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because if you mean proposing sex i suppose it would be a bit wierd to tell your parents…. but also, i dont think you should have sex with someone who treats you like this.

also i am slightly confused by what you mean by ‘proposed’. proposing marriage? or a relationship? or sex?

as for the proposal thing, theres nothing wrong with telling your parents about it! if he truely liked you he shouldnt have to feel ashamed in front of your parents.
i know parents can seem annoying sometimes, but really they usually know whats best and just want to protect you. it is a good test to see how sincere someone is by wheter they are willing to meet your parents if it means they can be with you.

i think to begin with you need to forget about this other girl and look at you and him. how has he treated you? he told you he liked you and then went with another girl, and is putting you in a position that makes you feel like you need to have sex with him. is that really the type of guy you want?
i know its hard to look clearly, especailly when you have liked him for six years. its difficult to seperate your emotions from the situation and think logically because there is alot of emotional baggage there and a habit where you will always like him, no matter what happens or what he does to you.
but i think its important to love yourself more then you love him. and if you do love yourself, more then you love him, you would realise that you deserve better then this.
no matter what he says to you, the fact is that he is with another girl. firstly he shouldnt be saying it, and secondly whatever he is saying sounds like lies. if he meant it he would be a man and doing real about it.
can i ask how old you are?

well if i can id like to help. whats the fix?

sure. whats up?!

Hi. I hope you are feeling better. if you care to shout me for any reason, please do so. I am here for you if you ever need me. Take care! Peace and prayers always my friend :)

medicine? Wow! I thought you meant study for school! Hah hah. Well, what I do for some college lectures that I find difficult and that I know will be vital for exams is I record them and transcribe the notes later, or I can listen to the lectures on public transport or as I go to sleep. You can record them on a small mp3 player without anyone knowing. Also, going to bed no later than 11, and getting up at 6 is a good thing to do. If you get up early and study hard for most of the day, then you can relax towards the end of the day or even go out and not feel guilty. That way you won’t go insane by working too much and having too much stress. Keep a little notebook on you all the time to keep on top of stuff you need to do, and have a weekly plan and then an overall monthly plan as to what you will get done. Then if you cover everything early, you can relax towards the end of the week, or just revise. Also, type up notes, and have post its randomly stuck around your room or apartment with formulas and all that random stuff on them so that you will randomly see them and read them. All the standard stuff. And do go to the library as often as you can, its a great place to study. But most of all, have some perspective about it and don’t let it consume you

Well for good nutrition hon, its the same senario you hear all the time, as many fresh fruits and veg as you can muster. Your diet should be made up of protein and natural carbs. Try to eat five to six small Healthy meals a day, this will keep your body fueled, your metabolism fired up, which will burn calories and give you energy.
Have a pattern like this, Breakfast (everyday) i.e bran cereal, with maybe scrambled eggs and a low fat yogurt. 3hrs later a healthy snack, say peanut butter on celery sticks, or on toast. Three hours later lunch, made up of maybe chicken and salad, then three hours later, another healthy snack. Try to eat your last snack by 8pm, dont eat right on top of bedtime, if your hungry at that time, just have a small bowl of cereal. Not sugar ridden of course. with your meals try to have the lean meat, fish or whatever, with vegies, whichever veg you like. (fresh not canned) make your meat or fish portion as as big as the palm of your hand, the veg is pretty much unlimited, you can eat as much as you can, fruit makes a good dessert choice. You must aim for about five servings of fruit or veg each day, a serving is about as big as a measuring cup.
If your getting a lot of colds, Id say try to get as much Broccoli , oranges and any fruits that contain vit C into you.
Try taking a multi vitamin each day too, that will ensure anything you are missing in the diet will be covered.
Google healthy eating, you will no doubt find some sites that can help you too. :-)

oh okay. the eating part im not so sure…with the depression just keep your head up. dont pay attention to the past. the past is over you cant change anything. future isnt here yet. just focus on the moment. you can make your life better if youu try. promise

both…ya both

oh thats awesome to hear! im so happy for you!

no im not actually sure…. good health as in no depression? or like eating health, stuff like that?

hey! how are you? =)

good, good, im glad to hear that! let me know if you want to talk about anything…im always willing to listen - i hope you have a great day…Will :)

i cant talk for long btw.. ahve to go in a bout 5 mins.. :S

hey!! how are you?

hey, abacus, i thot id send you a shout and see what you’re doing - im Will…hi…:)

hey sorry im here now. i had to get off last night =(

oh oaky… please be okay! xoxo

oh im sorry.. are you having suicidal thoughts again? :S

heey! yeah!
how are you?? :D

sorry my mom came nd i wasnt supposed to be on… :P haha
im 15 too! :D

i know you will get over it. you have the right attitude now and i think its great! and i can help you if you want! =)

im from canada!

oh okay big time idfference then!
what time is it there?

and how are you? are you feeling better than you were the other day?

heey! im sorry i have to go in like 2 mins.. seems we always hit bad timing =(
where do you live?

im doing… okay i guess. been way better but yeah.
are you feeling any better than you were the other day?

heey how are you doing?

like i said in the post all those things pass and youll be happy in the end. i swear on my life, you can make it through this. so many people in this wolrd love you and would miss you!!

k. please dont do anything. you have so much life ahead of you!!!

hey! is this the person who i was just talking to on the post??

Hello, It sounds to me you may be fighting a breakthrough. What that means is that you know in your heart and mind you must let go of this boy and you probably are ready to and do genuinely want to… but your subconsious doesn’t want to let go because it is something that you have lived with for so long… anything else would seem foriegn and we always fear the unknown.
You are crying and emotional because you are letting go, and it is healing to you that’s always a good thing. It will be ackward for a bit seeing him around but it won’t always be this way. You have alot on your plate so to speak right now, and I want to tell you that you are doing a good job!!! You are strong and you can get through this. The worst is over and the hard part is too! GET THOSE EXAMS studied for and do the best you can, in anything you do~ always.
God BLESS YOU!
Your friend, Shannon

hello, I am sorry I’ve been away, but I’m back now so i’ll be online tonight… does that help?

Hi YOU! Sounds like today is a better day for you, that’s wonderful! No need in thanking me hun, it’s God working in me answering prayers perhaps? I take it as God revealing something to me that others need to hear… His heart is always listening.

We all have been there, thinking of guys, hoping and wishing, wanting they guy to wisk us away to a better place and time, but hun that’s only in fairy tales. You are so beautiful and you are courageous, and you can get your grades back and have the life that perhaps God wants for you. The desire is in your heart to go to medical school ( IS that correct?) Well hun you can do alot of good doing that. Sounds like you have the heart and the brains for that! You go get em. I will keep you in my prayers.
May God keep you strong and may He reveal Himself to you in a big way so that you will know that HIs love, the Love of your father will sustain you even when the doubt within yourself tries to shine, let God’s love outshine anything on this earth and may it be reflected in all you do! IN Jesus Name, AMEN! Keep in touch! Thanks for your shouts, I am thrilled to see that today was better… Your mom has good adivice too!

a simple hi and how are you doing didnt harm anyone ab … dont be so afraid… u love that guy… just firstly ask him how he is doing and lately u thinking about him and if he is ok.

i spoke to him 6 yrs ago and nevr since then he is not iin my school but i see evry day at my bustop also i never talk to him if i talk to him he may think wats wrong wid her all of sudden

if you are so concerned about what others will think then dont it if its gonna make things worse… if i was you and i loved the guy for six years i would let him know but i know its hard and i understand your fears. think about it a lot before you decide and maybe before you tell him you love him try talking with him..ask him how he is and just tell him you kinda thinking about him ..and see how this goes. take smaller steps first

insult you ? how can he insult you for telling him you love him? you are not doing something wrong … just tell him ..i love you and tell him you dont expect anything great coz things are complicated and he may have a gf but you just wanted him to know… tell him ab…

no you are not bugging me ab im sorry just my connection faints… you can just tell him a simple i am in love with you…when u see him at school or call him and dont care about anything else. just let your emotions free sweety

and dont expect * .. it needs courage but it will set you free ab..

and will think*

we shouldnt be ashamed about how we feel!! what do u have to loose? you should be proud of having the courage to speak out your feelings..dont hold it inside..and it doesn matter if he has a girlfriend or if he calls his friend.there will be the moment when he will be alone and will about the way you feel and if he still loves you too. just tell him you love him and texpect an answer. just let it out and wait sweety… dont let it making u suffer..it will be ok *hugs you*

awww ab :( .. listen you are in love with him and all you have to do is really talk sweety..you have to let it out and tell him how u feel and stop torturing yourself.you can call him if you dont want to meet him in person or you can write something to him.it doesnt have to be complicated just tell him how you feel.tell him you are in love with him and you think about him every day and you werent with him all this time cause you were afraid and you regret it ..

ab have u been in a relationship with him? have u ever told him how you feel about him?

what is going on ab?

sure we can talk :) how are u today ?

any time, you’re welcome.

possibly. I wouldn’t jump to conclusions, it may be that he just likes you, but like i said, what he’s doing is not normal behavior either way. The best thing i can say is just talk to him in a public place with plenty of people around and ask him why he’s doing this. If its not because he likes you, then tell ask him to please leave you alone. if he doesn’t or it gets worse, call the cops.

well he is not in my school .and out of hand well u think he can harm?

if he insults you, so what? if he does hate you and is after you for some reason, i suggest just staying away from him altogether, maybe informing a teacher or principal at school about his beavior(driving by your house and staring), before it gets out of hand.

well ya this will be the last shout,but i cannot ask him coz wat if he insults me,i don’t know i mean some of my friends told an aunty one dau that he was after me ok.then once he told someone that he hates me but then he behaves the way i mentined in the above post .i think he is trying to play up .ya may be i am getting it