mumstheword's reply history at Help.com

This place seems to have a mind of it’s own some days!

We have projects similar to that one here in UK.

It’s a sad reflection of our economic times that more and more people are in need of them.

hi michele.

I think your link needs a com on the end of it to work properly?

It’s very sad that people in our own home countries don’t get enough to eat. I wish those folks doing what they can to help every success x

sometimes I get it completely squiffy and hit the anon button when I shouldn’t… but it is nice to see which pretty pattern they’ve assigned to me when that happens.

I much prefer the pink ones to the overly-dark..

I wish there was a like button on here..

Ok. Well it wouldn’t surprise me as it’s 00.50 here.

I was wondering why it was quiet.

Thank you Dani. Is the anon actually online to pick up responses?

I reserve the right of reply, as defined in law, where challenged.

[quote TripleTT]Please keep any comments regarding this being a real situation off this Post!

As for the long reply of this person possibly being delusional did you not read what the Post said before you made this reply? Even the post I’m reffering to here this girl posted. After she told us on her post she was already in the hospital from attempted suicide 2 hours later your telling her to go to the hospital. That clearly shows your not reading or listening to the comments and updates before you give your opinion. Please keep any and all delusional comments off this post.

Thank You[/quote]

OK.

Now that the post is open, I would just like to say this.

I read very carefully.

The OP’s words do not necessarily indicate that she was in hospital at that very moment in time at all but imply that she has been before.

My reponse makes perfect sense, I am in UK and on UK time, and would appreciate it if you do not make judgements about what you perceive to be the situation without first having the good manners to seek clarification.

To explain:

I took your post to be a general one about how we can help people who are desperate.

If it is about a specific user, you are in breach of the TOU.

I did not refer to any specific individual at all in my reply above.

“After she told us on her post she was already in the hospital from attempted suicide 2 hours later your telling her to go to the hospital” Could you point me to this please?

Which comment?

and I too, wish anyone in desperate circumstances a swift recovery. Much love x

Without wishing to identify any particular users, you should know that those of us who are in UK are fully aware that sometimes what people write is neither plausible nor possible.

That is not to say that the user is not in need of help. They may well be delusional. They may well have an attention seeking disorder which compels them to create infinite posts on forums. Those posts may be alarmist and naturally concerning to other users.

Some of us have spent not hours, but weeks and days helping certain individual(s) on here. We have known the reality, by virtue of our own circumstance and knowledge, and yet lent a listening ear nonetheless.

There are users here who are well placed to know what is real and imaginary within certain posts and scenarios because they are familiar with how things work where that individual/those individuals say they live. Sometimes it is blatantly obvious that we are being lied to BUT we continue to give support regardless. Just in case that person is mentally ill.

When doubts are raised as to what is/isn’t going on, it is normal practice to alert a moderator who is able to identify, among other things, whether the post(s) are from one or more individuals, which posts have been written before by the same individual, whether that individual is active online under several pseudonyms etc. etc. A moderator has the means to spot trolls having a lark..

People here do care very much indeed. In fact, some of us have even gone so far as to call the medical services on certain apparently desperate suicidal victims. Only to discover that it was merely attention seeking behaviour and that the individuals concerned (note the plural) are well known to the authorities.

Should you ever be concerned about a UK user and require any assistance getting real help in the real world for them, I would be very happy to help.

As I am sure, would any of us over here in UK.

Conversely, if you would ever like our input on what is and isn’t possible in an individual’s “real world situation” eg. do they have to pay for treatment in UK? what are the procedures for reporting abuse at UK schools? what is the process for getting mental health care in UK? who do you need to call to get an ambulance? what is the telephone number of a hospital ward? then do please give a UK member a shout.

I hope this helps.

You should look for a local gay support group. You will no doubt find something close to home. Being able to discuss issues with others who have been through what you are going through is important. It gives you confidence and validation.

If you can’t find a local group, then there are many online ones.

Here in UK for example..

http://www.stonewall.org.uk/at_home/w…

http://www.lgf.org.uk/

http://www.pflag.co.uk/localsupport.htm

And I hate to say this, but yep. I agree with Rose. If you are unable to fulfil your obligations to your current commitments, you aren’t ready to take any more on.