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Littlenick is right, in most states you can be emancapated at age 14 if you can prove to a judge that you are capable of supporting yourself.

How bout trying this as well: you said that she has been talking to the coaches about it. Why don’t you talk to them as well? Let them know that you are thankful for the opportunity that they gave you last year, but that you are interested in growing as a well rounded person. That way, at least the coaches will be more likely to encourage your mom to let you make your own choice.

Also, you said she “makes you leave the room.” Refuse.

Good luck!

haha. I’m a Capricorn, but I find it all pretty silly really.

EVERY relationship is hard. They are supposed to be hard. If you want to stick the excuse of astrological mismatch on it so that you can explain why a specific relationship doesn’t work, then so be it. But the truth is.. if you both want it to work.. it will. If you don’t … it won’t. End of story.

Whoa! Thats interesting!!

Google the number that it comes from. Usually you’ll get a list of sites dealing with that number or people who are also getting the same message. Maybe they can give you a clue.

Good luck!

Lighten up kid, its just gym.

Same reason Scorpios can’t live, work, or be in love with anyone else.

Fantastically written!

I highly recommend getting this published.

onomonopia!

haha.. so much fun to say! Really. Go ahead. say it!

lol

Oh hun, you have so, so much time!

Believe me.. I started dating in high school.. and I pretty much wish that I hadn’t! It’s so much more fun to be single and figure out who you are. How to love yourself.

Once you do that.. and you have the confidence that comes with it.. the guys kind of just flock to you. No kidding!

Love YOURSELF. The rest will come when its meant to. I PROMISE.

I am very VERY sorry to hear that. But doesn’t that already tell you EVERYTHING that you need to know?

As far as him hurting himself. If he is going to do that.. he will do it with or without you. That is HIS choice. Just like it was his choice to treat you how he did. You have no control over what he does to yourself, but if you stick around because you are afraid he will hurt himself you arne’t helping either of you.

There are a lot of true facts about this: the only person that can change him, is him. If he wants to hurt himself, that is not, and never will be, your fault. If a person tells you that if you leave they will hurt themselves.. the best thing you can do for both of you.. is leave. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they figure out that their actions are in NO WAY alright.

I’ll say a prayer for you. Keep strong.

haha.. I have some cousins in Australia who used to bring us Vegimite and mad libs. ;)

how about a bullroarer?

For the older kids those road signs with Australian animals on them are fun.. like the “Kangaroo crossing” and what not

:-)

[quote gowillygogogo]Are you a human being or a possession? No means no; just that simple. If he gets angry ’cause you’re uncomfortable with the direction or pace of events.. imagine what he’ll do to you when he REALLY gets ticked. Just to be proactive, you can start saving up money for a set of new teeth and hospital bills.. the pill would be a good idea to. On the other hand, you could just go out with a guy that really respects you and save that money for something nice. ..Willy.[/quote]

Well said! Even if he promises to never touch you again… never physically hurt you.. abuse goes far beyond physical. If he can’t control his anger simply because you won’t give it up to him (something that any man worth half and ounce of urine would be able to respect) then how is he going to handle more complex situations in your relationship?

That should ABSOLUTELY raise a red flag!! I think just the fact that you feel the need to ask this shows that you already know the answer. Trust your instincts!

Any man (or woman) who can’t respect you enough to understand an not get angry when you don’t want to fool around is NOT worth your time, nor are they safe to persue a relationship with.

I would ABSOLUTELY take a step back and look over why you are with this person, and how much you are willing to risk to be with them. Those are some serious signs that the relationship could lead to control and abuse issues down the road. You may be seeing other signs as well but aren’t willing to look at them.

If you scroll down on the following site there is a chart that will help you determine whether or not things have already gone to far. Whether they have or not though, I think you already know what you need to do.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domes…

You are obviously a smart girl being that you are asking these questions. You already know that you deserve more than this.

Good luck!

Hun, I know that it might be hard to believe, but you are not your mother. You are NOT destined to follow in her footsteps. I understand these feelings though.. all too well in fact. My mother was a manic-depressive, paranoid skitzophrenic. A brutal combination that left her abusive and absolutely nuts. I am also 23, and have spent a lot of days in my life terrified that I might end up the same way that she did. Afraid to live my life because I can get to comfortable in my depression at times.

I know that the road can get dark, and that sometimes that paverbial “light at the end of the tunnel” seems so far away that you aren’t even sure there is an opening to your tunnel at all. You start to wonder if maybe someone hasn’t sealed up both ends and left you there, right? As ingrained as those feelings can become, they just aren’t true. Wherever your life is right now, there are a million other directions its going to go in the future.

It may sound cliche’.. but God is with you.. he’ll get you through everything and anything if you ask him to. And even if you don’t.

You know what suicide did you your family once.. you know the effect it will have on them if it were to happen again. Break the cycle. The things you have been through will only give you wisdom to help other people later. One day you will have kids who need you and you’ll be so glad.. for yourself and for their sake, that you found the strength to keep going.

Hang in there. There is light. I PROMISE.

hmm.. my thought is… why would you want the same haircut as your AUNT? Cool that its a different kind of haircut but you should find your own style, not mimic relatives.

Hang in there darling, I know its tough. The funny thing about situations like this is that one day you wont remember why it hurt so bad. I can’t say I know why you broke up, or the situation, but chances are she’d been a little flighty for a while. A girl who is respectful (and worth your time) is never going to date one of your friends, even after you have been broken up for quite a while. Sounds to me like she wasn’t deserving of you in the first place. Just take this time to flirt, have fun, relax, enjoy being a bachelor, and one day love will come along and hit you in the face again! there are a lot of wonderful things about being single.. a lot of things you couldn’t enjoy while in a relationship. Enjoy it before some new hotty of a girl comes along and steals you away from the single world!