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• ANYONE WITH A LAW-RELATED CAREER PLEASE HELP ME! posted (4 years, 11 months) ago
  ! I have a project in my business law class. I have to interview 6 people with different kind of law…

• Ok, so I’m finally about to finish Highschool and I’m totally excited! posted (4 years, 11 months) ago
  I can’t wait for the future! My boyfriend and I are looking around for some apartments to mov…

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• (1 vote) I love her, but she gets so angry.
  

  I hate to say this but maybe she isn’t right for you. You don’t deserve to have anger that was not caused by you directed at you. My ex would get so angry and he would yell at me and say it was my fault to the point where I would break down and cry. When she is angry she should be able to come to you and talk to you about it. You are the person who is supposed to make her feel safe and better during hard times.
  
  Either two things can happen from this.
  1. If this has gone on for a while, then I’m sorry but it may not stop. She is going to keep yelling at you until you can’t take it anymore. She is going to push you away. Don’t defend her for wrongfully taking her anger out on you. If she is angry she should be able to vent to you in your arms or just say hey look, I’m not in the best mood right now and I don’t want to take it out on you so I’m just going to sit alone for a little bit and calm down, I love you, I’ll see you in a bit.
  
  I know this isn’t what you want to hear, and I know that you probably will read my advice but probably not take it. And I understand! I put up with my ex doing that crap to me for 3 years and finally I just couldn’t take it anymore. It was so hard to put up with but I loved him so much I did.
  
  2. Try to talk to her, see if she will accept help. Let her know that you love her and that you want to be with her. But you guys can’t be together if she can’t be comfortable enough to let you hold her when she is down or angry. See if she is open to talking to maybe a therapist and tell her if she agrees that you will hold her hand the whole time. If she is sincere about it, then you may be able to have a healthy relationship.
  This can be worked out, it all depends on whether she is willing to work it out with you.
  Lol very long reply, I do apologize.
  
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago – voted for by Dragon_Lady

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• I’m getting really tired of people responding with ‘trust god’
  

  i am sad for you, you don’t seem to have anything good to say. and what do you think negative thinking is going to give you? just quit being so angry. positive thinking forces you to see the good in the world. it’s not that bad, it could always be worse, you can get out of this, you can do it; those are all ways of positive thinking. it doesn’t sound like much but if you can’t be positive during hard times then you won’t get out.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• im only 15 and my boyfriend does drugs and i want to help him stop cause we have a baby on the way and hes only 16 .so what can i do to help him?
  

  anyone can beat statistics and i dont need to read that crap. a lot of 15 year olds are way better mothers than a lot of experienced middle aged women. it doesn’t matter how old you are, but every girl and woman has mother instincts and this girl is taking them and as a mother she is going to make sure that her life and the life of her baby are completely fulfilled.
  
  hasn’t your mom or dad ever told you when you were younger “don’t ever let anyone tell you you can’t do anything” they aren’t just saying it, it’s true. and if this girls wants it bad enough then she is going to do it and prove you and everyone else who don’t believe in her wrong.
  
  i’m not going any further with this, i said what i have to say.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• ANYONE WITH A LAW-RELATED CAREER PLEASE HELP ME!
  

  ok cool. thank you so much, i promise, nothing personal just very simple questions.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• im only 15 and my boyfriend does drugs and i want to help him stop cause we have a baby on the way and hes only 16 .so what can i do to help him?
  

  Telling her that she isn’t going to make it as a parent is in no way encouraging. It is up to her whether she wants to keep HER child and if she decides that she wants to keep it, then she is perfectly capable of raising her child. With help of family of course. It will be never ending hard work, but you don’t care about that when it’s your child. If she wants it bad enough and if she is willing to accept the responsibility that a baby brings then she can. There are ways to get through this and she will find her way. But she doesn’t need people telling her that she is going to ruin her babies life and she is going to fail. And I don’t think it’s right that you make it sound like she is being selfish for wanting to keep her child.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• im only 15 and my boyfriend does drugs and i want to help him stop cause we have a baby on the way and hes only 16 .so what can i do to help him?
  

  trust me, i do. i had an abusive boyfriend for 2 years. I got pregnant at 14 and tried my best to help him become more responsible and NICE so that we could have a family. He only got worse. your boyfriend isnt going to change, not for you, not for anyone. if he is going to change its because he wants to. you cant do anything. a baby does need a father but it doesnt sound like he is going to be the father your baby deserves. i know how badly you want this to work, and i completely understand what you are feeling. it is all your choice, but please, if your gut tells you to get out, then get out!
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

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