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• I’m not sure about my boyfriend anymore… posted (10 months, 4 weeks) ago
  So I’m 17 years old and my boyfriend is 21. We met through my older sister and we immediately …

• I need some advice on my potential beau… posted (1 year) ago
  Hello, I’m a 16 year old girl (turning 17 in 2 weeks) and my potential boyfriend is 21 years …

• I’m having some trouble with friends… posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  Well, recently I went to a friends party and got ridiculously drunk. So drunk that I got violent wi…

• I urgently need help, my happiness depends on it! posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  first of all, thankyou so much for reading this post I really appreciate it! Now down to my proble…

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• (1 vote) i don’t get myself anymore…..
  

  Hello! =)
  
  By the sounds of it, you are going through a rough time, and I empathise with your situation. But, even after reading this, I think you are a really cool person =) You are obviously very brave, and although I have never cut myself, nor do I intend to it is good of you that you have stopped. =)
  As for not knowing who you are, remember you are still young, and many people take years to figure out who they are. I know what it’s like to grow up and be confused about the things around me. I am also a teenager and am only a year older than you, but you have to remember that when we grow up we get all mixed emotions due to hormones etc.
  When I get upset or feel sad I sing/play music/draw/or meditate (I do kung fu) and it makes me feel better. It’s great that you do art and use it as an escape but try not to over anylise everything you do, this will bring your creative flow back. Try not to worry and stress over small details. If you do this you will get back to loving your art and your life again. Our teen years aren’t for worrying or being stressed. Sure, we are going to get hurt here and there with the odd boyfriend, stressful exams and annoying parents, but we all should be partying and enjoying our younger years while we still have them =)
  Try looking at life from a different perspective (like they teach you in Bhuddism) and think of the positive things in your life. Also instead of cutting, I suggest taking up some form of martial art or Tai Chi to allow you to release your anger and emotions. Trust me, it works everytime. =)
  
  Good luck and all the best for your future, you have a bright future ahead of you with lots of possibilities and amazing new people to meet =)
  
  Hope this helped.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by Ditzy

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• Help!
  

  Sometimes we have to get lost to find ourselves. Give it time, and you will learn to love again. Somebody unexpected will come into your life that will change your perspectives and your feelings towards love. Somebody will eventually knock down those barriers that you have put up to keep the pain out. Just look after yourself before anyone else and take your time with new relationships. Don’t rush into things, or your confidence may be shattered again.
  - written 1 year ago

• I lied about my age, please help!
  

  Ohhh dear :( I’m in exactly the same situation as you…I don’t know what to say to him or how to tell him that I lied. I really have strong feelings for the man…Just tell the truth, and hope that if he cares about you as much as he said he did, he will forgive you. If you’re going to be 17 anyway, it shouldn’t be too much of a problem, right?
  - written 1 year ago

• I have been battling with the fact that im fat.
  

  Since you use food as an escape from depression, you should take up some sort of physical exercise. Exercise not only will help you shift unwanted weight, but makes you feel good about yourself and releases a hormones called endorphins that make you happy. I suggest that you take up a martial art, because it gives you self-dicipline and will power (to help you stay away from food), it is a mojor confidence boost and will tone up your body in a fun and exciting way. It is also great to know that you can defend yourself. Try to take up a martial art that also encompasses Tai Chi or Qui Gong, which are breathing exercises that help you calm yourself and stop depression. I practise the martial art of Shaolin Kung fu, maybe you should look into it :)
  
  As for your diet, just try to cut back on crisps, chocolate and fatty foods and eat moderate portions of well-balanced meals. This will help you lose weight in a healthy way rather than using crash diets or starving yourself, as these can really harm your body.
  
  Good luck!
  - written 1 year ago

• I’m having some trouble with friends…
  

  I’ve always been known as the ‘crazy party animal’, so most people know what I’m like anyway. I just feel guilty for being violent for no reason really :| But I know it won’t happen again and it makes me feel better that I can make up for it at the next party :D
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I Dont Want To Have My Abortion….
  

  Has anybody actually forgotten that we are talking about a persons life here? Don’t get me wrong if someone felt they could not cope with pregnancy then I would support an abortion but I think some people are being too casual with the fact that you could be throwing away a tiny little life! :( If you think you couldn’t cope with a baby at your age or you are concerned about what your family think, then put it up for adoption rather than having an abortion. Don’t forget, abortions can affect your ability to have children in the future and it can also emotionally scar you since most mothers grow very attached to the unseen child. If you and your boyfriend are in a stab;e relationship, and you really want to have this baby then I see no reason why you shouldn’t. You’re 18 now, and have control over your own life so sometimes it’s okay not to respect your families wishes. Try to remember that your happiness comes first, and that eventually they would warm up to a new grandchild in the family. Chances are they are just worried about your education, thinking that having a child at your age would be a burden and would stop you reaising your potential. But even if you can or can’t keep it, I suggest you still go through childbirth. Unless of course you don’t think you would be able to cope with pregnancy or the child would have a horrible quality of life.
  
  Good luck to you :) I wish you the very best.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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