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i am sad for you, you don’t seem to have anything good to say. and what do you think negative thinking is going to give you? just quit being so angry. positive thinking forces you to see the good in the world. it’s not that bad, it could always be worse, you can get out of this, you can do it; those are all ways of positive thinking. it doesn’t sound like much but if you can’t be positive during hard times then you won’t get out.

anyone can beat statistics and i dont need to read that crap. a lot of 15 year olds are way better mothers than a lot of experienced middle aged women. it doesn’t matter how old you are, but every girl and woman has mother instincts and this girl is taking them and as a mother she is going to make sure that her life and the life of her baby are completely fulfilled.

hasn’t your mom or dad ever told you when you were younger “don’t ever let anyone tell you you can’t do anything” they aren’t just saying it, it’s true. and if this girls wants it bad enough then she is going to do it and prove you and everyone else who don’t believe in her wrong.

i’m not going any further with this, i said what i have to say.

ok cool. thank you so much, i promise, nothing personal just very simple questions.

Telling her that she isn’t going to make it as a parent is in no way encouraging. It is up to her whether she wants to keep HER child and if she decides that she wants to keep it, then she is perfectly capable of raising her child. With help of family of course. It will be never ending hard work, but you don’t care about that when it’s your child. If she wants it bad enough and if she is willing to accept the responsibility that a baby brings then she can. There are ways to get through this and she will find her way. But she doesn’t need people telling her that she is going to ruin her babies life and she is going to fail. And I don’t think it’s right that you make it sound like she is being selfish for wanting to keep her child.

trust me, i do. i had an abusive boyfriend for 2 years. I got pregnant at 14 and tried my best to help him become more responsible and NICE so that we could have a family. He only got worse. your boyfriend isnt going to change, not for you, not for anyone. if he is going to change its because he wants to. you cant do anything. a baby does need a father but it doesnt sound like he is going to be the father your baby deserves. i know how badly you want this to work, and i completely understand what you are feeling. it is all your choice, but please, if your gut tells you to get out, then get out!

… leave him, he doesn’t sound good for you or the baby. If he gets caught doing or selling drugs it could get you in trouble and you could lose your baby. You don’t need that kind of stress either, especially when you are trying to take care of a child. If he isn’t nice now, he is only going to get worse. I know from experience! You don’t need him to help you, it would be nice if he would and sincerely help but I doubt he will. All you need is the support from your family and no one else.

Hello, I would email you but your email was removed from the post before I got to it.

THANK YOU SO MUCH! :)

ok well how can i email you? im not sure if i can email through here or not. but ill make this as private as possible. when you log back on let me know how i can email you. thank you very much!

lil bit shie - lol ok well thank you anyways! :)

ladyphoenix - no i think its more like questions about your daily routine and such. im not quite sure what my questions are just yet, ill have to email my teacher and see what kind of questions she is expecting.

^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ - i think that might be ok. here are the categories that my teacher gave me, do any of these match your job?

Lawyer Paralegal
Court Officer Law Enforcement Officer
Judge Building Inspector
Real Estate Agent Bank Loan Officer
Accountant Insurance Broker
Journalists Small Business Owners

Just because I don’t know if the people in your life know about what happened to you from the other post I read. If they do know then I’m sure that they want to reach out to you but they just don’t know how to because they don’t want to upset you. When something happens like it did to you and me we tend to feel very alone and misunderstood. And we feel like no one cares when really they do care but they are just being careful, you know what I mean. They are kinda walking on eggshells because they don’t want you to think that all they are doing is just feeling sorry for you. I hope I’m making sense. I apologize if I’m not.

I think it’s more of people just don’t know how to reach you. From what I saw from your other post you have obviously been through a lot! And if someone hasn’t been through it, then they don’t know how to respond to it. I could be completely off.

It absolutely does not make you a weak person! The rapist is the weak person! That’s why he did it, to make him feel better about himself. I was raped and of course I’m still not over it. My ex was really into anal and when I didn’t give it to him he just took it. But really you have to use it to make you stronger. After I was raped I promised myself I wasn’t going to let it happen again if I could help it. There are a lot of sick people out there and it’s hard to hide from them because it’s can be really hard to spot them out. If you feel uncomfortable then maybe try going to self defense classes. Even though men are physically stronger, we women are definitely stronger mentally and emotionally. Fighting isn’t just being stronger it’s being smarter. Self defense class will teach you how to react to every situation.