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hey - just fyi - i’m from the states but live in indonesia…i go back later this week…letting you know b/c usually i’ll check at least weekly so if you shout and i dont answer, i will soon…..I’m so happy for you!!! You’re going to take this by the horns and get victory over it i know it girl! xx

oh yeah scratch that then. but you know what? i bet she has places to call on her web if you wanted to talk to someone? look not pushing - just i LOVE her attitude (see what i just wrote regarding the turning 30 girl - thats from Joyce too….) anyway - i feel like a freak almost but i’m so pushing her b/c my life was SOOO dark before and now its just…well, peaceful, joyful - like a whole different life really….anyway - dont blame you re: the minister thing. good for you re: your husband haha!!! i cant believe i wrote that!!! :)

i say try not to do the ‘how long will this take’ part b/c i used to torment myself with that.
her response would be, ‘how obedient will you be/serious about doing what you need to do…’ the main gig is to do what you need to do, not grumble/wail….which it doesnt sound like you actually - you just sound like , ‘heck - i want outa this dark’…so thats good - youre ahead of the victim curve/bondage….
it sounds like you’ll be just fine - just have to focus on other stuff…not get hung up on how intense this all is. really - i’d get a really good minister even if it takes a bit….mostly b/c i’ve found they dont do the coddling either and can have pretty good advice re: what to do (heck - call a bunch, ask/interview if they listen to/like her - thats how i found one!! and i wasnt even into God!!) anyway - i dont want to shove God/that scene at you….just saying what worked for me after THOUSAnds of dollars and YEARS AND YEARS in the therapy ferris wheel….ugh. anyway - thought i’d shout this b/c i am uncomfortable recommending God stuff for too long out there - I’m not trying to push it/Him…. just what worked for me….after years of the other stuff being a huge colossal waste of my time and energy and neverending tears. really - you sound like youre doing great comparatively - i think once you find the resource/s that work for you, yuou’ll have a shift….you just got out of hope/faith/dragged down by the darks cuz it can be hard to see they will ever go away — dont worry girl — they DO/will - and BELIEVE IT OR NOT you will have really valuable tools/lessons learned from this that will really be valuable/you’ll be glad you have….hard to believe but true….at least thats what i’ve found…and my friends….

i picked it up in an airport and was stunned that i liked it so much. but then part of the appeal for me was that the protagonist was open to other’s religions, as i am.

for your reading list.. even though it’s not fantasy, you have to read “life of pi”. it’s about a teenager from india. his family owns a zoo and immigrates to the u.s. but on the way the ship sinks and he’s shipwrecked. the other survivors in the lifeboat are all animals, including a tiger.