2013-02-04 12:52:15 on I have an adorable maltese dog (his name is Buttons), but he is too much to care for.
I have to agree with robby on this.
Advertising any animal over the net is fraught with danger. And it is more of a problem than people realise - so much so that our RSPCA is overwhelmed with work trying to cope with the fallout.
Basically, the best way to solve this is to use a recognised rescue agency as first base. At least they will be able to vet potential new owners and ensure that the animal will get the home it deserves.
Whether you are tired or not, you need to buck up and do what is required of you. Seems like your family are already telling you this.
Research sensible options.
I have no idea where you are, but I’m sure you are more than capable of tracking down a safer solution for you dog.
2013-02-04 12:27:32 on I am beginning to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend of three years.
I think you need to ask specific questions to establish what is going on in his head.
eg. Is he worried about leaving his mom to have to cope alone with all that is going on over there?
Is he unsure of planning? Some men do not cope well with organising and planning towards their goals. You may need to help him make structured lists and targets.
If he were to move in with you next year, what would he consider a maximum mileage to work/maximum budget etc?
“Should we start looking around to see what places we could afford if we were to live together?”… if yes “let’s earmark Saturday to go get some brochures and do some maths”
“I would like to move in to a place with you in January 2014 (or whenever). Will you?”
Men are from mars, women from venus.
Sometimes you have to reconsider how you communicate your questions and desires. Clarity is key.
2013-02-04 11:27:15 on I am beginning to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend of three years.
(or rather for the next couple of years as you’ve now graduated)
2013-02-04 11:25:07 on I am beginning to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend of three years.
Something else to consider here is that in this time of economic uncertainty, he may well be nervous of committing to a mortgage/rent and additional travel costs.
It seems he is, though, willing to reconsider in a year’s time, when you have less commitments and your path is more certain.
What are your plans for after study?
2013-02-04 11:20:14 on I am beginning to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend of three years.
Have you discussed moving in to a place together?
Rather than just him moving out?
2013-02-04 11:00:18 on I am beginning to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend of three years.
I can understand you wanting him to move out so that you can move in together…
but wanting him to move out just for your convenience strikes me as somewhat controlling and selfish?
Have you thought that maybe he is actually trying to be supportive to his mother, who clearly has rather a lot on her plate in terms of responsibility?
I’d say that if he doesn’t meet your expectations, then go look for someone who does and who is happy to do his girlfriend’s every bidding…
I think it’s just gremlins messing about in the back of the help.com paper store…
2013-02-04 10:18:16 on PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME!
You may find some helpful advice here:
If your problem is that you are receiving mysterious blank phone calls then it is most likely that you are simply being randomly called by a computer. Some sales companies use software to generate automatic calls - if you pick up and respond, then that can cause more and more calls as the computer learns that the number is an active one. Eventually you get some salesman in a far-flung land telling you that what you really need is his marvellous new product…
Contact your phone company if you have concerns that someone is making nuisance calls. They can usually block them.
If you need further help, just holler.
2013-02-04 10:08:09 on Okay, over 20 yrs ago when I was 17, I met this guy.
Don’t make any decisions at all until after you have worked with a counsellor for a while.
Just go with the flow.
The guy that really loves you will understand and wait for you to heal.
2013-02-04 00:19:13 on I LOVE YOU
thank you too :o) Nite nite x (morning morning here)
2013-02-04 00:15:15 on I LOVE YOU
I love you too x
2013-02-03 23:04:06 on Making guns illegal will take them off the street?
Weirdly, your piece about Dunblane has only just showed up.
I’m sorry, but there are too many red herrings in there for me to even begin to unravel them.
This one stands out a mile though: “All of them were legally held” Yep. That’s right. Prior to Dunblane, we were at where you are at. Possession of handguns was not seen as a problem and perfectly legal.
Since then, we have stricter gun controls. They may not be perfect, but they are working well enough for us.
Look again at those per capita figures. They really do say it all much more than any rambling press articles can as far as I’m concerned.
I’m knocking this debate on the head because I really am finding it desperately sad that politics and paranoia are getting in the way of plain old common sense.
Sort yourselves out guys… because the whole world is looking on and wondering why the heck you can’t figure out some kind of sensible solution.
2013-02-03 22:22:22 on closed
These people can help too:
2013-02-03 22:19:17 on Making guns illegal will take them off the street?
I don’t see people being gleeful about this at all.
I do see intransigence. And that’s making me feel sad because without some give, there will be no change to the status quo.
2013-02-03 22:17:16 on closed
The other thing I’d like you to do?
Find a school counsellor or a teacher tomorrow and tell them what you’ve told us. You can print out your post if you like if you don’t think you can talk easily to people.
They will help you get this sorted.