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Ahhhh… This is such refreshing news. Such a weight has been lifted! I always thought you had to resolve the past to fix the future and I was feeling guilty about not wanting to go back. I now feel like I can move forward and the ice isn’t so thin anymore! Thank you chev… AGAIN! I am more relaxed now and am reenergized! Now I just need him to get home!

Ok chev. So even though I don’t FEEL the love I should ACT the Love that I hope to feel again. I feel guilty about acting with out the feelings but I’ve been told the feelings will eventually come back.(It seems I am being deceptive or dishonest in the acting)I guess that’s what you are trying to tell me too. We do have a date planned for next weekend. I’ll keep plugging along… Thanks Chev for the encouragement. btw, I found a phsycotherapist but I think she needs her own phsycotherapist. Back to searching. I was thinking about asking my husband if I could go to the couselor with him. I don’t know if that’s a good idea. I kind of think marriage counciling would not help at this point. It’ll bring up hurtful feelings from the past and I want to move forward. You and Bea have said that I don’t have to talk about everything and I like that idea at least for now. Let me know what you think.

Hi Chev. I hope you are doing well. Things are civil between my husband and me. I really want that pilot light lit but it hasn’t yet lit. A bit depressing. I am continuing to being respectful. I am trying not to be critical but I haven’t been doing well in the complimenting. I don’t feel the love that I wish I could feel. I keep hoping someday that will return. Do you think it will? I’m a bit depressed because things aren’t moving forward yet they aren’t moving backwards either I guess.

I have often really liked your replies Chev.jame… but this one: http://help.com/post/202108-my-husban… is AWESOME… simply AWESOME. It was how part of me was feeling but you said it SOOOOO very well! Thank you.

I have mailed you in response to the mail you sent me today. I also asked you for your guidance on personal matter. I hope you have the time.

Thanks.

Chev, i will ask for your advice. Would you be able to give time for me?

Hey Chev…
yesterday I thought I’d do myself a favor by going out.
It wasn’t a date it was business… he resigned from the company and since I am the finance person, I needed to prepare documents for his last pay check.
Later that day we were joined by his friend whom i’ve met for the first time yesterday… i asked his friend from which company was he connected to only to find out he is the boss of my ex-fiance’s sister.
OMG!!! small world or am I being punished or tortured?!!!

WHY?!!! I am already having a hard time forgetting him as it is… but to throw reminders to me like that?!!!
What have I done so wrong to deserve this?!!!

i’ve been bad to myself.
i called he ducked all my calls.
he ates me..
which is probably good so we bth could move away from the vicious cycle

Hi Chev. It’s almost 7:30am in Canada… You said keep off the phone… I’m thinking about what you’ve said… hope i have enough discipline not to do the usual roitone of waking him up.

Please pray for me.
I thank God I found you.

i wanted to say thank you….its been 5 months and about a month ago they caught the guy and i told my friends parents and they were greatful that i told them and i got counseling and im starting my life over again and its all because of you…..thank you so much i really appreciate it i couldnt have done it without you!

I agree;)

The war on terrorism has created the fear necessary to remove more of the “enshrined” rights. 4% fought the first, only 1% is informed of the reality of the situation of this day.

Jame can you jump back in on this thread, the guy wants to take that minor away on vacation, he has to be stopped, I fear the worst .

chev.jame:)

Excellent videos.

I know I will. Sounds odd but I had this realisation on Tuesday, that I am okay and its him who’s not. In fact I think he is mentally ill. I do wright in my diary and I have found it has helped. Helping people on here has helped to.

A student came to me yesterday and told me about how is girlfriend is dying of cancer. He is going to ask his parents for permission to marry her even though they have denied it 3 times already. He was very positive and it really did put it all of it into prespective for me.

lol bit of an old kid, but thanks hon means a lot :D

Thank you for commenting on those posts jame, I value your input, your an inspiration on this site. :-)

http://help.com/post/198647-im-killin…

Jame can you put some of your wisdom on this post, thanks hon. :-)

Thanks Chev :)

lol thanks, you have really helped ill go to my gym soon :p thanks x

Sounds nice Chev! Hope the skies clear up for you soon!

do you have to be like rea;lly fit? i have a year now if im gonna do it so i need to know wether to get a gym membership…

Love to hear from you again Chev! Your opinions are valued! (From many I’m sure!)

Hi, im Daniella, I was thinking of joining the army as a juniour officer. Would you reccoomend it… i mean, is it a good life as they say it is?
thanks

Thanks Chev.jame :)
Have a good weekend

Thanks, it’s a pleasure to count you amongst my comrades and cohorts!

Hiya Chev.Jame! Mind if I add you as a friend? Hope all is well with you and yours :)

Mine connection is hanging a lot today as well, maybe it’s all that new advertising and tracking they are putting into place, ha, ha, ho, ho, oops:(

Did you fall asleep on your shout it key:)?

We have crossed replies from time to time and I have always enjoyed the pleasure:)

chev.

I just wanted to tell you that you give excellent, clear, and precise advices.

I love my Berkeley. Orange cats are the best and brightest!! :)

Thanks chev.jame, im glad someone listened to me. Sorry it took so long for me to respond, I needed some time to clear my head and finish some work.

Some great replies for amandalynn chev, nicely done.

hey, u write really good answers to post and wonderin if u could help me with my recent one. id be very grateful, thanks!

Umm chev.jame, I wanted to ask you a question. I have been reading the recent posts and they usually have something to do with people not believing in god. Can you tell me why do people think like this? I wanted to ask you because you seem to know alot about these things and seem to be the most reliable.

Hey Chev.jame
Thanks for the open mind! good job
Libragirl12
:)

What should i say to my mum when she calls into my shop with my card? Should i let her know how i feel because i have before only for it to fall on deaf ears.

Chev, I just wanted to let you know I listened to my husband last night and I did not get angry like usual or acusitive etc. I called him back later and left him a message that I loved him. He called me this morning and left me a message (we keep missing each other)saying how he was so happy that he got to tell me his honest feelings. He said that he wanted to hug me and take me to bed… I’m still a little nervous about seeing him later and know there is so much more work to do but his call has really lifted my spirits. Gotta go. Talk to you soon!

Chev, I just have to tell you that I love your replies to guiltybrat. You have such a wonderful in-depth understanding of marriage and what both partners need.
I wish all men were as insightful as you!

Chev, I talked to my husband tonight for a short time… he’s still working and couldn’t talk long. I did not tell him I love hime but I did not get mad at him. I asked him why he wanted to stay in the marriage. I felt it important to know if he was only staying for the kids. He said he wants a good relationship, he wants us to be happy. He doesn’t know if he can love me though the way I want him to love me.. There is more but I don’t know if you have time.

Chev, are you around? I wouldn’t mind hearing from you. I will be waiting to hear from you in my post. I have shouted to Cham also.

Thank you. I will try to be careful.

I have been thinking about what you said about getting down on bended knee… I have tried that sort of thing like I had mentioned in my post and there was not much reciprication. I am afraid he’ll enjoy it but I won’t get anything in return. Let me know any comments you have on this when you get a chance please.

I am back for a short time. I would love to hear more from you…

oh LOL nevermind!

Let me correct that - we need a WISE man’s perspective…that means YOU. :P

Can you please come back to Guiltybrat’s post? We need a man’s perspective. http://help.com/post/187662-my-husban…

I would realy like to hear from you again. It’s nice to hear from a mans point of view and I like your honesty.

Moving while take a little while,
but I’ve got people I can go to who can back me up.
I hope you also (are going to)live the life you always wanted.

greetings to your wife :)
I’ll be off now,
byebyes