davecastro's profile at Help.com

User Involvement

Last 4 Replies – All 4 replies »

• omfg help me please, im in need of serious advice.
  

  We’ll your situation is very understandable and what you’re feeling is a very normal psychological reaction of people in your situation. First you have to find out if he really loves you regardless of what you’ve done or been doing. I mean two (2) things there: 1st he keeps saying he loves you coz he enjoys what you are doing and he thinks you were an easy get and he knows he’s your first time and you’re a very quick, easy and nice past time. 2nd he really thinks and feels he loves you for the same reasons (losing your virginity to him and genuinely enjoying what you’ve been doing).
  
  Now here’s the easy way to extinguihsed all the guilt, remorse, anxiety and uncertainty in you. Abruptly or gradually divert from or stop what you’ve been doing to him. Call him at unexpected times or when he’s bz and tell him you’re a little bit depressed or sad and just want to have somebody to talk to.If he makes an effort to come to you and comfort you or if he’s excuses are genuine, those are good signs. Show a little self-importance, a little hard to get, and don’t demand sex. And then study his reactions for your sudden change of behaviour. Wait for him to ask why and try to extract from him what he feels about the past and the present. Look into his eyes when he speaks. His eyes and body language will tell you how sincere and true he is especially on how he regards you.
  
  If you find out he’s a fake, you have to be prepared for it and be strong and firm to cut the relationship soonest (There’ll be lots of deserving guys out there). Remember even if he turns out to be true to you, at that young age of the both of you, feelings change. However, make sure that if ever you part ways in the future, your self respect and dignity remain intact. That’s what counts the most.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Hi Im a women in my forties with a loving husband and
  

  I admire your coz “You did the right thing!” Your dad is a pervert. Either or both of your daughters might suffer the same faith if you do that. That’s also to show your dad and let him feel the preversity he did to you. Tell him also to stop telling people do you don’t let your daughters visit them or stay the night in their house. Don’t think of what people say about your actions. Even without their knowing, people will instinctively understand. Your only problem is how to explain to your daughters. I don’t have the answer to that right now except that if you still really hate your dad (you dint mention if he ever ask forgiveness from you or if he is a changed man) and you still don’t trust him. You can tell your daughters (if they ask why) that your dad’s mean and is not to be trusted and that you will explain it to them when they reach the right age.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I am getting married in a month and i have always likes
  

  I can advise you two things:
  
  First, it is normal to feel guilty about having done it because you grew up with the knowledge that it is wrong and maybe sinful (despite maybe the truth that you enjoyed it). Well, if you still feel so remorseful about it, then tell your fiance what feel about it and that you don’t like it to happen again. Do it before you’re married coz am quite sure that your husband to-be will be asking you to do it again. He likes it coz it involves two women, but will he like it when it will be a threesome of two men and a woman? I doubt it?
  
  Second, maybe you really like it and you’re just guilty because you think its not normal or its perverse and you’re ashamed to let other people learn about it. We’ll when you do it more often, the guilt gradually disappears and by getting used to it, you’ll feel it is a normal behavior. But getting used to it also may lead you to doing it with more third mates. Again ask him if he also likes the both of you doing it with other men. If so then go for it. You may be into a happy married and sex life.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• I am inlove with my bestfriend (guy).
  

  It’s not the end of the world you know. There’s always sunlight after the rain. The right guy hasn’t crossed your way yet. Be patient, you’re just 31 and there a lot of guys out there who are more interested in women your age. Continue going out with other men. You know like what Jose Feliciano says in his song “Love come from the most unexpected places”. So, if you expect so much from something it almost always doesn’t turn out right but if you just live your life one day at a time and don’t expect too much from it,who knows it might be it. Think of your past failures as a blessing in desguise.
  
  So long. Thanks for listening.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

davecastro's conversations are tagged:

sex, Love, marriage, woman, deppresion, guy, met, Condom, Date, Prostitution, Love Him, List of Internet slang phrases, told, Boy, Oral Sex, This Boy, Note, Month, Day, man, friends, infant, Family, recreation, abuse