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Hi,
You replied to a post that I posted about two months ago about post partum depression. My husband has been very sick so I havent had a chance to write back and I am sorry. As far a therapy, they helped me to just deal with the fact that I was not supermom. Also to deal with the sexual abuse I suffered at the hands of my father. Hince, the post partum. They basically told me that its a never ending cycle. Either you go for medication or just talk…I have found that talking things out with someone who will not judge you helps A LOT. If I can help you in anyway please feel free to write me.

no I had depression before I got pregnant…but I was able to control it without medication. When the ob found out I was pregnant he insisted that I be put on med’s so that I WOULDN”T get post partum….. so know Im still depressed and on meds…I feel like if they would have never put me on meds that I would have been fine….just my way of thinking

I think that you shouldn’t worry about this boy…as the saying goes boys ill be boys. But why dont you get to see your family? I understand about the friends thing also. 13 year old girls can be harsh. You need to find some better friends, people who like you for who you are not what you can do or give. Yes these friends may not be the best looking, but they will stick by your side if you stay true to them.

I know that in my town, The United Way funds counseling for adults….everything is based on your income. Probably the best way to find something similar is to go to the yellow pages online and type in Charity Counseling as your key word. I hope that this helps.

I completely agree…it seems as if we are all waiting for the bomb to go off….and Im the one that is going to have to pick up the pieces

I really want to thank all of you for all the help you have given me…I was kinda at my whits end.

We always used Jiffy….because its sweet and moist anyways

cornbread and milk….my grandmother and I used to pour a glass of milk about half full and put cornbread into eat…let it get soggy and eat it out with a spoon…..and yes I am from the SOUTH….lol

I think that the best thing that you can do is to stand strong by your sister and let her know that she is not alone in this fight. Rape is a very scary thing and noone expects it to happen to them or a loved one…but it does…and its hard on everyone concerned. Your siser is probably going through PDSD and some counseling or therapy may help. You can also seek help in the same form. Because you too are a victim. I hope that this helps you.

There has to be a problem somewhere. Maybe not enough sex or things arent exiting enough….SPICE IT UP!!!!

Dragon Lady…you re completely right….I honestly didnt think about it this way. But it does ultimately come down to him our the children…..and for me thats an obvious choice….but as for my niece, my brother knows everything and still lets her stay there….they even had custody of her when shes was 6….and I have asked him and asked him…but he thinks that it was something that the old daddy would do not the new daddy….and let me point out that this is my brothers step father too. I can only pray for them,….my words seem to go unanswered

I will have to look up that post

The reason that I didnt say anything until I was 14 was because I honestly thought that thats what daddys do….I felt really stupid for not knowingand think that the best way to prevent this type of thing from happening again is to educate our children about it

I understand what you are all saying…I’m going to have to stop letting her go over there unless I am with her…tank you all for your help

[quote babacup]I was molested too. And you know how hard it is to get out of that situation. They take your power away. He could easily do that to the 12yr old.[/quote]

She has been told repeatedly to tell us if anything happens….I can only hope that she does not have to go through the same things that I did