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I think you made a very brave decision to meet your real family. Even taking the risk to not have a happy ending, but it seems that everything is working out. I’m pretty sure that your therapist have already told you have that self-doubt for cutting ties with your foster family is because you are a good person and you want to be sure that you doing the right/ correct thing. Someone once told me that you cannot choose your family. Fortunately, in your case, you can. You chose to put yourself first. You chose to love yourself and stop the pain. And you’ve decided to be surrounded by people that support you and love you. Your husband, and now, your new found family. In time, if your foster family really loves you or want to apologize for their behaviour, they will be in contact. For now, just focus in your own happiness. Thank you for your response to my question! Good luck!x

I’m not sure if it’s an ocean crevice or the black abyss.

I’m not sure it’s a horror film or an action film! lol

Hello, it seems that you are still very much in love with your ex. If she broke up with you, she had more time to think about your relationship together and she’s decided she wanted other things. That’s the clue you need to get. She’s decided that she needed to move on and explore other things. Stay friends is only healthy, if you are both mature, and you BOTH decided that you wanted to move on, no grudges, no blame. Or you are both dating other people and you are in stable relationships already. It’s not the case. When there’s a dubious situation, like text messaging out of nowhere, talking about your days and what’s going on in ur lives, it’s a clear message that she wants you close because she got used to have you in her life, and in 2 months, she wasn’t able to replace her “bestfriend”. But don’t jump to the conclusion that she is still in love with you. She may be, or she may be not. When people break up, and then want you back, it’s clear that they themselves don’t know what they want. They might want you back for few hours, weeks, months, but the real issue is still there… why they broke up with you for the first time. One word of advice: it’s their problem, it’s their question they have to ask themselves, it’s their mess. She need to know what she wants from her life, from you, etc. For now, you just need closure. You need to come clean, and be very honest with her, if you really love someone, you don’t play games or be shy and bottle up your feelings. Come clean, and say what you are feeling about this whole thing. Say that you love her, still does, but it’s difficult to be friends, because it’s messing with your head, your friendships, etc. If she is a nice girl, and understand your point, she will make her decision. Either ask to come back because she really loves you, or give you space and not mess with your head. If you know each other for more than 10 years, she and you can deal this in more open way. Good luck!