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It depends on the cost of the shopping cart, but most cost from $200-500 or more. They actually pay people to cruise around and round up their carts when they get low. That recoups part of the cost of theft or using them to take groceries home. My question is, if you use a cart to take your groceries home, why can’t you walk back with the cart the next time you go shopping? Don’t take the bus there if you have a cart at home :-) I’m sure there are stats on that number somewhere.

If you have problems with motivation, try the military. If you have any college training at all, they can bump you up. They will provide a paycheck and everything you need until you get your head together. It would just be a way to hold on and get focused. Other than that, if you are self defeating, you will have to work for someone else. Try a career counselor. You may find what you need to be looking for with a few tests. Most of all, get over the blockages. You are your own worst enemy when you try to trip yourself up. If you are aware of it, you can get over it. Only you can deal with it.

There are finance companies that will do personal loans for short term, but without work that may be tough. If you find local loan brokers, they may have someone willing to take a chance with you. Just take in your bona fide offer and show them, and they may find someone ready to deal. Go to someone that is used to doing construction loans. Ask some contractors who they get their money from. Unfortunately, you may end up like so many others. Can you get the people that are buying to give more money up front? They may be waiting for foreclosure to buy it cheaper. Maybe they just tied you up so you can’t do anything else with it, and they will let it go to trustee sale to save a few thousand.

While you are signed on to AOL, open your Internet Explorer browser. You can then go to the Yahoo site and download it directly. They should not be blocking it at all. It may just be your system.

Even if you find out bad stuff about him and tell her about it, he will just excuse it and she won’t care. I went through this with my daughter. I finally just sent her out on her own because I will not enable her to mess up her life. I told her if she was going to do that, she could do it herself and pay for it herself. Just don’t hang around with them if it weirds you out. He will say all the right things to her, touch her and hold her, and she will eat it up. You can’t stop them.

Temp agency can probably get him something in the meantime. Go to sites like Monster.com and other job sites, and find jobs that way. Often newspaper and TV websites will have links to job sites you can use. Just have him keep trying, that is all you can do. Trying to get someone on here to give him a job is like a dog going to a cat convention to get someone to give him a bone.

Find a writer’s group and go to some of their meetings. They would probably love to help a young writer get inspired.

Do you mean a mall manager as in someone who manages rental and maintenance of the stores in a location? Or do you mean someone who manages a store in a mall? If you mean the person that oversees the property in general, it depends on the market in your area, and the size of the mall. A large enclosed mall is more to manage than an open strip mall. Otherwise, you are just a property manager. Some also receive bonuses for low vacancy, etc. It is hard to say exactly what they make. If you mean someone who manages a store, that also depends on the store. If it is a local store, perhaps hourly. If it is a chain, they may make $30k and up. You can play with this to run some numbers
http://parade.salary.com/salarytimer/…

I WAS being easy. I am just pointing out that his behavior is consistent. Yes, I remember being this age, and that is why I validated her thoughts. She just needs to realize there are options out there in the guy’s perspective, such as being bored, or just wanting someone to be seen with. She should go with the flow, and be happy that she is getting exactly what she wanted. She is a lucky girl.

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[quote]So I talked to X and I told him I couldn’t go and he told me he couldn’t go. He said he will call me sometime and we can go to the movies some other time. I reminded him that Y will be leaving for Mexico Tomorrow Night. And I told him that Z got in trouble so it might just be the two of us. He said…I know that. That’s the whole point.[/quote]

What is there about this that you don’t understand? You want someone to hang out with, and he apparently will do that with you. Do you think he would have have said that if he didn’t?

Either he likes you, or he is bored, or he just wants to be seen around town with a girl. Either way, you get what you are looking for, and he gets a date. Just beware of staying out too late with him. Guys have a tendency to have expectations at night.

I can’t see that this is a real post for help. I think it is just for validation. Yes, you have been validated, he likes you, and you should be happy.

If you look in her eyes, it will make it easier to talk with her. Don’t be intimidated by her. The worst she can do is say no, so your life is not in jeopardy. If you risk it, she may say yes. If you don’t try it, she will never know you like her and you will never have a chance.

People get worked up over talking with someone, when their life doesn’t depend on it. Just realize she is a person too. Look in the mirror, and pretend you are talking to her. Rehearse what you are going to say, walk up in front of her and look her in the eyes and say it slowly and confidently with a smile. She will respect that and give you an answer. If she says no, then move on.

Now, what should you say to her? It’s simple.

Simply say that you have noticed her [pick one ~ intelligence, wit, personality, sense of humor ~ only pick what is true], and that you would like to get to know her better over [pick one ~ coffee, dinner, lunch, break, a walk in the park] if she would be willing to go with you [date and time]. Here is an example.

Hi, Cindy. I have noticed you have a great personality, and I really like that. I would love to get to know more about you over lunch some time. Would you be willing to join me tomorrow at noon? We can go to Gino’s and talk over some pasta.

If she says no, pick a different day. If she says no again, ask her what day or time would work for her, maybe over dinner instead. Keep with options until she tells you absolutely no. Don’t badger her, but don’t let her wiggle out of a choice, or you will always wonder. Just be confident, look sincere, and remember that once you start, you need to finish. Don’t back up, look away, or look down. If she doesn’t answer right away, wait quietly. Let HER say the next word. If you start talking again you may talk her out of it. Once you ask, it is HER turn. Don’t start second guessing and say something like, well only if you want to, or if that’s okay, or anything that shows weakness.

Once you get a yes, just smile. Don’t get all excited. Smile and say “Good, I will see you there. I really look forward to it” and walk away still smiling. Go around the corner before you react. If her answer was no and she will not agree to see you, just say, “Okay, I just thought I would ask. If you change your mind, here is how to contact me” and give her a paper with your phone number on it.

Either way, you walk away a winner. You win because you dealt with this problem, you win because you overcame fear, and you win because you now have your answer. The rewards are great. Then once this is done, either way it went, treat yourself to something. Maybe go to a movie, play your favorite game, or buy yourself a soda because you are a winner and will win again next time.

The reason I picked intangible choices like intelligence and humor, is because women want to know if you appreciate them for what is inside. Even the most beautiful woman loves to hear how beautiful she is, but she also wants t oknow that someone can see inside her. She wants a man to know her heart, not her bra size. Just remember not to be superficial, or just say “nice dress”. That means nothing. Acknowledge the woman inside, and you will be rewarded with her respect.

Hard goods and soft lines refer to the two types of products in retail outside of the grocery world. Soft lines is clothing and accessories. That includes mens, womens, childrens, lingerie, purses, underwear, and all that stuff you see in the front end of Walmart. Hard lines or hard goods refer to everything else in the store. This includes hardware, automotive, pet supplies, stationery, electronics, home items, books, etc. These are probably what you mean.

It doesn’t get any better. If he is not man enough to be on his own from the family, it will overshadow your relationship forever. If anything ever goes wrong, he will blame you. His family may turn against him and he will blame you. You may have a child and if his family turns their back, he will blame you. Your child deserves a better family. Start with a better man. Then when you do have a child with the right man, his or her life will be better. Don’t start with this guy, move on. Another one will come along. Don’t even give him an ultimatum. Just dump him. If he really does love you, he will come groveling to you. Tell him to go away. You will do better.

Try temp agencies, your school, and employment agency. The school usually has either jobs on campus, or a job referral office like an employment agency. I hate to say this, but if you are having that much bad luck, there is something about you. You have to realize that in California, it is different than Ohio. They probably have hundreds of people applying all the time here, where maybe in Ohio it was slimmer pickings. They may have accepted more there than they do here.

Also keep in mind that timing is a big part of it. When you put in an application, ask for the manager. Don’t just turn it in. When you meet with the manager, shake hands and introduce yourself. Say you are looking for a job, and would be willing to do whatever he/she has available. Give them your application and say you are willing to start right away if there is an opening available. I am willing to risk my reputation that if you do this consistently, you will have a job in a week.

Use proper grammar in your applications, answer all questions, and make them pertinent to the job. If you are applying for a janitorial position, it doesn’t matter that you can draw. Tell them how good you sling a mop on the application where it asks for job duties and skills. You need to be truthful, but be specific to the type of job you want. For french fryer, don’t highlight your duties as a driver. Tell them your duties included operating a vehicle with proper timing and accuracy in company deliveries, liason with other employees and transport, and ability to operate equipment as assigned. It sounds better than drove delivery truck, and shows more ability that may apply to working with others making fries.

Be confident, neat, and dress for the job. No jeans, no tee shirts. Show up neat and clean, wear nice pants (maybe uniform pants like Dickies you can get at Walmart) and a neat shirt, maybe polo or button up casual. No hat, hair neat, and SMILE. Look the manager in the eyes, and show confidence. If you walk in at the right time, all of this should get you a job real fast.

Print neatly, too. If they have to re-read it, you don’t have a chance.

Oh, and I should add this, too. If you care about your future, don’t concentrate on men, dating, who is with who, and all of that. Apply yourself to school and self improvement. Then when you have a degree and good paycheck, all of those guys will be hating themselves for fooling around like that.