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Ahhh, thank you fellow Anime lovers! ^_^

Agreed phuckit!!! ^_^

Hmmm, I like Ghost Hunters and Scare Tactics. Guess I’m weird! ^_^ I also like all the Adult Swim Anime and of course, Family Guy and South Park.

Do you know who the naked woman is that he took the picture of? I mean, he had to be in really close proximity to this woman to do that and she had to be…well, either a sl*t or really like him to do that. There would also, at least in my opinion, need to be some privacy. I mean, they had to be in a house or bedroom…unless this was at Mardi Gras!!!

If you explained this previously, please forgive me…I’m in a rush…

Melissa

I understand. Of course it’s hard to know that he’s giving his attention to someone else that he used to give to you. But you just can’t change a person to the person they used to be or that you want them to be. That picture on his phone should be a source of strength for you. Even if he came begging for your forgiveness, I would seriously refuse! But that’s not to give you hope in that arena. It sounds like it’s over and since it is, hanging onto false hope is not healthy or allowing you to heal completely. Won’t it be nice for you when the day comes that you can hear a story about him and not be sad?! It will happen. I can actually listen to songs that remind me of my ex now! I can even look at pictures of him and our pictures of our trip to Japan together without being sad at all! In fact, I smile and just remember the fun we had, not that I miss him or anything!

You getting a house will be a great distraction and should be a very happy occassion for you! Don’t let him or this break-up ruin the joy this should bring you!

All my best!!!

Melissa

Here’s the thing…break-ups are hard…no matter what. You have time and feelings invested here. He apparently doesn’t. This you cannot change. Let me get this straight…he had a picture of some chick with her exposed breasts on his cell phone and refused to delete it…? Is that right???

PUH LEASE do not even consider giving this a**hole another chance. That is NO relationship for you. I understand it’s hard to let go, but this “guy” does not care about you or your feelings. To me, that is unforgivable and in just a lttle bit of time, you will be free and so much better off without this headache and heartache in your life. Try your hardest to know that you are worth it, your life and happiness are important!!! If you can make it two months…keep busy and train yourself not to let it overcome you, you are strong, then you will be in the clear!! Please try it!!! This just worked for me. Not to mention, there are some awesome people on this site who will help you through!!! Hang in there and know that time WILL help!!!

I wish you all the best!

Melissa

It was definitely more than you guys just saying the right things, you were there for me! I just can’t express how much that means to me and how much it helped me through! I guess because I’m older (turned 34 on May 20th) have had a lot of life experience and have my kids, I knew I had to try and overcome it. But, it was very painful and shocking and the prospect losing it was very scary. You guys were there for me, I had my own personal cheering section! What an honor!

Chev! Glad to see you back on here! You were one of my voices of light and reason, I’m eternally grateful to you for that! Thank you so much!!!

Love, admiration and respect to all of you!

Thank YOU cattail! You were really the first respondant of my golden 4! ^_^ I hope YOU feel warm fuzzies for being such a genuinely caring and admirable person who helped someone feeling as low as the scum at the bottom of Mariana’s Trench! Who, thanks to you and the other jewels on this site, now soars with eyes on a new horizon. I just can’t thank you enough! I’m excited about my future now, not scared or fearful of it anymore. That was a very sinking feeling. But you guys didn’t let me keep those negative thoughts. And if I didn’t have your support, my recovery would have been delayed and incomplete. It would have been too hard to think all these thoughts without the perspective of supporting, caring people like you! *hugs* Thank you so much!!!

2greeneyes, I WANT you to get that feeling out of this! You DID help me!!! You deserve to feel proud of yourself and feel satisfaction knowing that you helped a random person keep from going under and crumbling. Every time I got a notice that there was a response on my post, it let me know that you guys were thinking about me and wishing me well. Then to read the kindness and heart-felt encouragement coming from you guys…well, that just kept me going and I would think, “Yeah! She’s right! Okay, I can do this!” You’re awesome, all of you are awesome!!! And, if I was anywhere near where you guys lived, I would buy all of you lunch and give you big hugs!!! Thank you so much for helping me! Your names are etched in my heart forever!

Thank you Michael and Fizz…I just had to make sure and put that here. Sometimes things can be misconstrued…and that wouldn’t be their fault. I just felt I needed to clarify! ^_^ Peace, love and happiness!

…”in honor of”…I hate misspelling!!! ^_^

I JUST THOUGHT OF SOMETHING!!!

I did not make this post to gloat. I made this post in honor off the wonderful people here who helped me get through it! I wanted to let them know that their selfless efforts helped me “Triumph” past my break-up which was so devastating to me.

But I was thinking that anybody who happened along and didn’t know the full story, may think I’m a pompous a$$ rubbing my success in other broken hearted people’s faces!!! That certainly IS NOT AND NEVER WILL BE the case!!! Just wanted to clarify that! Thank you for understanding!!! ^_^

I didn’t think your post was confusing. It made perfect sense to me. Sometimes people get depressed and there’s nothing that should have triggered it. You may have a chemical imbalance or unresolved issues you’re not even aware of. Experiencing, not understanding and not being able to control the depression will only frustrate you and depress you more. So, that’s totally understandable! I do hope you go through with the counselling. It may be scary, but they are trained to deal with this, so it will be easier than you think. And I’m sure it will do you a lot of good! Best of luck to you!

Yeah, I’m struggling to get my Associates!!! A Masters incomprehensible to me! Fantastic job and you must have a great friend in lilies for her to be so happy and excited for you! ^_^ Congratulations again!

Awesome! I have always admired intelligence and a Masters degree is no walk in the park! Congratulations on all your hard work and future success! ^_^

I think that’s a great philosophy and it worked for me! You should keep trying because giving up is definitely not going to get you anywhere! What’s the alternative? Never trying or giving up too soon? That’s a life of frustration, disappoinment and failure! So…kudos to the mantra and you for trying to help people on “help.com”!!! Thank you for posting this!