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• My oldest, best friend has just got a girlfriend.
  

  not to minimize the way you may be feeling, but high school romance is so miniscule compared to all the cool things that are in store for you! Your life has so many firsts yet to come, don’t rush them, they will all be amazing :-)
  
  As for your friend, he may even go through a period where he feels you two can’t relate because he is in this relationship, but don’t be jealous, your time will come too and hopefully it will be great to have him to turn to for relationship tips because he’s already been there once - personally, I avoided tons of senseless upsets being the late bloomer and learning from my “been there done that” friends.
  
  I’d say focus the energy into something that will enrich you in the long run. Learn a language, us girls think that kind of thing is hot ;-)
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• I can’t stop crying & can’t sleep.
  

  Hi, I don’t know what it is about male female relationships that always ends up so complicated. As you already saw, I am going through a similar complicated relationship…but at least he had the decency to let you go when he knew he couldn’t be what you deserved. I feel your pain so so much you have no idea…I found this site the same way you did. But as painful as heartbreak is and feeling things spin out of control, I feel like it only lays a path for clarity and better things. Your thoughts of harming yourself makes me ache for you.
  
  If more people had souls like yours, there would be much less hurt in this world. Please do us all a favor and stay good, and open and unchanged. True love has to be in store for you, this just wasn’t it and it sucks that you became the victim of this guy’s confusion. Stay open always and don’t let disappointments make you bitter. I wish you so much of the best.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’ve been in a relationship for a little over 6 years.
  

  very very true.
  I do trust him because I know being a good person is as important to him as it is to me. I am hoping we can just grow from the mistakes and leave the mess in the past. There is a huge part of me that believes we can still do that…
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’ve been in a relationship for a little over 6 years.
  

  I can only speak for myself…I know I would never do it - all of the anxiety is not worth it, really. I believe in karma, it has had a lot to do with how I’ve found myself in this predicament. I only need to learn hard lessons once. I’m not huge on turmoil and drama, if it is within my power to do so, I’ll avoid playing any part in it.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’ve been in a relationship for a little over 6 years.
  

  @jibja,
  
  I don’t believe that’s true - I’ve been there, I can’t imagine ever cheating again after being on the receiving end of betrayal. There’s no way I’d cheat again, if it were that serious, I’d know it was simply time to leave.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

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