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• I’m 19 years old and I can’t seem to find a boyfriend. posted (2 days, 1 hour) ago
  I’ve had two boyfriends before, but both of them were short-term (one was only 2 days) and ne…

• He’s a jerk but i still like him posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
  Hi again everyone, i haven’t been on help in a while but once again my life is way too complic…

• Help me study! posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  I have two exams tomorrow, and then finals all next week. How do I convince myself to STUDY STUDY S…

• Kinda cheated on my boyfriend posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  What am I saying? I 100% cheated on him. I kissed a guy I’d just met at a concert. And it was …

• I’m such a b*tch posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  Or at least i feel like I am. I was mean to my best friend because we’ve been fighting for a w…

• Rant # 3 posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  There are two other parts: this has been an insanely long post. Here’s the *summary*, for thos…

• rant # 2 posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  There is a part one. LONG POST WARNING (summary at bottom) I was already mad at her. I got my first…

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Nutmeg's Top (4) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) The lawyer found out about the letters that I sent to the Prosecutor.
  

  You’re the best person I know. You are so unbelievably brave! Hold on there honey, you can do this. You know what the right thing to do is… and you’re doing it. You don’t owe anything to your husband, and you have EVERY right to talk to the prosecutor. Remember that little girl.
  He’s done this before, right? And he was acquitted that time, and you don’t want it to happen again? You are doing the only thing you CAN do… and I know it’s hard. I can’t imagine how hard. But you are strong enough to get through this.
  If cutting is the only way for you to do that, then cut. But if I could offer a suggestion, every time you feel the urge to cut, go and hug your son. You can do this for him. And do it for yourself too… better times are ahead. This court case will be over, and then you can move on with your life.
  *hugs*
  
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago – voted for by Puck You, Plox Nork

• (1 vote) Okay, so I’ve been wondering something.
  

  I don’t really know, its just that I know that there are Christian witches, and Pagan witches, and witches who worship Satan, and witches who are families of witches and pass down spells, and Wiccan… and every single one of them has different ideas of what makes a person a witch.
  Paganism is not really something that can be defined. At least not for me. Its more a conglomeration of a lot of the old religions, all mixed up together and the best bits taken out. I’m Celtic by ancestry, so I tend to relate to the Celtic religions… but then, I know more about Greek and Roman Gods and Goddesses, so I pray to those, too. Paganism is a religion of caring about others. Giving a hand to someone in need is just as religious as praying on your knees, or actually maybe even more. I believe that all Gods are one God/dess, that whatever someone believes is 100% real for them, it becomes entirely part of reality, and that all religions are equally valid.
  That’s just me, though… I know some Pagans believe that there is the God, and there is the Goddess (Mother, Maiden, Crone), and that’s all. That’s good with me too :).
  I know EXACTLY what you mean about the spell thing! I’m always worried that what I’m doing is going to mess things up! But here’s how I worked it out: As long as I NEVER ever do a spell intended to hurt someone, its ok. Its the difference between casting a spell to do as well as you can on a test, and casting a spell to make your friend do less well on the test so that you do better.
  Ok… bad example lol, but I think you get my point… you never need to hurt anyone to make yourself do better.
  Personally, I think spells are a focusing of energy (You know how the Chinese have Chi (Spelling?), and so on?) that everyone has… some more than others… or of energy that you draw from things around you. If you focus it wrong, it can bounce back and hurt you, but if you focus it with the intention of helping, then it will only make things better.
  Also, I always try to cast at least one spell for someone else for every spell that I cast for myself. For instance, if I want to make sure my friend and I make up, I’ll cast a spell for that, but I’ll also cast one to help my mother have a good day at work tomorrow. ITs my way of balancing the scales.
  I don’t know if this helps at all :) I really got my first intro to Paganism from an AMAZING author called Ceisiwr Serith, a book called “Family Paganism”.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by kmichelle

• (1 vote) im a little confused…
  

  Break up with him. If he says he’s going to kill himself, then that’s a bad relationship. He’s emotionally blackmailing you. Take him to the hospital, get him help, but whatever you do, DON’T let him hold on to you like this. You have your own life.
  Tell him “I love you, honey, but I think that we both need some time to ourselves. I don’t want to keep hurting you like this, and I think it will be better for both of us if I let you go” (Making it sound like you’re doing it for him). Or something :P.
  But I like the idea of taking a little time to yourself. Maybe you can date this other guy, but don’t try to get into a serious relationship with him just yet.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by jeaniecarpentier

• (1 vote) help me and my bff run away.
  

  Yes, but the world is BIG… and its closer than, say, Australia, but its still a very very long way away.
  If your dad is the one causing the problem, and he and your mother are getting divorced, then just hold on until he’s gone. It sounds like your mother is going to have enough to deal with… don’t give her more troubles! You’ll probably find your life starts getting better once he leaves.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by Puck You

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• I personally feel attention can be stratified in two ways
  

  Right there with you! I just started university and am faced with the same problem: I don’t enjoy studying that much, I’d rather be out there making a difference! But to get anywhere, I need a degree.
  Unless you want to strike out and live off the grid, or at least live very far outside normal culture, you pretty much have to follow their rules. My Dad quit his job ten years ago… and he says that now he could never get back into the “normal” world… all his knowledge is too far out of date.
  
  But what are these targets that you want to focus on? Are they the ones that make you truly happy? Do you actually care if you get (random guess: two cars) whatever you’re aiming for? Because if not, why not just stop working for that and start LIVING?
  - written 1 day, 1 hour ago

• My love life is 0
  

  Anonymous: I don’t think you understand Alex’s side of this. HE doesn’t enjoy it. Therefore, he shouldn’t do it!
  What you are saying is the same thing that a lot of highschool boys use to make their girlfriends sleep with them: “honey, if you love me, you’ll do this to make me happy”.
  
  Agreed, there are many people out there (myself included) for whom touch is incredibly important. But we are not everyone.
  I don’t think that Alex’s girlfriend will take a lover just because he doesn’t want to have the “horizontal” part of the relationship.
  
  Alex, you aren’t selfish and you are as grown up as you need to be. Yes, you should make the life of your partner better, but never ever carry that too far.
  
  Many people simply aren’t interested in sex. And that’s fine.
  - written 1 day, 1 hour ago

• I posted a while back about this same topic only the situation has changed, and once again i need major advice.
  

  A question like that sounds like flirting to get you to say you like him! I’d just tell him :D
  - written 1 day, 7 hours ago

• well hmm idk how to start this off
  

  Why hate them just because they smoke weed? How does that make them bad people? Are they hurting anyone?
  But if you really can’t deal with being friends with these people, then maybe it’s time to, like you said, make new friends.
  
  It sounds like you’re judging them just as much as they judge you. Maybe I’m wrong here, but it seems like you hate them for more than just what you put in your post. Do you hate them because of their bad actions, or for who they are?
  
  Don’t give up on people. That’s the only advice I can think of.. people may not be perfect, but if you really can “forget the bad in people”, there is SO MUCH GOOD out there. Maybe make new friends who don’t make you ashamed of them?
  - written 1 day, 7 hours ago

• I’m 19 years old and I can’t seem to find a boyfriend.
  

  Thanks for the answers guys. I hear a lot of the “just wait and he’ll come along”, and while I know you’re probably right, it seems like I’ve been waiting an awfully long time!
  And it’s not about hunting down the perfect boyfriend. Honestly, I want to try dating a few complete jerks, just so that when Mr. Right does appear, I know the difference!
  But I’ll try to be good and not complain too much about it. I’m sure it’ll happen in time.
  Thanks for the confidence boost though :)
  
  And Ajay; what’s wrong with my third nostril? :P
  - written 1 day, 8 hours ago

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