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[quote daniellanavarro10]yeah it does my boyfriend cheated on me for my bestfriend[/quote]

A lot of guys want to have their cake and eat it too. It doesn’t seem to matter what you say or do, they will deny it until they die. It’s likely because they are embarrassed for getting caught.

I wish I knew. It sucks.

I liked the redhead lady. She looked like she was posing for a photo shoot on crack. The #1 mugshot was pretty awesome too.

I do that daily. I think I have so much on my mind all the time that I don’t pay attention to these things. :P

i have 2 of each

I hope you can work out your differences and that he will soon realize that the way he has been acting is not the respectful way to treat his wife. Like I said, he is not likely to change his ways until he decides he wants to. Hopefully this will happen sooner rather than later. It is entirely possible that he has some anger issues with his mother that have translated to issues with women in general and you are getting the brunt of it. Either way, it’s not fair to you. The sooner he recognizes this, the better off you will both be. Sometimes people don’t realize how good they have it until it’s gone, but I sincerely hope it doesn’t have to come to that. Best wishes, hang in there!

[quote Anonymous][quote babacup]What was she doing that was causing you to go to bed crying?[/quote]

She would constantly yell at me for not doing the simlpest things right, she would always complain about how my half sister[her step daughter] was ruining her life. She would constantly threaten to leave us. im not going into it much more, i dont really want to remeber all of it.

And trying to forget that is very hard, someone who gets raped NEVER forgets it. Just like i will never be able to forget this. So dont say forgive and forget, thats all i hear, thats one of the things that my mother was told to do and she just got deeper in deppresion.[/quote]

Yes, but it is possible to forgive without forgetting. Trust me, she is likely feeling guilty about the way she has treated you and wants to make it right. It would be to your benefit to at least be willing to try it. If it doesn’t impress you after you have tried, then you can go on with your life feeling the way you feel now. The ball is in your court. You don’t sound to be very happy and wouldn’t you like to be happy?

You seem to have some legitimate anger issues with your mom. I had these also at your age and I can tell you it gets better as you get older. You felt hurt by things she has done or said, you felt she neglected you. But the sooner you are willing to give her a chance to make up for it, the better it will be for both of you. It sounds like she really is trying to improve the relationship you have together, so why not at least give it a try?

[quote fwkerwbkf]well we are best friends. I’m actually not that upset about it. Because even through this we are still that way.[/quote]

That’s a great attitude. I am glad you are feeling okay about it.

Aww, I am sorry. Well, at least she responded and didn’t leave you hanging.

i see. youre welcome.

i love your avatar.

I am alive and responsive. Ask away.

You never know what she will say… Maybe she is trying to think of the perfect thing to tell you. Don’t assume that it is bad news. I totally know how you feel though. That would drive me batty knowing that it was read but getting no response. Think happy thoughts. Get away from the computer. Get your mind on something else and check it again later. :)

With a man like that, with all of the lies he has told you, he should be willing and able to do whatever he has to do to regain the trust you have lost for him over the years. It is disturbing to me that you have caught him being (at least emotionally) unfaithful and deceptive yet he doesn’t seem to want to validate your resulting feelings of insecurity or take responsibility for what he has done.

I have known men much like you describe your husband. In my experience, people like him don’t change unless they want to. I think you would benefit from marriage counseling and I wish you could afford to go. A counselor might be able to help him see just how wrong he has been and figure out even what his motivations are for lying the way he does.

His saying that you treat him like a child is not totally incorrect… but it is because he ACTS like one. Have you ever put it to him that way? If he wants respect from you, he has to give it. He is not respecting you by lying; he is doing the opposite and he is being very selfish. I truly hope you can find some resolve to this- it doesn’t sound like a good situation or basis for a marriage.