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I agree, I don’t know what the mcproblem is.

[quote makelove][quote Shakeybritches]

One of your better bets may be to google various words that apply to what you believe and are searching for.

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The thing is: I don’t believe in anything + I’m not searching for anything.

I think the only thing I want is for people to be happy — and I can’t seem to figure out how to HELP make that happen… because no one will tell me what they want — apart from m*ney… as in: “don’t give me that do-goody-good BS”.

meh….

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Many people do not know what they want because they have lost part of themselves in the daily shuffle of life. Truly, I think that the more that an individual invests in his or her self, the easier it may be to relate peace and goodwill to others.

It is nice to know that you are concerned with the happiness of others. If you have found that happiness within yourself, share your joy and peace with others.

True happiness does not come from without, is not something you can really give or even take away. True joy and peace I really believe comes from within.

No human can turn on someone else’s happy switch if you are determined to be down. And no one can turn off your happy switch if you are determined to be happy. No these are not “absolutes” but these ideas can be liberating when it comes to determining how you want to move forward in your life.

Sometimes all it takes is a smile on your face to make someone’s day. I know that when I smile, I feel tons lighter, things just “seem” to work better and I just plain feel happier.

The happier you are with yourself, the happier others will be around you. Test this to see if it is true. :)

lol
It is hit and miss here, that is for sure. But it may be worth a shot. Other ideas would be to go to the local library and get books on what you are interested in, putting an ad in the paper to find like minded folks, expose yourself to more local community events.

One of your better bets may be to google various words that apply to what you believe and are searching for.

You can also ask a question on Yahoo! answers. Here is the link: http://answers.yahoo.com/

You can also search for similar questions asked on the same site. :)

Cynicism is fine as long as you recognize it as such :)

If you know exactly what you are looking for in others, then maybe even start here to look for groups who share your same or similar interests.

You haven’t connected with like-minded people perhaps.

Why do you say this?
This world isn’t really the right one for me — I must have taken a wrong turn somewhere…
:)

[quote makelove]My existence is meaningless without being related to other people’s existence.

In fact: This is actually a central element of many rel..ions (don’t want to spell out that word ;)…

N. Mandela called it ubuntoo (wrong spelling — put a “u” at the end ;)

Does that make any sense?[/quote]

I am not familiar with that, however I can understand the need for existing as a part of a community and how that can bring a sense of fulfillment to a person’s life.

[quote Shakeybritches][quote Anonymous]none? I mean, my best is always just average in other people’s eyes. And I’m not very athletic. I play sports but I’m not that good. I don’t really know actually..[/quote]

Here is my revised version, I was multitasking. :)

Try this, when a thought enters your head and that thought tends to bring you “down”, get it out of your head by not accepting it.

Example: If you feel as though you are not “good enough”, visualize if you need to that you are pushing that thought out the door of your mind, then replace it with one more positive like “I feel good about myself”.

I hope your day is filled with blue skies and smiles, Shakey[/quote]

[quote makelove][quote Shakeybritches]Yesterday is but a dream, tomorrow but an idea. Today is your life. :)[/quote]

That’s nice :)

but actually, don’t want it to be MY life. I am more interested in OUR lives[/quote]

What do you mean?

Yesterday is but a dream, tomorrow but an idea. Today is your life. :)

[quote Anonymous]none? I mean, my best is always just average in other people’s eyes. And I’m not very athletic. I play sports but I’m not that good. I don’t really know actually..[/quote]

What I am hearing is that you are seeing yourself through other peoples’ eyes. That is totally unfair to yourself. The only one who REALLY knows you is YOU.

You will begin to feel much better about yourself as you FOCUS on the positive aspects of your life. Not what you think others think of you or what negative thoughts you may have of yourself.

Try this, when you a thought enters your head and that thought tends to bring you “down”, get it out of your head by not accepting it.
Example: You get nervous around others and you do not know how to join in the conversation, listen for awhile. If you do not speak, it is no big deal. You will however in time think of things to say, but do not jump in unnecessarily.

Do some relaxation exercises both mentally and physically.

By the way, have you smiled today? Do it, do it now. A big one, you know, the kind that makes cheeks hurt and lips numb. Well, maybe not that much, but get a relaxed smile on your face and think about how that makes you feel.

I really believe that there is a part of you that is happy. You must call that part of you to the forefront.

I hope your day is filled with blue skies and smiles, Shakey

Look inside yourself, find those things that make you happy about yourself. On those things dwell a bit.
One thing I can see is that you are not afraid to ask others what they think. No one forced you to come here, you did it on your own. :)

I can truly relate to what you are saying.

What are some of your good qualities?

Confidence boosters:
1)Don’t give a second thought to negative thoughts, cut them off before they have a chance to grow in your head.
2)Smile Smile Smile
3)Spend some time alone each day. Just 5 minutes to talk to yourself positively will make a difference.
4)Don’t feel pressured to say anything. Sometimes just being around others without talking can be uncomfortable, but learn to listen more to what others say without feeling compelled to speak up.
5)Again I would say smile
http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/25-kille…

Low self confidence can cause people to feel out of touch with others resembling very much what you have posted.
Not saying that for sure it IS self confidence but if you ever feel as though others come before you, it could very well be that you need to give yourself a confidence boost.

Very cool indeed. Thanks