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• Help!
  

  You could also make stencils of each piece of the design you want in the different colors and practice lightly spray painting a piece of fabric with the different paints until you achieve the results you want. Then do it again on other fabric. Or a duffel. Or purse, or whatever. Or use the original fabric and make a purse.
  
  Then take a picture and share with us please!
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• I’ve got a sugar cookie craving, but there isn’t any dough in the house, and no store-bought either.
  

  It’s not too late ;)
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• I believe that my “myspace” site was hacked and the picture there copied and posted on a porn site.
  

  Regarding the damage to your marriage: It’s easy enough for you to prove it wasn’t you who created the account on the porn site.
  
  Conversely, it’s easy enough for your wife to find out if you actually did create the account on the porn site if you did ;)
  
  All of those sites track the IP address, and sometimes even the actual computer used to access the site (like mac address, which is the actual identifier for a particular computer).
  
  So if you know your IP address and/or Mac address, it’s easy enough to prove or rule out your actual visits to the site.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• I (Don’t) have a mother
  

  Coming to grips with the fact that she may never be who you want/need her to be is going to be important to you as you grow older.
  
  You’re obviously very smart. Please recognize that continuing to blame her for not being who she can’t be isn’t going to help either of you move forward.
  
  Some constructive steps that may help you:
  
  a) Find a female or even male relative (sibling maybe?) or parent of a friend who will be willing to set aside some time to talk with you about stuff that’s important to you.
  
  b) Recognize that you may have to set your own limits in some areas since your mom can’t do this for you.
  
  c) Forgive your mother for doing the best she can, even if it’s not enough for you. EVERYOne is always doing the best they can, even when it’s crappy. It’s reality. In the long run, you’ll foster a more loving relationship that will sustain you throughout your life if you can let go of blame.
  
  d) Set up check ins with your school to review school work. Ultimately this kind of stuff will be your responsibility, you’re just going to assume that responsibility earlier than most other people. In the long run, you’ll create discipline for yourself that will make it so much easier for you to succeed as an adult. This is really not a bad thing. You’re basically ensuring your own strength and independence.
  
  e) Repeat item c. Let go of blame. It’s caustic and won’t change the situation. Even if you were somehow able to make your mother understand she’s not performing to your expectations, she may never be able to do any better than she is AND she could end up getting buried by guilt, self-hate, and more. My sense is you really don’t want that.
  
  f) Remember this is all temporary. Soon you will be 100% responsible for all of the choices in your life, and their results. Give yourself mad props for paying attention and getting your needs met, even if that’s not thru your mom.
  
  g) Talk to other adults, not in a way that accuses your mom, but in ways that helps you get your needs met in a variety of ways. Get creative. Make it fun for yourself and you’ll feel better about a lot of this.
  
  I wish you much good luck.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

• wow I didn’t think I would feel this way!
  

  Helpbot’s lovely advice aside ;) Congratulations :D It’s a real blessing to move on, and absolutely the only way to eventually make room for something new.
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago

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