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• My name is Libby. posted (5 months) ago
  I am 52 years old and married to a wonderful husband, Eddie. We had a sudden unexpected financial …

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• (1 vote) my life sucks i just feel like killing myself i’ve
  

  Dear friend, I’ve been just like you and thought things would never get better. But I’m living proof that they can. It sounds like you are panicking all the time, just like I was doing until I tried suicide and was hospitalized last September. While in the hospital a chaplain talked to me about how it hurts so bad when we realize we don’t have total control over our lives. But I slowly learned that I can control (not always, but mostly) my panicking. I want you to do some things: First of all, call churches until you find a pastor who will help you decide if you can stay in this marriage. Your husband sounds like bad news, and I think you are terrified to leave and try to be on your own.
  
  Find some free counseling, or call a women’s shelter–somebody will talk with you and help you figure out something. There is help for people in your situation–but you have to talk to people to find out where it is.
  
  To help you calm down, if you can go to a free clinic, please go and get some med for anxiety. There are some really good ones.
  
  To help you think better–if you can, go to counseling somewhere. But if you can’t, please do what I am doing. I am studying 3 books that help me be stronger no matter what mess is going on. One book is called “Faith for Personal Crises” by Carl Michalson”. It is dirt cheap at Alibris books and it is awesome. Even if you don’t have faith now, reading that book will give you faith and hope. Then, read from the Bible–Psalms, Isaiah (Here is Isaiah 43: Fear not, you are mine. When you pass through the water, I will be with you; in the rivers you shall not drown. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned) Also First Peter 5:7 Cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you! Stay calm and aware. Your enemy the devil is prowling like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, solid in your faith, realizing that the brotherhood of believers is undergoing the same sufferings throughout the world. But God, in Christ, will himself restore, strengthen, and establish those who have suffered a little while.
  
  Last of all, can I give you some tips I have learned to help myself calm down, no matter how upset and afraid I am. I have learned to say to myself, “Hey, there’s no point in trying to mentally force everything to change–I try to just accept that it is bad, but I’ll deal with it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Or to put it another way, my Mama used to say, “You ain’t supposed to get all high about things!.” Yes, your life sucks right now! Yes, it’s not fair that you are stuck in a rotten marriage, and that society is not providing you all with enough money for you to feel secure. It sucks out loud, honey. But with the Lord’s help you can take it, and you can take steps, just one step at at time, to make things better. Call people, look for help, find ways to calm down, find faith by reading the Bible. Don’t give up. I will pray for you tonight.
  
  Libbyc
  
  - written 5 months ago – voted for by adiokid

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• my life sucks i just feel like killing myself i’ve
  

  Dear friend, I’ve been just like you and thought things would never get better. But I’m living proof that they can. It sounds like you are panicking all the time, just like I was doing until I tried suicide and was hospitalized last September. While in the hospital a chaplain talked to me about how it hurts so bad when we realize we don’t have total control over our lives. But I slowly learned that I can control (not always, but mostly) my panicking. I want you to do some things: First of all, call churches until you find a pastor who will help you decide if you can stay in this marriage. Your husband sounds like bad news, and I think you are terrified to leave and try to be on your own.
  
  Find some free counseling, or call a women’s shelter–somebody will talk with you and help you figure out something. There is help for people in your situation–but you have to talk to people to find out where it is.
  
  To help you calm down, if you can go to a free clinic, please go and get some med for anxiety. There are some really good ones.
  
  To help you think better–if you can, go to counseling somewhere. But if you can’t, please do what I am doing. I am studying 3 books that help me be stronger no matter what mess is going on. One book is called “Faith for Personal Crises” by Carl Michalson”. It is dirt cheap at Alibris books and it is awesome. Even if you don’t have faith now, reading that book will give you faith and hope. Then, read from the Bible–Psalms, Isaiah (Here is Isaiah 43: Fear not, you are mine. When you pass through the water, I will be with you; in the rivers you shall not drown. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned) Also First Peter 5:7 Cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you! Stay calm and aware. Your enemy the devil is prowling like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, solid in your faith, realizing that the brotherhood of believers is undergoing the same sufferings throughout the world. But God, in Christ, will himself restore, strengthen, and establish those who have suffered a little while.
  
  Last of all, can I give you some tips I have learned to help myself calm down, no matter how upset and afraid I am. I have learned to say to myself, “Hey, there’s no point in trying to mentally force everything to change–I try to just accept that it is bad, but I’ll deal with it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Or to put it another way, my Mama used to say, “You ain’t supposed to get all high about things!.” Yes, your life sucks right now! Yes, it’s not fair that you are stuck in a rotten marriage, and that society is not providing you all with enough money for you to feel secure. It sucks out loud, honey. But with the Lord’s help you can take it, and you can take steps, just one step at at time, to make things better. Call people, look for help, find ways to calm down, find faith by reading the Bible. Don’t give up. I will pray for you tonight.
  
  Libbyc
  - written 5 months ago

• I’m at the end of the line.
  

  Please hang on a little while, please! My father did exactly what you are planning. He was brave, and the insurance saved our house, but I would have chosen anything at all, any kind of fate, if only my Daddy would have held on. In fact, his Disability was approved about 3 months after he died, and Mama was already on Disability, so I say so what if we lost our big house. Or even if we kids had to temporarily live somewhere else. I’m just trying to say give hope a chance, please, please for the ones who love you.
  
  Also right now my husband and I have fallen into too much debt and just the other day Eddie was told his job is being cut to part-time. He already has another job, part-time, but with our debt this is really hard. I feel your pain and I will pray for you. Not a believer? Pray anyway, if you can. There is a promise that when two agree on something in Jesus name it shall be done. I’m not a fanatic, but I know if you will pray tonight, with me, there will come a light in all your darkness. And pray for me too–Eddie and I need a miracle, too.
  
  Libbyc
  - written 5 months ago

• I want the strength to blow my brains out :(
  

  I have felt that way a lot. I will pray for you. I am trying hard to think of some advice to give you, but all I really know to say is that I made a half-*** attempt at suicide (taking pills) and then chickened out and went to the ER. They put me in the psych ward for 2 weeks, and during that 2 weeks I was at first ashamed that I was too chicken to go through with it–but then I began thinking about a book I had read that told me that God accepts me no matter what, and I knew he was embracing me. If you’re interested, that book is called “Faith for Personal Crises” by Carl Michalson, 1959, I think. It’s real cheap at Alibris books. Hang in there. I love you.
  
  Libby Poot
  - written 5 months ago

• I need financial help on getting a house due to the high prices now days it’s very difficult.
  

  I just tried to reply and it didn’t work. I too posted a plea for financial help today. I pray someone will open their heart to us.
  
  Your friend,
  Libby Poot
  - written 5 months ago

• My name is Libby.
  

  Hold on a minute, everybody. I understand fully that many people are worse off than me. The way I look at life is that if I am able to help someone worse off than myself, I try to do it. So now I’m just hoping that somebody who is better off than me will help me out.
  
  I actually didn’t mean for that message you read to post. I was just trying to become a member and was then going to give a long explanation of just what I’ve been going through. But I cannot figure out how to get that explanation onto the site right now. Not good with computers.
  
  I’ll just say this for now–When I was working years ago, my husband and I felt a calling to help poor people get their pets spayed and neutered. In my city back then there was little help available. We rented the cheapest place we could find where we could keep 30-40 cats at a time. We went into poor neighborhoods, knocked on doors, and found people who needed our help. Sometimes we helped with other problems they had. Once we bought a car for a poor lady working fast food. Another time I found a way to get an old man’s hospital bill paid. Do I sound like I’m bragging? I’m not.
  
  I suddently had to go on Disability at age 41. My income dropped from 2400 a month to 792 a month. We had to stop our animal work. In fact, five years later we had not given a dime to anyone, and it was making me sick. I have been hospitalized for depression, anxiety, etc. twice, mainly because even with my husband’s income we can barely take care of ourselves and our 4 cats and 3 dogs. I thought by now, 11 years since going on Disability, that we would have our house paid off by now and we could start giving again, some to the homeless and poor and some for animal organizations. Everything was on track until December when Mama died, leaving “Dan” with no income (we had pleaded with him many times to apply for Dis., and had taken him to court once and got shot down.) Our house (first mortgage will be paid off in July.
  
  I just thought that if we could get that Line of Credit ($5500) paid off, now that “Dan” will have some income finally (SSI), we will soon be able to live again, I mean, give again.
  
  Libbyc
  - written 5 months ago

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