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hun you ain’t ugly. the world can be, but dont let that taint you. if you see some thing as ugly and dissapointing then it is up to you to get out there and make it beautiful and forfilling (sorry spelling is awful!!!). so get out there tiger

i know how it feels to be depressed. i know how it feels to feel like you are trapped in a bad situation, but you dont know what around the corner (i know its cliche). i used to cut to and i know how it helps and how hard it is to stop. but you will fell better when you do. opening up to people and talking to them will help, trust me. i never used to talk to people because i didnt think i was important enough and it messed me up for a long time. i’ve not long got over that and im now trainning as a councilor. trust me you can do this. you have the stregth in you. and you will better for beating it. far stronger thatn some one who has never had to deal with it.

i agree….talk to her and explain that she stopped for a reason and that it will end up ruining her life or killing her…. i mean alot of people have the occasional smoke of some thing they shouldn’t, but as long as it recreational and not a habit its cool… but in the case of hard drugs like that, which are highly addictive and dangours then u should do every thing u can to stop

its possibale but forcing her to do so will not make her appriciate u in the long run… if she is ur best friend and if u realyl do love her, then u will learn in time that you are far more important as a friend to her as lovers come and go but friends….real friends are there for life… i have the same problem….exaclty the same… but ive realised this and now we are closer than ever…and then if anything does happen in the future, A its natural not forced, and B it will be worth wating for and C if not then u have a friend for life….good luck with everything

he is totally into u by the sounds of it… get talking to him and see if he wants to do some thing with u at the weekend or something

u should go to the doctors. if ur worried about being locked up u wont be. u have 2 options here. u can either lie and say u did it on some broken glass while u were washing up, or tell him the truth…. u wont get locked up for it but will start reciving professional help with ur problems

i know how u feel i really do….similar situation only the guy i like is not married…. i’ve decided that i have to let it go. try and realise that he is more important as a close friend. after all lovers come and go but freinds are there for life and if he is a decent bloke then he will always be there for u as a good friend, and if u want to keep him in ur life then that is the best way things can go. if any tihng more happenes let it be his desision.

male or female dear?

[quote mojgh]I agree with dazzle_p_. See, if you can find out what she is reading and make a nice comment about that. Is she younger or loder than you are?[/quote]

oooooooooh good plan…. i didnt think of that… thats an awsome idea

u may not be but i can understand ur concern.. my advice would be to get to the doctors and have a proper blood test done. they have less chance of being wrong than the store brought ones.

well my advice is to take a course that u love. if u love the course ur not going to get bored with it, and the course will lead onto a job that u love. i was in ur position a while ago, and now im trainning to be a mental health nurse and ive never been happier.
and as for the dating…. well… dont we all wish we knew eh? truth is u dont but its worth risking it with every one u feel deserves ur time

well dont try to hard.. you should know when its time to give up. writing a song shows her that u care enough to spend time on her. and obvs u will be writing words from your heart…. and a bit of advice on the song writing, write the lyrics and melody first, and the guitar can fit in around that
good luck

its hard to talk to some one u dont know especially when u are shy. but after u have made that first leap u will look back and wonder y it seemed so hard. just look for a good opening about something u know u can keep a convosation going with and u’ll be fine :)

personally im not into the whole getting a bf/gf online because i dont think u can really get to know someone that way… but each to their own. if u really want her back though do some thing really special for her… and tell her u realised ur mistake and u want to change for u her and tell her that u do appriecate her and want one more chance to make her feel special

thanx i can see ur point there…. i find it hard to do tihngs like that though as i would feel like im giving up on him and atm im the only person that he talks to… but i can defo see where ur coming fromand maybz pulling back will make him oull himself up a bit so he is easier to help