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i think ive done it??

what country are you in if you dont mind me asking…im in england

i will try and set up yahoo messenger l8r if you dont mind?

i have a facebook account if thats of any use?

Hi. Long time no see! I’m on my way to bed, but it’s good to hear from you. Are you doing okay?

School? :)) that is very good to hear, i am going to school starting Monday. Hehe! Sometimes i get lonely. Sometimes i know there are many things i need to be thankful about but at times i slip into sadness.and then when i have a better day i kind of laugh at my sadness because at times they are not important.

Someone taught me to count the good things no matter how small. We cannot have a perfect day or else we won’t have much to live for.

I’m being talkative, sorry. :))

You are very welcome. I saw your avatar and i was delighted to drop by. You are always remembered. :)

I hope things are working better for you. You got any post lately?

Hello nice to see you online. :) Nothing much just want to say hi.

Hi there, i hope you are doing fine. Saw you were online an hour ago. Wanted to say hi. take care.

Good morning!!! :-)

Hi ambrutellow. Have you heard of the new site that people are going to? It’s kinda like Help.com, but without the attitudes that go with it. It’s called Social Web Site.
Google it and see what ya think, ok?
It was put together by some help.comers….Cool actually….see ya….edie

“Try not to hate me in the morning, it ruins my day. Hate me, if you will, only just before you go to sleep. This will allow me to dream your hatred away. The best time to love me is in the afternoon. Love is like sunshine after all.”

- my dad

I understand, I do.

Merry Christmas ambrutellow. :-)

Merry Christmas, or Happy Holidays as the case may be.

Ok, if you’re sure? And I’m good thanks.

Merry Christmas! :)

I know you’ve been having a hard time lately and you had a post with some less-than-helpful replies. Just wanted to let you know I care. Goodnight then, and I’ll chat with you later.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays
from Neutra

Hi Ambrutellow, I just wanted you to know that I added you as a friend. How are you feeling today?

Do you want to talk about how you feel today?

You’ve reached out, please don’t withdraw again!

That’s sad, but it could all change in the twinkling of an eye!

Can you imagine anything that could get you out of this? Like, if you could dream something up, or ask God or “the gods,” what would help, what would make you happy? (Besides your ex!)

Did you ever see the movie, “You Can’t Take It With You?” It was on Turner Classic Movies tonight. Wow, what a really great movie!

I understand about wearing a mask, and putting on a fake smile. I’ve been doing that … and maybe lots of people do. We all want people to think everything’s okay with us, even when it’s not.

I feel sorry that I can’t help. I wish I could say something that would inspire you even just a little bit. Or remind you of something that gives you joy, that you may have forgotten about.

What do you read mostly?

Why are you working 10 hours a day? That’s a lot!

You’ve gotta examine why you “miss” someone who wasn’t good to you, and who didn’t cherish you the way you deserve.

Have you ever thought of sharing a place with a friend, or friends? I know 3 women who did that for about four years, and they loved it! They mainly did their own thing, but they also got together in the evening and for coffee, etc. I used to go over all the time. It was fun! Communal living. It’s a good thing. And a heck of a lot cheaper.

So what if you’re “the only one who doesn’t have someone.” Although, I do know the feeling. One of those 3 women is going to get married soon, and I’m kind of discombobulated! Not fair! The rest of us aren’t! Waaaah.

What do you mean, you’ve TRIED to go out?

Do you ever take walks or anything physical like that? It really helps with a person’s mood.

Awwwww … I know, but:

In the words of Barack Obama: “Yes YOU Can!” :)

Hang out with your girlfriends. Get some new boy FRIENDS, and hang out with them. Go to the library, and read some great books. Take a class in something you’ve always wanted to know about. Help somebody out (in person). Pretend you’re happy. Watch this video: http://help.com/post/228886-you-are-f…

You need to let him go. I know you don’t want to hear that, but its what you need to hear. I can’t tell you why he didn’t stay yours, yet it’s so obvious you deserve better. I also can’t tell you how to not think about him- i still have that problem. You gave him your heart, but he doesn’t deserve it anymore.

Everyday, want better. Try not to think about him, and DO NOT talk to him. It’ll set you back weeks emotionally. Even if he calls and your heart is about to beat out of your chest.

Right now you have to work on loving yourself, realizing how much good you have in you, and realize that you should only fall for someone if they lift you up.

I sure do agree with you on all this! I googled and read the article. First of all, he a man, and human being. His color, chocolatey. His race, mixed. He “looks” African-American, so in America that tends to be who you hang out with. I love the fact that by his very existence (and also by his sophisication and background) his is challenging everybody’s ideas about what’s what. It’s thrilling. Maybe America will start to grow up. We are all human beings, or at least striving for that. Some people, like the current occupant of the White House, barely make it if at all.

Send me the link when you have a chance. It’s amazing how low some people are …

Happy (belated) Birthday!!!!!! :-)

You know, I understand what you say. The truth is you will never stop loving him, and if he ever truly loved you– then he will always have some kind of feeling for you. There are times when you have to say farewell to someone in-spite of loving them. I love my ex, but loving her is no longer good for me.

However much you want him back- you deserve better. You need better.

happy birthday to me

great response! sounds like he just wants to remind you of himself, and make you suffer a little more. don’t do it! :) enjoy your life! :)

Hey you!! :-) This is my first time on in a looooong time. Getting a new apartment has proven harder than i first thought & my mom doesn’t have the internet. I hope you’re doing well! :-)

I don’t like the sense that I must be jolly or grateful or whatever … I do like the food, and at Christmas the music. I don’t like the obligation to buy presents or even to receive presents. I do love my “peoples.” :)

Just back from moving. Just got everything turned on.

I hope you don’t mind I edited your post to actually show the song. Are you mad?

Did you? :)

I’m up to my neck in boxes. :)
But I had a nice dinner with some friends.

About the same …

Hey, how are you?

okay …

I’m sick of people telling me that what I do isn’t enough.

Some stuff like that happened to me while I’ve been looking (for the last six months). Every time I looked at a place but it wasn’t quite right, I would thank the owner and thank the universe, because I knew my right place was coming. And it DID. :) There’s no way there could be only one good affordable place in your whole city. Next time, be ready to pounce! And PLEASE Ambrutellow, just try as an exercise to not say “I’m so fucking stupid.” Every time you say that you reinforce your belief in that. BELIEVE DIFFERENT (kind of like the Apple slogan “Think different.” Come on, girl - get some spunk here. You have no idea what good things are coming your way. Get ready!!!! Come on, cheer up - you can do it!

Hey, how are you doing?

You could be here http://help.com/post/218800-15000th-c… having fun with us …

“Whatever” basically sucks. There’s gotta be more to life than “whatever.”

Well Having been in some what a similar place some time ago.
I was taken off sleeping tablets. I had to agree that I didn’t need them. I was getting sleep, only fragmented through the day.I had to force myself to keep busy through the day and sleep at night.
To some extent I still tend to do this.

Noticed through a friend of yours, on here, you are having a bad time. I will, later on, answer on your post, need to think about and read some of your other posts. Will get back to you later.

Every time you say that, you make yourself hopeless. It’s up to you what you say about yourself. I don’t believe you’re hopeless at all, but if you keep saying it maybe you’ll become that. Is that what you want?

wow, we sure have a long shout trail!!!! I’d better stop trying to give you advice. :)

I love those. :)

One time a long time ago I took acid and I stopped by a friend’s apartment but she wasn’t there and I wanted to go in and asked the manager (of all things!) and she wouldn’t let me and I tried to explain and then walked off crying. I cried real hard for a minute and then it was over. Then I saw myself choose to go back into crying. It was like having a glimpse of Reality - between the initial reaction and the false story of needing to cry and suffer a while longer, I saw who I was, I saw my reactions as if from “above.” Ever had an experience like that?