricegalant]You are worrying about nothing. The best place for your baby is where he/she is and is being protected from everything. Your worries are natural, all mothers go through that. Then when they born, there are tons of new worries to worry about and as they get older, the worries will increase….so you are doing nothing else but just the same as all mothers are. Welcome to life’s most beautiful “career”: motherhood.[/quote]

thanks :)

[quote Cell]You’re doing fine. It’s all going to work out. Stop focusing on problems. Try to think of happy and peaceful things. Baby is fine and If you look at the big picture all is well. Compared to much of the world you’re living like royalty. Your baby will have all it needs. All will be well.[/quote]

Thank you. That helps alot. I’ll have faith in me, my hubby and our baby :)

[quote Cell]Did you get a good book to read? It’s still the crazy hormones. Everything is going to work out. Stressing/worrying about it does absolutely nothing to help.

Listen to positive music. Get enough sleep. Baby will be fine.[/quote]

Thanks. I have some books at home…just haven’t had time to read it yet. Lots going on lately. I didn’t sleep much all last week but it’s been a little better in the last couple of weeks. Thanks. I just don’t want to hurt our baby. I’m crazy about him/her.

[quote ℓινιηg4уσυ]you need to relax..to be honest for the first baby it would be find for now a 1 bedroom appt..in the mean time keep searching..so int he case you find anything good,you can move even when the bby is born..GOODLUCK.[/quote]

we are still looking for a one bedroom apartment…we just need one soon. it just needs to be a little bigger than ours. right now, we have no room for a baby at all. trust me when i say this is no exagerration!

[quote Pep with a JellyBean]Hi Don’t Ever Quit

First of all, you and your husband are going through some tremendously hard and emotional times. It’s highly stressful for someone to stop smoking and it’s highly stressful to be pregnant. The combination of the two doubles the stress of each. The fact that you are expecting for the first time doubles that doubled stress. And the fact that you have money issues doubles the stress yet again.

Moving is another stressor. I would advise you to wait before moving! Wait ’til things in your life calm down! Even good stress (stopping smoking/having a baby) affect people physically and emotionally for a time. So before you add the stress of moving, give it some time.

Also, if you move to a bigger place, you will most likely be paying more rent…correct? Will that compound your stress about money??

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we have no room for baby items whatsoever. we barely have room for our stuff and we don’t own much! we don’t even have room for a crib!

[quote Mariam_the_Lioness][quote IDon’tEverQuit]thanks. if u don’t mind asking…what have u bought? have had a hard time coming up with a list of baby necessities so we can check stuff off as we get it.[/quote]

Pack-n-play with bassinet
Infant car seat
1 giant box of disposable diapers
1 giant pack of disposable baby wipes
portable, packable changing pad
grooming kit, including nail clipper and a soft hairbrush
nasal aspirator
infant acetaminophen drops
diaper rash ointment
baby shampoo
rubbing alcohol
cotton swabs
1 pack of cloth diapers (these are useful for everything!)
1 pack of 3 receiving blankets (we will need more of these. there is no such thing as too many receiving blankets.)
1 pack of 3 bottles with nipples (I’m planning to breast feed, but it definitely is good to have some bottles on hand.)
bottle cleaning brush (absolutely essential)
1 pack of bibs (not essential, but nice to have to reduce laundry)
2 pacifiers (again, not essential, but lots of babies are comforted by them)

We also have a baby seat that my sister gave us, but it isn’t necessary since the infant car seat can also function as a seat in the house.

I have two sons already, but they are older, and the only baby item I’ve been able to find that belonged to them is one cozy stroller blanket. You will want a warm baby blanket for use when you are out on cool days.

I’d also like to have an infant carrier, that I can wear the baby when I am working on things around my house or walking around the town, but I don’t have one yet. The one I want is about $50, but I’ve seen them sold for about $30. I guess this is also an optional item, but I had one with my older sons, and it was really, really nice to have.

I want an infant bathtub too. You can bathe the baby in the regular bathtub, but in my house where I live now, the regular bathtub will be awkwardly placed for infant bathing. I can work with it if I have to, but hopefully we will get that before she is born. (To bathe baby in regular tub, fold a towel and put it in the tub. Run about an inch or so of warm water, and then place the baby on the towel and wash normally.)[/quote]

thanks

[quote Chunkymoves][quote IDon’tEverQuit][quote Chunkymoves]giving it up is tough. hope he can go get support from external places so he doesn’t have to add to your stress. you are making a baby, you have enough going on :-)[/quote]

thanks. i do want to help him though.[/quote]
lucky guy :-)[/quote]

not really…i’m not a very good wife.

[quote Evansent :)]I know youve always had self esteem issues, maybe its time to realise youve finally accomplished your dream.
Your man is there for keeps, hes chose you, your having his child, you are going to be a family.
We all strive in life to be the best we can possibly be.
Sometimes life backfires!
Just be yourself Nat.[/quote]

Thanks.