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• My best friend is using cocaine.
  

  I did realize that you were talking about involuntary commitments. I agree with eip03; your friend is 18 and can only go to rehab if he chooses. If they think he is a danger to himself or others he can be held for 3 days only in a detox or psych facility.
  
  Usually in an intervention situation a bed is already arranged and an escort is there to go with the person to the airport or travel to the facility with the person. If your friend is still a full-time student and his parents have insurance he might have coverage for this treatment. There is also free treatment from state agencies if you qualify; also if you are a native. (native americans)
  
  And to eic03…you always matter to someone. While I have never had a drug problem I used to use drugs to mask symptoms of my bi-polar disorder. When I finally figured out that I had a chemical imbalance(with the help of professionals) my world changed. It was a slow and hard change, but a positive one. Don’t give up on yourself; you have things to offer the world.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• My best friend is using cocaine.
  

  Good Luck, he is lucky to have a friend like you. I haven’t gone to these sites but you might google them and find them useful to start your conversation…NA (narcotics anonomous) or alanon (for friend and family of addicts)
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• My best friend is using cocaine.
  

  If I gave you the impression that you have to set back and watch him ruin his life, I am very sorry. You do not. You can be very clear about how you feel about him; that you love him and that you are worried about him and that you want him to get help.
  
  But you need to be prepared for him to tell you things that an addict says. An addict will tell you that they know they need help; and that they are sorry and they will promise they will never use again and then they will go get high the next chance they get.
  
  Is your friend using cocaine on a daily basis? Is he stealing, lying, or exchanging property to get drugs? If his drug use has escalated to this point your wanting him to get better is not going to be enough. You have to protect yourself. Being involved with an addict on any level is a potenially self-destructive personality trait.
  
  You ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT FIX him. The only person that can do that is the addict. By continually giving him a soft place to land you are enabling his behavior. Look up the term “enabling”. You can love a person and not love a behavior.
  Tell your parents…tell his parents…he might be mad for awhile but if something happens to him(like he dies by mixes his drugs)how mad will you be at yourself?
  
  Also every time cocaine changes hands it is usually cut(mixed/diluted) sometimes with something stupid like baby laxative and sometimetimes with more dangerous products.
  
  Cocaine is expensive. He will only be able to hide his habit for awhile and what damage will he cause his family before he does? Identity Theft? Emptying out family bank accounts? Stealing from his family? You might think that he would never do these things, but an addict will do any of these things and more to get what they want.
  
  Your friend and you should be planning the beginning of your lives and instead your friend is potentially planning the end of his. Get help for yourself and for your friend.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• My best friend is using cocaine.
  

  If you are both 17 or 18 years old, neither of you have the life experience to deal with this problem alone. While you can certainly tell your friend you are concerned about his behavior, there is NO WAY you can help him alone.
  
  If you are not comfortable talking to his parents or yours then you can go to your school counselor. Addicts become very good liars and your friend will tell you and his parents anything you want to hear to keep you off his back.
  
  He is 18; his parents can not force him to go to rehab. They can try to convince him to see his problem as you can; but if an addict does not want help just get out of the way because they will lie, steal and take advantage of you any way they can. Protect yourself.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• *attension; “this post is closed, your kind replies for this post are no longer needed, thank you!
  

  Is this the girl you have been talking about in your prior posts? (before I answered I wanted to know you better) Sometimes what we think is love is just the desire to have something. Do you just want her because you don’t have her?
  Would you hold her hair while she puked? Would you clean her cat’s litterbox? Take her crazy brother to the mall when you had tickets to a ball game? Love is boring. Love doesn’t wear makeup and sometimes is grouchy. Do you like her in the light of day? And here is a question…does she like you? If you think that maybe you might be in love then good luck.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

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