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• i have got a bit of a confusing situation going on…
  

  lol thank you kneady and thank you cookie dough!!!! feel quite a lot clearer in my own mind at present about this whole thing to be honest. and i think i shall follow your advice and firstly just see how we get on being “normal” (haha) and then once got used to that see if he’s comfortable to show me umm ‘her’ lol. really quite interested to see how this all works out now lol im not sure why 2bh just feel quite good about it all now, even though i dont know what im actually going to do about it just hearing all of your opinions has actually helped more than i imagined it might when i posted my comment!!!!! so thank you ALL lots!!!!
  
  and i have already asked him about the how many other students thing (dont wanna be another on the bedpost so to speak after all) and he said im the only one(feeling anyway),he said he has found one other girl attractive but not felt anything really for her and nothing happened so im inclined to believe him like i said before…
  
  i feel like your all going to think im being really naive but i do genuinly believe him and i usually have a good sense of if someones telling the truth or lying… just hope im right this time lol.
  
  he asked me if i would go out with him (well technically “her”) and to be honest thats what freaked me out the most as i have literally NO idea what it would be like, i dont even know if i would be allowed in if we went out…?!
  i said to him that i probably would but i was very clear that if we were to do that then i would want to spend more time with ‘him’ first. i just know i would probably freak out and be an idiot not knowing what to say and it just kinda doesnt seem fair on him after he felt he could trust me -esp after so little time… so yeah, i am gonna take things slowly i am going to try very hard not to rush things but i am just basically not a patient person lol so might be tricky lol.
  hehe is it bad that im still feeling excited about this???
  not really about ‘her’ but about him…maybe its just because i liked him so long…
  
  could you tell me a bit more about that father thing srnity blu??? quite interested as older men are kinda my forte lol, he is not the first to be honest… do you think i should worry about it???
  
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  - written 6 months ago

• i have got a bit of a confusing situation going on…
  

  thank you :)
  - written 6 months ago

• i have got a bit of a confusing situation going on…
  

  im not meaning to be close minded i just wanted advice on what i should do as i dont (think) i know anyone else who does it. and its not me who thinks he’s hiding more…
  i think we are both being honest with each other which is why i wanted some outside perspective on whats going on…not people to start slagging him off, i really care about him, i even loved him at school i think… things like that dont change just because someone tells you something “out of the norm”. i just needed help to understand like, i dunno, “stuff” lol.
  - written 6 months ago

• i have got a bit of a confusing situation going on…
  

  i dont know really, just that he said he wasnt. and i feel like that if he trusted me with telling me he is a transvestite then i think he would have told me anything else when i asked him..
  - written 6 months ago

• my mum suffers from depression and i have taken over everything including looking after my disabled brother and sister.
  

  i think i know how you feel or at least have an idea because it all sounds so similar to me.
  my mum and brother are autistic and my mum often suffers from depression because of the stress of living with autism with people not understanding it and her not being able to get the help she needs. so now i have power of attourney over her affairs, which basically means i am meant to do things like sorting out her benefits and making sure things that need to be done are done.
  which is really hard as i dont know how!!
  im finding it reeeeally stressfull at the moment as i am at college and trying to do well at it and coping with our home issues and with college deadlines is very hard to manage it all.
  
  im gettin some help from various people but it seems like noone really understands what we need as a family and what my mum needs so its all taking a very long time to get sorted out.
  do you go to college or anything? if you could find someone there to talk about whats going on at home that can be a big relief sometimes just to have a moan about everything. or maybe counselling??? i dont know much about that though im just saying when ur in a situation like this i think its really really important for you not to feel alone, because if you do then ur less able to help your mum and brother and sister, and if thats what your gonna do then you need to be able to give it a 100% or ur just gonna beat urself up over it. you need to be strong in yourself and dont forget to look after yourself.
  i agree you should tell your new guy at least some of whats going on for you, if he understands why sometimes you cant go out or whatever he’ll be able to be more understanding and hopefully give you support even in just listening or whatever you need from him. but i could understand if you didnt want to i hate telling people whats going on at home i just find it really hard. esp if its a new guy and u want to make a good impression, but ive learnt that the truth is usually the best good impression you can give in the long term.
  i dont know about how you could help your mum get better seems to me like she is needing to get better in her own time, but in the meantime maybe you need to have some time out. have you got any family you could visit as family? or maybe your brother and sister could go and so you and your mum would have a bit of time to just talk and try and see how things are going.
  i know its really hard situation but u need to make sure your mum knows how you are feeling or if one day you suddenly just cant cope anymore it would probably be even more difficult for her, at least if u tlk she has an idea of what your feeling now.
  
  but i want to say well done to you i have an idea of what your having to do and i respect you for doing it alot, especially as it must be so hard to see your mum down all the time.
  im sorry this is really long im quite tired but saw this and really wanted to say something to you, so just well done and keep strong, and i hope things get better for you really soon. x
  - written 6 months ago

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