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There will always be a place in my heart for her. I know she is happy with her new man. And her being happy and loved is all that is important to me.

I have a girlfriend now that I love very much. She and her children will be moving in with me in about 4 weeks.

Tears are words your heart cannot speak. And my heart still speaks through tears when I think of what I have done to the person who I thought was my soulmate forever.

Thank you for your reply……..Best Wishes!

David

Hey…… All I have to say is that your reply to one of my posts gave me hope. And I can’t even begin to thank you enough for taking the time to reply to me with your words of encouragement.

David

Yea you are right! I need that kind of motovation because my friends dont really know what to do with me anymore.
I guess I need to go out. Laying here in my house really messes with my mind and I start to feel sorry for myself.
BTW thank you for your replies.

[quote dolphinluver10]Give it time, you might be able to make it up with your ex-wife. It all depens on why it ende to be honest. If it is definately over then whats stopping you from finding more love, Go for it, life is too short to sit around waiting…[/quote]

Yea I know. I understand that if I just sit here. It will never come to me.

Telling you a lie is bad. You definately have a bit of a problem to work through. I can tell ya from experience. Anyone who keeps their ringer on their cel off when around you, always has their call logs & text history cleared etc has something to hide from you.

I’m not saying that this is always the case. But ya never know. Good Luck!

You must educate yourself about nutritional values. If you cannot tell when you are trully hungry that can be a problem.
Reduce your calorie intake drasticly & begin to excersise. If you do not loose weight then, there is probably another distictive problem you have that is related to this.

Fast and radical weight loss would be gastric bypass or lap band. These are options that are only available and performed on the morbidly obese.

I agree with everything laurenbeast posted. It isnt that hard if you trully want to do it and are motovated w/ a little good self control mixed in.

Good Luck!

[quote crznpch]Captain Myers spiced rum……….w/diet coke on ice with a sqeeze of lime.[/quote]

Ooops meant “Capt Morgan”

Very Very Touching post…..Thanks for putting it up!

Captain Myers spiced rum……….w/diet coke on ice with a sqeeze of lime.

Some what of a complex situation……kinda. For causal dating, no problem! If there ever was a relationship beyond that. That is where the problems would begin. Yes, I can tell you that the extreme difference in age make you pre-dispossed to having issues. Throw in a divorce. And then add children. You now have all the key stuff needed for mental anguish, heartbreak etc etc.
Like I said thats if you were to go beyond dating & should I say mild intimacy. Most people I believe will tell ya its a bad choice. But it is what it is. Like another poster said, if it makes ya happy just do it.
I had to reply here because I am the 44 year guy. Recently divorced. Married 20 years w/ no kids. Trying to have a relationship with a 27 year old female that has 4 children from 2 different men. And she has quite a bit of extra drama to go with it all!
Soon I will be starting my own post on Help before I go totally insane!

Good Luck with her!

David

For whatever the reason might be. You must make some type of plans. As the previous post suggests. Friends? Relatives? Yes, money would make your situation ezier to deal with.
Just know that things will get better.

As always Marylou……… Thanks for hangin in there with me. BTW that is a funny post.

I have embarked on a different journey. One that brings me great joy and also great anguish. I have thought about posting about her on here. It is almost too embarrasing.

I hate to admit that I have went from being a very mellow level headed guy to one that is happy then sad then angry to jelous etc etc.

I’m actually kinda scared now. Confused also. All while trying to make myself return back to normal. I dont know if i’m getting better or creating my own seperate drama that is just wearing me down slowly.

David

It is a hard thing that you are trying to do. To love someone so much,yet to know that you cannot be together for whatever reason or reasons.

It is hard to hurt someone that you love. Because you know it also hurts yourself to see the pain that it will cause her when you tell her.

There is no easy way to tell her. Just directly and as soon as you can. Like the others have said. The longer you let it go the worse it will be. If you let it go too long you might not be able to ever tell her.

Pick a time & a place and tell her. Let her know that you would rather tell her now then to let it go further. Just be honest, caring and kind when you tell her.

Well I thought I’d return to my post here. It still brings me relief being able to come to the site & read.
Its almost been 6 months since she left me. I finally was able to come to the reality that she was never to return to me. So I guess that any “hope” I had I was finally able to let go of her. She still text messages me every day asking me if I am ok & have eaten anything & rested. I don’t mind it is pretty much the only contact I have with the love that I once had.
I never really knew how much my life sucked until now. For me I think I have trully found true lonelyness. I have distant family, unfortunately we have never been close enough to talk about matters such as mine. My parents are both too eldrely for me to be able to confide such a complex problem to them. They are in their 80’s. My friends have even noticed my ongoing irratic behavior & have seemed to have distanced themselves somewhat.
Yes I have continued trying to date. I now believe I have been doing this so I dont have to go through the ongoing depression & extreme feelings of lonelyness.
I know I have been trying to replace my ex-wife. I know now that I never can and never will replace her.
Sad but true that I think I have become a lonely, depressed & confused man. I am glad that I am good @ hideing it when out in public.
I haven’t worked in almost 10 months. I was layed off in January but had planned on taking it ez for a few months. Of course the last 5 months i haven’t really felt like working at all, and perhaps the extra free time has made it more possible for me to become more depressed and confused.
Well I have decided to “man up” and go back to work. Got lucky and got job offers from 3 out of the 6 places I tried.
I’m even a little sad about going back to work. I’m not quite sure why. But it makes me a little sad. Perhaps its because I know I will have no one here waiting for me to ask how her day was. No one to hold her hand and for her to hold mine when the day has been tough etc etc.
She left me in the Spring time and it is now Fall. I like the Fall & the coolness it brings to Southern California. I hope it brings me some happiness. I’d really like to get my “Happy” back. Someday I will.
I know I sound depressed & dark everytime I post here. But that really isn’t me. I love life. I love to be happy and make people laugh. I just need to get over it completely and get it back.

David

Just Do it!