I need advice from children of alcoholics… posted (3 months, 2 weeks) ago
I recently left my daughters father, I struggle with how much time I should allow him to see her, I…
Since you helped me, I will try to help you, even though it is much after you originally posted this.
As a Mom, I would do anything for my kid, including using my retirment to help her finish at a top notch school. if mom is willing let her, maybe take a part time job to earn your own spending money and start a college savings fund, that would help both you and your mom. I would talk to your step mom about your concerns for your little sister, no way would a normal women allow her own child to be put at risk. (although a normal woman would not let ANY child be put in danger) I am sure she will protect her.
You need stability and sanisty in your life 15 is a tough age with out having to live in a circus.
Remember that you have people to love and care for you, don’t shut mom out..hang in there, once your done with school and start building your own future, you can put some of this behind you.. - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago
He was not an addict to my knowledge until after I was pregnant, he drank maybe once a week and NEVER touched drugs, it wasn’t until I was about 7 months along that things got ugly… - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago
I think I am going to try and get an OP, I have been documenting all the dumb a** things he’s been doing. I would never bad mouth him to my daughter, I just plan on telling her that her dad fell into drugs and alcohol and was just unable to handle to handle real life…that he loves her very much but is unable to control his disease of addiction. if he ever went to treatment I would consider allowing him to spend SUPERVISED time with her, just not in his current state - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago
i can’t really see how i can move, I own the house, I can’t sell in this market and even if I could where would I go. i could stay with my folks for a while, I did when I first threw him out, but I have to work and my job is 2 hours from where they live. I don’t think he would fight to see her, so maybe if I stayed with them until christmas he would go away and find someone else to fuss with.
Don’t worry tyonnn, I wouldn’t risk going to prison to kill his sorry butt, but I woul;dn’t shed a tear either - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago
Ask your Mom if she can make it so you only have to see him when it’s supervised and make it a condition that he not drink before he sees you. That is what I am trying to do for my daughter, I’m really not sure if she will be able to do that as it depends on the court order. if you are old enough, you might get some say if your mom is able to revise visitation.
