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• What’s worse? posted (1 month) ago
  According to ABC News, an “inappropriate relationship” with a woman employee was behind the…

• A question for those who work in human resources: posted (1 month, 1 week) ago
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• Stopping pink slime . posted (1 month, 1 week) ago
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• (10 votes) After making a post on Help.com I’ve told my
  

  If we took a vote, I’m sure that over 99 percent of the respondents would say that a 23-year-old teacher should not be having sex with one of his 14-year-old female students.
  
  It would be bad enough if he were a non-teacher who just lived next door. But he was her teacher, and he was expected uphold certain moral principles, and to obey the law.
  
  Fourteen-year-old girls and boys cannot sign contracts. They cannot vote. They cannot buy booze or cigarettes. They cannot legally consent to sex in all but the most redneck jurisdictions, because society knows that 14-year-olds just do NOT have the maturity, knowledge, and experience to make an informed decision about sex.
  
  And if you took a vote among just PARENTS, you’d get a virtual 100 percent agreement that sex between teachers and students was dead wrong–and should be punished. We don’t send our kids to school to have them initiated into sex by a teacher. We expect the teachers to watch out for them. We expect the teachers to resist even the MOST DETERMINED attempts at “seduction.”
  
  Think about it: you have kids coming of age, their hormones raging, and there are young men and women put in charge of them . . . and naturally these kids are going to develop crushes on and affections for a number of these teachers. Do we grant the teachers a “pass” because a kid came onto them? Of course not! The kids really don’t know what they are doing–but the adults do.
  
  Teachers, doctors, pastors and members of other professions all KNOW that certain people are going to be mesmerized by them and will want to have sex with them. The good ones know how to handle these crushes–the immoral ones take advantage of those who admire and adore them.
  
  This teacher needs to go. He has proved that he cannot be trusted. A romp in the hay with a female student means more to him than his professional ethics and observance of the law. No, the law is not perfect–but it was enacted for situations just like this. If there is no penalty for violating the trust of others, then you will get the behavior that you tolerate. It’s that simple.
  
  You have to ask yourself why this teacher was focused on teeny-boppers. He obviously didn’t impress women of his own age. He may have had some girlfriends, but they obviously dropped him in short order. So he turned his attention to females that he could overawe and impress–girls who had just entered puberty.
  
  No, he’s not a “nice man” and he’s far from being an innocent player. Left in the school system, he’s going to play a big part in ruining some young women’s lives–just like a pedophile priest left in the church will continue to abuse young boys.
  
  Evil succeeds when good men–or good women–do nothing.
  
  - written 1 month, 1 week ago – voted for by Mariam*, Lawn, mills, ~CaraMia~

• (6 votes) Why is americans keeping quite when nigerian christians from the south are facing extermination plan by the northernans?
  

  IF . . . one Sunday morning all of the pastors and priests got up in their pulpits and passed out paper, pen and envelopes, and asked them to write a letter to their Congressional representative (address supplied), and to complain about how Christians were persecuted in the Communist and Islamic countries, and to demand sanctions against those countries that practiced religious persecution–we would see positive results almost overnight.
  
  Every other nation wants trade with or aid from the West . . . if we leveraged our economic power to make human rights the centerpiece of all trade or aid agreements, we’d get the results we wanted.
  
  But, instead, we hand $9 billion to Pakistan, without saying A WORD about the 55 - 60 Christians currently imprisoned on blasphemy charges (against Islam or the Prophet Muhammad).
  
  Right now all aid and trade negotiations are dominated by (1) business and (2) security interests, and human rights isn’t even on the table any more.
  
  If the churches would WAKE UP and stop being so apathetic and complacent, we could see real progress where religious freedom in other countries is concerned. But the churches are asleep . . . and that’s the problem!
  
  - written 10 months ago – voted for by beatricegalant, ❤♡♡❤, Pepper Jelly, Dr. Jackson, Lawn

• (6 votes) .
  

  It’s not the end of your world, Lilies. Your world is filled with infinite possibilities.
  
  Perhaps . . . perhaps you have been looking in the wrong places for fulfillment.
  
  First, look inward, and know that ultimate happiness comes from within. Then, look without and see what and who is out there who compliments you, who is strong where you are weak, and weak where you are strong. Remember that you can expect to find only another human being, however, who necessarily harbors human frailties. Do not expect to find a messiah, but only a man.
  
  That said, you should settle for only a good man, a man whom you can trust and rely upon. They are out there, Lilies.
  
  And as for life’s other disappointments, we can seek only to overcome them and become better people for it. Know, however, that material success does not determine your worth as a human being. The richest person is not the one who has the most, but who needs the least.
  
  Lastly, do not try to force the Hand of God. He has something very special in store for you . . . and it sometimes takes us many earthly disappointments before we open our eyes to a treasure that is right in front of us!
  
  There . . . just tweaked your cheek! How do you feel now! ;-)
  
  - written 3 years ago – voted for by Sans, ❤♡♡❤, okei!

• (5 votes) How do I convince my parents to let me and my girlfriend see each other in the nude?
  

  Go ahead and ask your girlfriend’s dad. And then see if you can make it out of the house before he neuters you.
  
  - written 3 years, 6 months ago – voted for by ~~EdieAnne~~, Godfather, Commander Ikari, Atym, 9mmWolf

• (4 votes) ….
  

  I hope not to offend, but most of the people who have left Christianity have been Catholics. And I think that if I were Catholic, and there were no alternative, I’d be very much against Christianity. Again, I hope not to offend, but I feel that this issue should be addressed head-on: when a church is all about following rules and regulations, and it has forgotten about love and grace, then that church is not about Christianity–it is about Christianity.
  
  As for Christianity itself, I think you only need to take a good look around you and see that mankind–for all of his vaulted achievements–is losing ground. Signs of decline are everywhere. Most people today worship the god of materialism and wealth. Although mankind has the power to change things–things don’t get changed. The poor get poorer and the rich get richer.
  
  Nearly 2,000 years ago eleven men had lost their direction. Their leader–their rabbi–had been crucified, and they were afraid that they would be hunted down next. But Christ first appeared to Mary Magdalene and then came through a solid wooden door to appear to the Apostles themselves. All but one of the Apostles died as a martyr, and they wouldn’t have done that if their “rabbi” had not returned to them from the dead. These men weren’t fanatics–they were just ordinary men who scattered like lemmings when their leader was crucified. It took an event like the Resurrection for them to go out into the world and die a similar death.
  
  But no one attains a relationship with God as the result of philosophical arguments or scientific experiments. Each of us must embark upon his or her own Road to Damascus and be receptive to God’s message.
  
  God must be approached with reverence and humility. If you are so full of yourself that you cannot imagine a superior Being, then you won’t find God. All you will find is others who are also full of themselves.
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by cham, ~AGAPE~

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• How do you deal with being dumped and finding out that he cheated on you?
  

  It happens thousands of times a day. I’m sorry it happened to you. It happened to me and I ended up parenting a four-year-old son all by myself. It’s good that you have no children together.
  
  There were warning signs–red flags–but you were too much in love to notice. Look more closely next time, and trust your gut. Before the breakup, your gut told you that this guy was a bum, but you didn’t heed the message. Heed it the next time your gut tells you a guy is a jerk!
  - written 8 hours, 58 minutes ago

• I put on a happy face and play the role of the optimist when really I’m quite depressed.
  

  You really need to go to one of those super specialty clinics. The GEs in your area have reached the end of their knowledge and expertise. Now they’ve reached the end of their experimenting and they’re stumped due to their lack of knowledge.
  
  I’m betting that the doctors at some of those specialty clinics have seen your exact symptoms before, and that they have also developed treatment regimens that work.
  
  Seek out a clinic, and make plans to get to it! I truly believe that relief will be provided once you see the right doctor!
  - written 9 hours, 3 minutes ago

• My GF is acting suspicious!
  

  This woman isn’t for you. She is still carrying a torch for the father of her little girl. I recommend that you butt out. If you continue, you will only experience heartache and heartbreak. Let the two of them get back together if they can. Tell her you wish her the best and then exit her life for good.
  - written 9 hours, 10 minutes ago

• how should i have dealt with this situation?
  

  Offhand, I’d say that you and your boyfriend don’t handle conflict very well.
  
  First of all, he came to welcome you home, but you sound like you bit off his head. He thought that meant that you didn’t value him, so he insulted you to salve his wounded pride.
  
  You overreacted by going out to find a guy, which was like pouring gasoline on the fire. In case you don’t know it by now, that kind of “solution” to a problem will destroy your relationship.
  
  I’d say that about 90 percent of the fault here is yours, and you need to apologize and do some “damage control.” Your boyfriend should also apologize for insulting you.
  
  You also need to ask yourself if you’re the kind of person who takes out things on other people. If so, you need to do some introspection and reject that behavior in the future!
  - written 9 hours, 17 minutes ago

• Husband left me after 25 years of marriage Ive mostly been a housewife and working casual jobs.
  

  What happened in your marriage?
  - written 9 hours, 23 minutes ago

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