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• This poem was written months ago but I am still unsure how I feel about it. posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  I wrote it after seeing Neil Gaiman’s “plot-enhanced” version of i>Beowulf /i>an…

• Living with mom. posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  Even as you approach (hit?) middle age, your mother can play a very important part of your life̵…

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• I’m just starting to deal with this…
  

  Nothing weird about it not getting things figured out for so long after an incident like this. I’m 45 and still trying to figure out ways in which my childhood/adolescence have made me who I am and in what ways I would change as a result of what I know.
  
  If you’re strong enough to have found you want to delve in more, you’re strong enough to go through the experience of counseling and see what you learn about yourself there.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• So…do you think counselors are really all they’re chalked up to be?
  

  I have an MS in Counseling. I think I can say for certainty that all counselors are differently equipped to handle such a trauma.
  
  I would suggest talking to the county human services or local rape crisis center if you have one. They should know about counselors/psychologists in your area who have a good record of dealing with such issues.
  
  No two people will have the same experience with the same counselor. You are a consumer of services: you have the right to say you want someone different than the person who was recommended. They have a right to do their best, but to fail your needs. It’s scary to trust someone else with smaller issues.
  
  However, that being said, if I had insurance, I’d go. One of the major things they should tell you is that this incident cannot be easily separated from everything else in your life and how you feel about it. This is why it could be important to go.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• This poem was written months ago but I am still unsure how I feel about it.
  

  Helpfulbelle–
  With a poem, or any other bit of writing, there’re often question marks in my brain regarding the effectiveness of what I’ve written, could it be pared down more, are there areas that will or will not need expansion due to the feeling and/or idea being accessible to a reader. If I’m stuck or impatient, I often show poems to others to get a feeling for whether or not they’re finished.
  
  Pseudoniem–
  The end and Judgment Day are the same thing–but more metaphorical than historical. You don’t find me putting myself among the souls who vanish from the worldly plane and scoot straight to God’s side. Though that might be interesting for anOTHER poem. :)
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• i am restless to the peak.,,,,, i got very poor concentration too….
  

  Get someone to prescribe medication for you. It’s made a world of difference for me.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• Sometimes I think about walking into my room,
  

  Sometimes I feel that way, too. It’s been months, though. My cure is usually humor. Meditation helps me, too, in keeping me from going that far in the first place.
  
  You can contact me through my blog if you ever feel a need. I’d give you my personal e-mail through that site. rationalpsychic.wordpress . com, donchaknow.
  
  I’m wishing you well.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

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