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• This is for any woman out there with an open mind or has either wanted to marry into money or maybe even a “gold digger” which I am not.
  

  Thank you so much for the replies, especially SAHAR!! You seem to understand and that was all I wanted was for someone to repond who has been in a simailar situation. So are you unhappy? you didnt say. It sounds as though you are happy with this person but not totally fullfilled, but most people are never totally fulfilled and always seem to be looking for greener grasses (from what I have seen anyway) yes this man is a friend and yes we have fun together but Yes I do need to do some soul searching and ask myself what it is I am really wanting. I have been married before for Ten years and my husband died. I know i WILL NEVER find the kind of love i had with my husband. He was my childhood friend and my high school sweet heart and I loved him unconditionally. Some told me once that we only get to experience that kind of love once (if we are lucky) They then told me to marry for money the second time around as long as the man was good to me and good to my children. I believe some of this to be true as I have been a widow for several years and i have NOT found another love like my husbands. I have tried and tried and I have dated many men but this man is the first one that is selfless and giving,genuine,kind,loving. I have watched him give to the poor and I have seen how he treats his friends and family and everyone loves him because he is so giving.
  I wish i could say who he is but I cannot at this point, maybe if I were able to say his name then maybe people would have more of an understanding of why i feel the way i do. His divorce wont be final until June which is why I have to keep it quiet. I can say that I do love being ith him and i do love the time we spend together, but the butterflies and fireworks that I felt for my husband are not there. I wish they were but they arent. And to the person that asked me about self respect and my children….I have an extreme amount of self respect for myself and as for my children I love them more than life itself and I would walk through fire for them and i would do anything for them, even if it meant marrying a multi millionare so that they could have everthing that their hearts desired, they have had it tough and I want things to be easy for them for a change and be able to experience things that I never did. Its not like I would tell either one of them that I didnt love this man. I gues no one can really get it unless they are in my shoes at this point in time. I have been offered the world on a silver platter, Hell, a golden platter! I will serious ly think about all of the responses and thank you again for all of them.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• my life have no meaning for me without love and that’s why I am so miserable because I can’t seem to find the “one” for me.
  

  sweetie, you WILL find love but when you are out there hunting for it it usually doesnt come. Once you stop searching it will be presented to you. Beleive that because it will come when you least expect it to!
  
  Dont worry your a cutie pie and there is a guy out there who is waiting to fall for you!!
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

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