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I am really worried about you..You havent replied to any of us..I know this must be hard for you. But we want to help you…we care. you have to talk you have to open up. No it isnt easy talking abut your feelings but you cryed out for help. That is saying something. That means you WANT HELP. Please let me know that you are ok. I have worried about you since I first read your post.

you have to get out of there. I know it seems as if it is impossible. But it isnt worth risking you or your children. I know it is scary to be on your own. DOn’t ever think for one minute that maybe it will get better. This will continue and may even get worse. I have a child and I would run like hell if I even thought my husband would hurt either one of us. You need to contact your local churches and the police dept. They can help. The church can help find you somewhere to stay until you get on your own 2 feet. There are plenty of single moms out there…you arent alone. I know it must seem hard because you have so many kids but you will find help. You will fin dthat ppl are kind and gracious when soemone is in need. This is a life and death situation please get yourself out. Do you have any good friends or family that may be able to help?

Read my posts and you will see that my marriage is hard and confusing..Maybe it will make light of your marriage

I must leave for work now but I feel somewhat better knowing that my marriage may be hurt but that it is going to work…Starting new and fresh means something…it means that I have a man that loves me and the he understands me more than I know…and that is a good feeling. Especially to go to work with. Thank you all for your help.
I know I need to forgive myself and that is my goal.
Until next time….

That is true so I guess I should feel happy. I feel bad mostly because I hurt him and I dont feel like I deserve forgiveness. He told me after I told him that he had cheated on his ex a few times..he never told me that before.but I guess he was trying in his own way to relate to me…to tell me that it is ok..that we are both human..I think that my marriage will last..I just have a lot of work to do..and that stresses me out

I know the pain I have caused NAW264 we are still together. He chose to stay He said he could never leave me.

Yes he had forgiven me and I beleive it is heartfelt. But as far as trust and us we both agree it feels like we are starting over. And as far as talking to ta close friend I am limited in those…I have one girl I told about it..but I an introverted person and I have trouble trusting ppl with my heart issues. Talking to yall is easy cause you help me with no bias…

Yes I have…it is so depressing thinking about much time it takes to mend something like this. I communicate all the time what I am feeling. He has a problem getting his feelings out…he doesn’t like to talk about what is going on inside hi head. And alot of times he is too tired to listen to my feelings or he doesnt know how to understand.

IT does know I regret it and that it would never happen again..He knows I am sorry and that I love him and only him. I know it takes time to heal It is just so hard to wait cause I am in so much pain..I know he is in more pain but we hurt together…and a lot of it is silent pain

Last Friday. Not even a week has passed.

Thank you I need all the luck I can get. I have a positive attitude in agreeing that my marriage can be stronger for this. It made me remember what a wonderful husband I have..It made me realize what I was taking for granted…It made me wonder what my life would be like without him…and I didn’t like it at all. I can’t live withoutmy husband He is the love of my life. I agree we need to go to marriage counseling..I just hope we can afford it. IT is so hard to sit there and tell someone how wrong I was.

Don’t do it..there is always help. I don’t feel like going on at this point either but you have to think…I just cheated on my husband and he stayed with me cause he loves me so much..I feel like crap…do I deserve such a man? You are young and have a life ahead of yourself…you determine how your life will play out. Killing yourself is never the answer I think you need to get help…see a counselor. You need to talk about what is really bothering you. It sounds to me like you have some deep heartfelt issues. And I understand you dont feel like you are being heard…that no one is listening. But maybe someone is you just arent noticing..you are stuck inside this world you have created…this world of hate and spite. You have to wake up…You dont want to hurt yourself you just want to stop hurting. Someone is out there that can help….I have had so much **** happen to me….if you ever need to talk I am here. Please hear me out…I care enough to tell you DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!!!

The truth hurts so badly. But I know you are right and I appreciate you kicking me in the ***. I feel bad knowing that I took something special from my husband. I know that I hur his ego. What kills me is that he is acting strong acting like he is over it. I wish he would just be real with me. I don’t blame him. HE blames both of us. Which in turn it is both our faults. I felt he wasn’t giving me adequate attention so I went elsewhere to find it. AllI found though was more inadequacy. I found sorrow and remorse. I wanted to cry the whole time I was cheating on him. This isn’t like me. I want me and him to survive but I am so depressed. I know what needs to be done to fix this but it is hard to accept the fact that I did something so horrible. I can’t even look at myself. I am having bad self image issues right now. I know it will never happen again. I love my husband with all my heart, he is my heart. And I know he loves me the same, he says he loves me so much he couldn’t possibly leave me even if he wanted to. He is such a good man. I need to get myself in order. I need to make our marriage strong again. I don’t want him to think of this other guy every time he looks at me. Thanks for the advice even though it stung so much.

thank you..I will be ok..I am strong. I just hope my husband is ok like he says he is..

I agree…it hurts so bad…now that I am talking I cant stop crying