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• well im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is fourteen and i really really like him i almost think its love.
  

  I don’t really think it’s a proper time to have sex. As cubanbaby58 says, virginity is something very precious, do not give it away that carelessly. Besides, if the guy really loves you and takes care, he will understand and respect your decision. If he really loves you, he will never insist. It is important to do it for the first time with a person who really cares about you, but not only about his primitive instincts. There are often guys who try to have sex with girls to look cute in their friends’ eyes, and then they point at a girl and say, ‘See this chick over there? I slept with her last night!’ And the girl feels scared and unprotected and wants to cry… Is this what you want? If not, think twice..
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• Do you think it’s okay for a 16 year old to have sex with a 14 year old?
  

  Well, I do not think it’s a good decision, either. Firstly, if no proper contraception is used, it may result into an early pregnancy that may become an obstacle (first of all - to the girl) to have free choice of her way in life. Secondly, sex is something very private, the zone where only very special people are around. If one starts having sex too early and changes his or her partners, one will deprive one of this special zone, there will be no secret, no mystery, nothing special about having sex. If you want sex to be a manifestation of love, but not just a physical act of two bodies rubbing together, I recommend that you should not start it too early and chose your partner carefully. It must be not only beautiul eyes and body, and a couple of smart jokes, but an important personality - the one who really makes you feel comfortable and protected by one’s side.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

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  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• Ok **** it!
  

  I also think that you should try talking to him. What is important - in a calm manner, without displaying that you feel bad because of his behaviour. I suggest that you shouldn’t play a victim, since it would be the fastest way to the end of the relationship. His reaction is nothing special - there are many guys who are afraid of the changes their girlfriend’s pregnancy may bring about. Jut tell him that you’re scared, that having a baby is important to you, but you do not know to what extent it will change your life. Tell him that you need support, and there is no one except for him who could give ir to you, make him feel important. And ask him whether he could accompny you to the doctor’s for a pregnancy test. Guys usually value what they give to a girl, so let him make his moral contribution. It is important not to make any pressure on him, this is exactly what he has the greatest fear of. Good luck to you both. Take care!
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• This isn’t for me, it’s advise on how to handle a situation for my sister.
  

  Maybe you could also try talking to your grandma. I think it would be worth telling her how bad your sister feels about her behaviour. Usually people behave like this either when they feel bad physically, or they lack love of the others. Or in both cases. If you say how much you and your sister love her, and that you are really grateful to her for what she has done for the family, and how good it is to have a granny like her, she will try to control herself. Also, try to understand that for old and ill people it is not that easy to overcome physical pain, and here you have the consequences… Try to be more patient and ask your sister to be. And - what is the most important thing - talk to your grandmother, make her feel important to you both. Good luck!
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

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