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• man, life is starting to suck.
  

  On another note.
  
  She and I have built somewhat of a life together. She as a 15 year old son, whom I have grown to love like he was my own. We had plans for me to give him tennis lessons this summer. How do I handle this? It seems his life was already filled with disappointment prior to my involvement with his mother and I think he has great potential.
  
  Also, despite the fact that she and I have irreperable problems, I still love her and care for her deeply.
  
  Is it possible to remain friends? How do negate all this on her son. Thanks.
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

• man, life is starting to suck.
  

  Thanks. I have already started the process of moving, getting the truck, finding a place et al. Thanks for your input.
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

• man, life is starting to suck.
  

  [quote terri.boberr]If it’s not working out between you two, you have every right to leave. (If you are not married, of course.) It sounds like you have put up with quite a lot, yet you say she is saying bad things about you. Maybe you two are not good for each other. Maybe you should break up with her and then someday, maybe you will find a more compatible person. It is awful living with someone you are not compatible with and who makes you miserable.
  Proverbs 27:15-16 says:
  
  “A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
  as constant dripping on a rainy day.
  Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind
  or trying to hold something with greased hands.”
  
  Proverbs 21:9
  
  9It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.[/quote]
  
  
  Thanks. I feel deep down that this is an unhealthy situation, but I keep finding myself give her chances. I have left three times and each times she comes back to me and wants me to come back. I think I have to cut her off and not talk to her for some time.
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

• man, life is starting to suck.
  

  [quote coach]it is hard to give sound advise with out knowing more about the both of you but it sounds like you have two choices.
  1-you can pack up and leave or
  2-maybe her lashing out at you are not really personal but just reactions of her dealing with challenging times.
  try not reacting negitively to her actions but give her a hug possibly and let her know your here for her and these challenging times are soon to pass, if this is what you want
  best of luck, coach
  i believe international.com[/quote]
  
  Thanks coach,
  
  I have been trying to let her know that eventually this to will pass. I shut down the business, and have been trying to find a job. I even applied for a job where I had to take a spelling test. This was very demeaning to me since I have advanced degrees. This town is small and there is not available for me. I have had a role in the financail problems, but so has she. Nevertheless, she tells her friends, family, and myself, that is all my fault and that she is not to blame for anything; this despite diverting business resources to help her make it through a time when she needed it (during the full year she was off work recovering from an accident).
  
  I take responsibility for not handling the finances correctly after her accident, but the business was booming prior to the accident.
  
  This is not my home town, it is her home town. I feel that I have noone to turn to and feel she has demonized me to the people that I considered my friends.
  
  I feel somewhat trapped because i want to leave for the sake of my mental health, but feel in leaving she will take it upon herself to demonize me further, e.g. leaving to avoid financial responsibiltiy. I explained that I need to leave this town to find gainful employment in my field.
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

• man, life is starting to suck.
  

  What brought the latest episode was brough on because we received an overdraw on one of our old business accounts, in the amount of 125.00. She was trying to sneak out of the house, and I walked in the kitchen, and she was packing up the rest of her stuff and said “I am going out”. I said-”for the night?”. She said yes. She was gone all night, did not call. Now she is still not back tonight. I called her on her cell phone and said “please let me know that you are allright, I am worried about you. An hour later I could a call from her mom, relaying a message to me that she was ok. So I guess it is OK to bolt (we have been in a relationship for over two years and she has never done this before) and worry me to death about her saftey?
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

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