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• Hey everybody, Girlfriend cheated..
  

  Unfortuantely, your in an impossible situation. No matter what choice you make it feels wrong. Do you leave this girl your in love, that you have most likely anticipated in your future, or do you go on having her there physically but always wondering what’s going on in the back of her head, and what’s happening when she’s not with you.
  You can ask her to cut off contact with this guy, she might even do it. How long will it be before you quit wondering and worrying? And if she cuts off contact with this guy whos to say there won’t be another.
  If your still questioning it, you might not be ready to move on. However, these problems and worries probably won’t go away either.
  Nothing can be said to make the situation any eaiser to make, or hurt any less once you do.
  The only advice I can give is stay strong and true to yourself. Take the time, alone, to sort out your feelings, beleifs, and what you want out of a partner. Unfortunately, sometimes the right decisions are the hardest ones to make.
  Hang in there and good luck.
  - written 6 months ago

• okay… this is kinda long but i do need advise.
  

  I am in a very similar situation myself. I have now been with my boyfriend for about a year, he has a daughter with another woman. She is crazy. Probably always will be. I have been punched, and harassed not only through the phone and text message, but also where I work. I finally had to go to the police. I will say things have gotten better and over time she has calmed down, but I do know she will always be an intrusive person in our lives.
  You have to belive that over time she will become more mature and realize these actions are not affecting her child in a positive way, and hopefully, eventually it will become more about the child’s well being, than trying to destroy your relationship.
  At the same time you have to also realize that it will probably never go away completely. If you do choose to continue this relationship she will be in your life forever!! You just have to weigh it out on your own from there.
  - written 6 months ago

• I don’t know what to do about my fiancee.
  

  First of all, I have all the respect in the world for you. Raising two children isn’t easy let alone all of the other stresses you have affecting you. The fact that you can hold it together on a daily basis for your kid’s sake shows that you are a strong woman.
  And you’re right. Your children always need to come first in your life. I know that you are afraid on what they will miss out on if their father is no longer a daily part of their lives, but just think of all of the things that they may be involuntarily exposed to (drug abuse, alcohol, etc.) if you do allow him to continue this behavior and be around your children. Also, I know that they are still very very young but they can feel the stress and tension, just maybe in a different way than you do. It just doesn’t seem like the ideal environment to bring up your kids.
  Also, it is always important for you to continue to seek happiness in your life. You do not sound happy. If this is a man you intend on marrying you should not have to censor your feeling and concerns in fear of outlash. If you do truly love this man then offer to help him through his problems. Be a support system, and strong when he needs you to be (maybe even when he can’t be for himself.)
  What it comes down to is do you want to live the rest of your life like this? If not, make moves. All you can do is offer your help and support, you can’t force him to take it. Sometimes tough love is the best kind. The longer you wait, the harder it will beome
  - written 6 months ago

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