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• I need help feeling again…I feel numb.
  

  I feel far from numb.Life is wonderful despite the pressures and difficulties we all face.You have to be careful that you are not depressed. Depressed people do things that they would not contemplate with a clear mind.And this can hurt family and friends.But especially yourself.And lead to self pity,even towards wanting to end percieved pain by ending it all.
  
  Try to get a good nights sleep.When you awake,dont get up straight away.Wiggle your hands,feet and legs.Even a dumb dog or cat does this when awaking. But many humans get out of bed all knotted up and wonder why the day starts sorely.Then think of the day ahead and all the priveleges that await you. The sun on your face, fruit for breakfast,talking with a good friend later in the day.
  
  Try to forget your needs.Open up to others. Think what you can do for them and make them happy. Then your numbness will start to disappear. People will start to call you and give you invites. You will find your efforts in life begin to feel worthwhile and smiles will again visit your face as others express appreciation for what you do for them. The main problem with unhappy people is that they are looking inward all the time and as a result express outward statements like “what has anyone ever done for me” or ” why don’t I get invited out more” etc, etc. Look outwards at the needs of others and your life will automatically become fulfilling.
  
  Ring up an elderly relative today and tell them that you have been thinking about them and wondered what they would like you to do for them. Older people, especially, may initially resist your advances, but if you gently persist, they will love to have you in their lives. Try to add a new person every two weeks to a month that you approach in this way. It doesn’t matter if they are 10 years old or 70 years old. It doesn’t matter if you are 10 or 70. By giving of yourself in this way, you soon won’t have to call anybody-they will call you.
  
  And you won’t feel numb anymore.
  
  Please do not be sad when I tell you that my only son recently committed suicide. His last words to his girlfriend was that he felt”numb”. My wife and I were on holiday abroad and were called back after his death. But I have a great appreciation for life and insisted on conducting his funeral to tell his story. I am shortly due to have his ashes interred. But because of my understandings, I am able to resist the temptation towards the mentality thet produces numbness and despair,but am able to ride above the potential depths of sadness and continue towards a fulfilling life.I miss my son terribly, but he went to a place where I refuse to be taken.And I support my wife who was very close to my boy by giving her the mental strength to still love and be loved.And to have joy in her life in spite of our loss.
  
  Please take my advice above and put effort into enjoying this god-given opportunity to have a worthwhile and happy life on this extraordinarily beautiful earth and with its beautiful peoples. Don’t throw your life away like my son who had everything to live for but allowed his mind to wipe the colour from his life and introduce sad black and white.All this despite having a beautiful girlfriend, loving parents in a happy home.Remember,its all in the mind so just prevent yourself from going there. Forget medication: if you were happy once, you can find the path again
  
  GIVE TO OTHERS AND THE REST IS EASY.
  
  Paul
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

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