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• I’ve been married to the same person for almost 29 years.
  

  Oh I also want to say, that these de rigueur answers ubiquitiously tauted on the web are not helpful for people who are in truly troubled relationships that really should exit them.
  
  They make people feel guilty for not being “committed” enough.
  
  The world IS full of shallow people who don’t understand commitment. But that doesn’t not mean that all relationships are worth saving.
  - written 3 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’ve been married to the same person for almost 29 years.
  

  For better or worse? If the man beats you? If the man bankrupts you? If the man cheats on your repeatedly? If the man ignores you? Who constantly loses his job? Who doesn’t support your dreams. To what end.
  
  I’ve been married for 11 years to a man who’s done almost all of that (never cheated). My commitment has kept me in a marriage that should have ended over 5 years ago. When I finally said, “I’ve had it, I’m getting a divorce” my friends said to me, “It’s about time!”.
  
  I’ve seen people stay together for the kids, who brutally fight in front of their children constantly. Is that good for their children? Even if they don’t fight in front of the kid, is it good for a kid to grow up seeing their parents barely speak, sleep in separate bedrooms? Is that the example of marriage they should learn and emulate because they haven’t seen an example of a good loving relationship.
  
  So, it’s pretty sanctimonious to say that marriage is forever without considering the circumstances and situations. And in my opinion, people recite these opinions, by rote, without thinking deeply about these things because it is the socially correct thing to say.
  
  Commitment is important part of life, not just marriage. Commitment without a solid reason to be committed, commitment to something that is detrimental to one’s well being, either physically or emotionally, is just stupidity, and stubborness.
  
  Having good sense to get out of something that isn’t working is excellent advise.
  - written 3 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’ve been married to the same person for almost 29 years.
  

  I totally don’t agree. I don’t believe in this mumbo jumbo that once you get married you are chained to the person for the rest of your life, no matter how unhappy you are. People change. Sometimes, people marry the wrong person.
  
  However, if you have been together for 29 years, the first step is to try to find out if there is something there. Go to counselling, try to reconnect.
  
  If however, you have made the effort to do that, and it still doesn’t work, I don’t think you should stay together, just because you made a promise 30 years ago. You may not have even understood who YOU were let alone known who he was back then.
  - written 3 months, 2 weeks ago

• Retaliating.
  

  There is nothing like anger to bring out the truth in ones relationship. Even if it was the truth for the moment, it was an important step in the development of your relationship. Caution: once words are unleashed, they can’t be taken back. But, once in awhile, it can be just what the doctor ordered.
  - written 4 months, 3 weeks ago

• Help me!
  

  That really is not a good sign. I think his response, was his answer.
  - written 4 months, 3 weeks ago

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