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You said you are going through all this trouble not to hurt anyone.
Why do you say that? You already hurt your first boyfriend, you hurt yourself, and ultimately not being in it 110% with your new boyfriend will hurt him. Also the longer you let this drag out the more everyone gets hurt. For all you know your ex is waiting for you and is hurt like crazy, but the longer you wait the less lucky your chances are of getting him back. Your dragging this all out and beating yourself up. Just tell your new boyfriend he is good, but you love your ex. He may hold on though so it is best for everyone that you cut ties with him for good.

Good luck

Took “where” out and changed “awhile” to a while…. lol Thanks

Hi, this is _______, we met a couple years ago at a concert in _________. You invited me backstage and I gave you a painting. A friend gave me your address a while back, but I never knew what to write so I pushed it aside. I was going through some papers the other day and stumbled upon it and decided it would not hurt to say hi.
I was pretty nervous the night I met you, but I am glad we did. Until that night I had never let a work of art go, I wanted someone special to receive that first piece…

I would love to see you again. I wish you the best and hope all is good.

Im just going to say no

sometimes you have to let those you love go.
If they come back then you know.

We didn’t talk for a couple months then she contacted me. I expressed my feelings for her and she more or less said she isn’t over her ex (guy before me and the guy she went back to) and she doesn’t want to go out with anyone until she is. So again I feel pathetic and wish I just ignored her. I sent her a text today and she has yet to reply, I think I am just going to go back to silence and leave her in the past. I tried, nothing else I can do.

I’ve talked to so many girls; everyone from the girl next door to movie stars. No one really does it for me though, she was the only person I’ve ever trusted and she threw it all away, and for what? When I think about what happened it makes me upset but I love her. Perhaps I just need to stop making excuses for her though.

I think she is, just not ready for any relationship at the moment.

Im just not sure how much she cares about me any more.

She knows she is not ready and does not want to make me nor anyone for that matter a rebound. (like I was when we first started talking)

She knows me to well and that I do not treat my girlfriends like my friends.

She wont let me pay ever sense she left, but I can do the others. I’ll offer to pay tho…

I’ll stop talking about relationships, the past, etc. and try to be her friend like we once were.

if it is a puppy I doubt they will give you some. They will give small doses to older dogs that are too hyper. They’ll want to see your dog too to evaluate him/her

I wrote her a note and dropped it off in her mail box. This is what it said,

I am sorry; I never meant to hurt you. I never realized how much I was until now. I am not prefect I make mistakes and have not made my last by far; I will not make this one again. We are young and trying to figure out what we want and need in life. I have learned a lot from our relationship. I use to think I did not want nor need anyone, I now realize I do. You made me feel amazing, I loved talking to you all day, and our passionate embraces. I miss having someone to talk to about everything and anything, I miss cuddling, most of all I miss you. I want that someone to be you however, one cannot be in love by themselves. Either way I wish you the best of luck and hope you find what you are looking for. Just remember the past is the past because it hurt you more to stay then to be alone. I know I am capable of giving you what you want and need, if you give me a chance. I hope one day we can discuss everything. I would very much like for you to explain how my actions and/or inactions affected you so I can better myself. If you find it in yourself to give me another chance I will need your guidance on what you need. I know how to love however; you have to teach me what you need so I can make you happy. We both are very insecure and guarded we have to work together to build our self-esteem and confidence so we can have a healthy relationship. It drains me not knowing that your mine and will not stray that has always been an insecurity of mine and was hard to deal with when we were together. Sometimes I wish I could settle, life would be so much easier. I wont though I cannot. All I ask for is love, honesty, trust, and loyalty; I will give them in return. If we are to end then I want to thank you for giving me this experience and allowing me to grow and better myself. Thanks, I love you.

Yep, its a real shame. Making love to her was amazing and I enjoyed pleasuring her but I guess she has to lose something.

she ruined oral sex, I enjoyed giving it to her but I wont now.

I’ll wait until she messes up again then I’ll move on. If she steps up then I will try.

should I just give it the weekend or will it take longer for her?

The vets will give you some. They just take human ritalin actually.

I think she confused right now. She is probably hurt I did not express my feelings to the best of my abilities before, that she did all of this, she prob feels tainted and does not know what to do. She is 20 almost 21..To bad all of those girls are old lol… I dunno why to be honest. I can make a list of things as to why I love her but I know others could do the same. I dunno what makes her different and why I hold on when I’ve never held on before. I dunno

I am 19

Its extremely hard for me to find someone I can trust, someone I like, someone I can let in etc… She was my first everything. I can live with it (I think) if she steps up and is always unconditionally loving and does not associate with her loser ex or show signs of still holding on. It will be hard for me to trust her and truly open up for a little while I’ll have to be extremely secure with are relationship. I will not make love with her until we are in one either. I do question stuff but I am understanding.

I agree