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No, it’s not depressing. I hope you come out of this soon.
Goodnight.

goodnight then … :)

please answer quick :)

You were trying to think of something good about yourself in that post (after we asked). You said you were loyal. I don’t think you’re being loyal to yourself, when you say you’re not worth anything. That’s almost like being ungrateful for the gift of life. Every day, you start again. Why not say Thank You to the universe, to God?

Then you said, “I love to dance. My dream was to be a dancer. I did ballet and jazz. But I didn’t think I was good enough so I gave up. I give up too easily.” So you judged yourself unkindly, instead of doing what you love no matter what! Why? Why not dance even if you’re horrible?! If you love it, there’s no such thing as horrible. If your heart and soul is in it, that makes it sublime. Same with music.

Then you say that you still do dance, because it makes you happy. Is that true? If so, I can now go to bed happy. :)

In that post of yours I keep trying to get you to read again, you say “he told me I’ll be alone forever. He tells me no one likes me.” I think these words have gotten into your SOUL, where they don’t belong. He’s wrong!

Don’t waste your life being sad.

http://help.com/post/186248-is-there-…

The mere fact that you are unhappy about it proves that you DO have a life, inside you, waiting to come out!

Do you have a mother & a father? Siblings? Or are you all alone in the world?

Ambrutellow! When did all this start? How old are you? (I forget.) What is your work? What do you DO when you come home? Do you ever take a walk in your neighborhood? Do you read? Have you ever read The Perennial Philosophy, by Aldous Huxley? I rediscovered it last night, and it reminded me of what I’ve been forgetting.

I’m thinking that your relationship has gotten you all demoralized and feeling bad about yourself. I know how that is, when someone doesn’t love you (and maybe if you reallly examine it, you don’t love him SO much …) it’s a bummer! Every day. It wears you down.

I think you’ll feel much better when you break it off and take a stand for freedom, joy, and celebration! You will be surprised how you’ll discover friends you had forgotten and make lots of new friends who will teach you all kinds of wonderful things.

Please read this post again :)
http://help.com/post/186248-is-there-…

There’s not anything to love? I don’t believe it. I’ll bet you can tell me at least five good things about yourself. Come on … tell. :)

“He doesn’t make me happy. I don’t trust him. I just don’t want to lose him.” Girl, that’s pitiful. You can’t settle for this. Come on! Get spunkier!! Don’t you want to have a smashing, fabulous life for yourself??? You can … But not if you make yourself out to be a miserable worm.

What’s happened to make you feel this way?

Oh Ambrutellow, be brave. Keep your sights and your standards high. Aim for the very best. You deserve it.

Goodnight. (Past my stated goal of 10 pm, durn it.)

:)

It sounds like you are putting him first, before your own happiness and welfare. What does he love about you? What does he do for you?

You can do better. Much better.
Is this the way you want to live?

What do you admire about him?
What do you respect about him?

Do you feel good when you’re around him?
Does being in this relationship make you happy?

Again I ask, “what do you love about him?”

Well, for me lying and cheating are not expressions of LOVE, no way. That is not love at all.

I lived with a man once who was a wonderful kisser, handsome, a great father, and hilarious. He had great taste and we had lots of fun together. But I wasn’t happy, because he just wasn’t “all there,” not REALLY there … I tried and tried to please him and make him love me. I don’t know why he didn’t. Finally he broke up with me, and set me free! After a period of great suffering, I became very grateful and I blossomed. :)

No, I think you should be devoted to something higher, and deeper, than your partner. Otherwise it is a worship of another person. You should be devoted to your own inner path, your reason for living. (I hate The Secret too.) :)

If he lies and cheats, how could you ever feel secure or loved? If he lies and cheats, what do you love about him?

What do you fight about? Is it because you bring up certain subjects he doesn’t want to talk about, or you feel insecure and he won’t reassure you?

You have to know what you think. You can’t live through him, or devote your life to (trying to) please him. That’s what I think … :)

Do you think he’s right, or not?

What are the signs you “did something wrong?”

What did you do?

Why? Give details! :)

Hello, what’s going on?

Read this: http://help.com/post/186248-is-there-…

What has your boyfriend done (or not done) now?

There is life beyond this boyfriend!!! :)

oh, dear ambrutellow … this is not the way. :) please go back and read that post of ours. you forgot. you will never have no one, because you will ALWAYS have your SELF.

Hello Ambrutellow. Sorry you are sad & crying … Are you still with that boyfriend who was making you unhappy?

Thanks, Ambrutellow! I guess nothing is really “for good.” I hope America wakes up enough to vote for Obama in large enough numbers that it will overwhelm all the election fraud that will go on. Surely so! We just can’t have four (or 8) more years of disaster … Surely the gods will intervene on behalf of humanity & the planet. :)

How are you doing with that ex-boyfriend thing?

Ambrutellow, I’m leaving Help now. I hope you’ll write to me and let me know how you’re doing. I’ve become addicted to this place, and I’m going to break it off now. I wish you the very best in everything, and I know you won’t backslide.

Bye
- Florie

Promise me you’ll read that post again from top to bottom, okay? Don’t forget! And you can email me anytime. I would be glad to hear from you. You will start feeling better soon! You will, you will!!!!! :) :)

Ambrutellow, your friends from “Is there anyone there?” are hoping to hear from you (including me). - Florie

Hi, things are alright or sometimes so so.

Tired. I would need to ask you on something.

Hi sweetie, how are ya? Sorry I didn’t reply sooner, I’ve just got back from holiday.

Ho!!! I don’t know!! I’m out watering my yard and my neighbors’ across the street. I slept a bit too late, and my brain is still not completely awake. How about you?

Yep, maybe he comes back as another user,
so you know :)

Just ignore him totally, thats all I can do for now :)

Im gonna try something girl, one sec.

who are you and why do you keep shouting me? don’t you have anything else to do? Go laugh at some more deaths or maybe kill a puppy. You can keep this up if you want to.

Well, I do not appreciate being told to “blow me” by a complete stranger. And I don’t care how you communicate, saying that to some one you don’t know is not appropriate and seeing that you are so against being told anything by a stranger you should say that instead of saying things that only instigate a fight with a complete stranger. If you don’t need to prove anything to me than why do you keep telling me about yourself? I don’t care about you getting into bars or having your own apartment. What does that mean to me? Nothing. So continue to act like a teenage boy because that is apparently where you feel comfortable.

thank you for the help :)

That was a magical post! I’m planning to read those answers often myself. I’ve recently discovered that saying good things to yourself really does wonders. I can feel it in my body even, when I say something positive – versus when I say “you are doomed.” :) One thing that happened to me after a devastating breakup was that I discovered that I still existed (!!) and that I really had lots of friends that I had forgotten about, and lots more interests than I remembered too. It was like a whole new life started opening up. It was hard at first, but after about a year, I was really grateful that my man had broken up with me. I felt so blessed to have the friends I had, and also to feel that I was complete without him! I wish you the very best. Please feel free to send a shout.

Hello Ambrutellow, how are you today? I am still happy from your post and all the answers that were so sweet and true. I hope you’re feeling better still. :)