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• I’m back and I really need your opinions please! posted (4 years, 3 months) ago
  As you all *as in my friends* know, I found this site because I lost the love of my life. Well, I&…

• Temporarily back from my break: got a question of the paranormal experience. posted (4 years, 7 months) ago
  Anyone here know anything about spirit photos/aura photos? Anything along those lines? Let me kno…

• This may be the hardest post I’ve put up here. posted (4 years, 8 months) ago
  Given the recent events in my life and how they’re panning out, I am going to leave helpdotco…

• Conflicted. posted (4 years, 8 months) ago
  That’s the only word to sum up what has been going through my head the last few weeks. Since…

• Help answer the pros and cons of having children? posted (4 years, 9 months) ago
  ! I would like to know what everyone thinks the pros/cons are to having children. Are they really p…

• College Help, research paper for a buddy of mine! posted (4 years, 9 months) ago
  He is trying to find information on Hesser College, located in Manchester, NH from 1958. His focu…

• To All Women Familiar With Planned Parenthood and The Fight Against Bush, Please Read! posted (4 years, 9 months) ago
  This is just my opinion, if you’d like to leave one, please do :D Here is the link you̵…

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• (1 vote) How do you know when its the right time to say “i
  

  well cakin, guess what hon? You’re not really ready to say it if you’re expecting to hear it back. you know when you truly truly love someone you are willing to tell them anything including the “i love yous” without expecting anything back. If you are just waiting to hear it from him to say it first, you really need to take a step back and think if you’re truly in love. Think about this: If you did say it and he said it back, then one day, say three years or so down the road, he just stops saying it… then he decides to split up and you both go your seperate ways. Would you still tell him you love him without expecting to hear it back? If the answer is no, then you are not ready…
  
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago – voted for by AmandaLynn

• (1 vote) I am writing this in floods of tears.
  

  I wish I could give you a hug right now. I know how much you’re hurting and all I can say is I wish my guy felt like you do. This may be one of the biggest mistakes of your life, but all you can do is recognize it every day. Try to do exactly the opposite of what you did do. Just keep trying to show her how you feel about her everyday. If you truly want her, you’ll find a way to keep fighting. I am.
  
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago – voted for by pinkfluf

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• I’m back and I really need your opinions please!
  

  [quote Stress007]maybe you could tell him your done, and that your looking for something more stable
  if he wants the same he might suggest it to you, so you wouldnt have to =0?[/quote]
  
  I like this suggestion and will def keep it in mind! Thank you!
  
  
  
  [quote ~Shie~][quote tmpy~is~back]Aww hey you two!!! Thanx for the welcoming! I feel so loved when I’m here. :)
  
  So Shie!!! This part’s for you! It’s weird how at one point you can talk about anything with your partner, then as in this case, one person starts to wonder about what could be with that partner and it becomes a scary situation. I know that I’m half expecting him to tell me to leave at some point, but I don’t want to provoke that in him just yet. And yes, we’re sort of living together, I’m at his house more than I’m at mine and I can’t remember the last time I slept at home for reasons other than it was snowing. So that’s another thing about this, eh? Would someone who didn’t want a girlfriend invite her to spend the night nearly every night? Just weird, I was always able to talk to Alan about anything and now that I think I may have feelings for him, I just can’t. I’m chicken shizzle, yes! And you’re so right! He COULD have used it, but didn’t; though, I don’t think he ever had any intention that day.
  Ok, so for both of you (and anyone else) how the hell would I be able to realize if he does want a formal relationship with me? I’m so lost! LOL :)[/quote]
  
  
  well.. this is what i think you should do.. and IN MY OWN CASE.. i have to say.. although i have been with my fiance’ for 2 years now.. i have to admit.. sometimes i wonder myself.. what is going through his mind.. and does he feel the way i think he feels.. lol.. i mean.. we are engaged and all… but sometimes.. i wonder… the ifs and why.. and this and that and all those crazy little stupid silly thoughts of why… and what.. if that makes any sense.. i know.. a bit different from your situation.. but… this is what i do… i play a little game.. lol.. yes.. at 34 years old.. i play a little game.. lol.. because although rog and i get along absolutely awesomely.. and the love is there.. im a girl.. i want the cuddling and the caressing.. we as girls know.. men dont do as much as we like.. :) so as a person who suffers with depression and a past from hell.. i find myself thinking of stupid stuff like i said above.. so i do a little test when im feeling blue.. i wait.. sit back and wait until he shows me what i want.. lol.. because im a cuddler.. always going to him.. hugging and kissing him for absolutely no reason.. if i stop doing that.. he misses it.. and so after a few hours.. he starts.. lol.. so what i mean about this little game is this..
  spend a night or two at your house.. pull away just that little tiny itsy bitsy bit.. and see how he acts.. i also find that when i do this.. my fiance opens up to talking as well.. :) he is the one who starts the conversation on the emotional side about things.. lol.. i know.. maybe a little immature of sorts for someone my age.. but being a person that was never allowed to communicate my feelings growing up.. im not one to express how i feel.. so i have thought of other ways to get my way of expression out.. lol.. it works for me.. lol..
  
  other than that.. all i can say is.. get em drunk and have a friend talk to em.. lol.. i have always found that drunk people speak the truth.. lmfao..[/quote]
  
  Shie, LOL hun! I don’t know if Alan is the type of guy to do what Rog does, but I might try the staying at home thing for a little while…
  
  
  I also just got fired from one of my cleaning jobs today, so I’m not in the best frame of mind… Thank you everyone!
  - written 4 years, 3 months ago

• I’m back and I really need your opinions please!
  

  Aww hey you two!!! Thanx for the welcoming! I feel so loved when I’m here. :)
  Anywhozits, Lucy, I have become somewhat attached to him, however like I said, I am not in love with him. We had a conversation about that too at one point. I had asked him what would happen to ‘us’ if Jamie decided he wanted me back? Or if Joanne wanted him back? He said to me and this is a direct quote cuz for some reason, I can’t get it out of my head: “I’d be upset, but not as upset as if it were someone new.” So right there pretty much told me that I (shouldn’t) look for someone else to love because he is right there… or something… I do know that it will hurtif he decides to go banging around with someone else, but that’s expected in this type of relationship. Like Dawn said, ‘you both want the same thing, just not the title.’
  So Shie!!! This part’s for you! It’s weird how at one point you can talk about anything with your partner, then as in this case, one person starts to wonder about what could be with that partner and it becomes a scary situation. I know that I’m half expecting him to tell me to leave at some point, but I don’t want to provoke that in him just yet. And yes, we’re sort of living together, I’m at his house more than I’m at mine and I can’t remember the last time I slept at home for reasons other than it was snowing. So that’s another thing about this, eh? Would someone who didn’t want a girlfriend invite her to spend the night nearly every night? Just weird, I was always able to talk to Alan about anything and now that I think I may have feelings for him, I just can’t. I’m chicken shizzle, yes! And you’re so right! He COULD have used it, but didn’t; though, I don’t think he ever had any intention that day.
  Ok, so for both of you (and anyone else) how the hell would I be able to realize if he does want a formal relationship with me? I’m so lost! LOL :)
  - written 4 years, 3 months ago

• PIRATES!
  

  OMG, this is STILL going?! Well, might as well then:
  
  Yo ho ho and a bottle of whiskey! YAR!!! Mmm, hardtack… Capt. Ciara Ainsling needs more whiskey!
  - written 4 years, 3 months ago

• PIRATES!
  

  16 sailors on a dead man’s chest, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum! YARRRR!
  - written 4 years, 5 months ago

• PIRATES!
  

  And now for something completely different! *Oh wait, no, it’s more of the same* SHANTY TIME!!!
  
  It was just after midnight when I heard the captain shout
  “Curse the devil behold it there are rats about!”
  They were crawling up the gangplanks
  They were streaming up the sheets
  Every sailor had a hundred snapping at his feet
  “What can we do?” cried the sailors as the rats began to dance
  “It’s a hopeless situation but we have one chance,
  Every man go ashore searching this way and that
  Don’t ever show your face till you find that cat!”
  
  (Chorus)
  Swing it high swing it low
  If it hollers let it go
  If it’s strong there’s only one way to take care of that
  You must grab it by its feet
  Swing it high swing it neat
  You can save a life at that
  If you can swing a cat!
  
  So we sprang to the docks and we bolted through the town
  Every young man among us searching up and down
  300 sailors running loose what do you think of that?
  And ever salty sailor surely found a cat!
  Back to the ship we went running with our prizes
  There were cats of many colors there were cats of many sizes
  When the rats saw us coming sure they all began to shout,
  “Curse the devil below there are cats about!
  
  (Chorus)
  
  So we turned our kitties loose on the unsuspecting hoard
  While the rats by the thousands scrambled overboard.
  They were swept out to sea, every germy little tail
  And the sun rose upon us as we hoisted sail.
  Now we sail the mighty ocean, and we’re such a happy crew,
  With our kitties here to help us out there’s nothing much to do.
  If a cat catches two fish, he is sure to give you one
  and they’ll sing you all to sleep when your day is done
  
  (Chorus)
  
  
  
  Oh Hell! What’s one more?! :D
  
  
  What care we how white the spray is?
  What care we for the wind the weather?
  Let her go boys, every inch is bearing home
  Home to Mingulay
  
  {chorus}
  
  Heel your ho boys, let her go boys
  Heave her head round into the weather
  Heel your ho boys, let her go boys,
  Sailing homeward to Mingulay
  
  Set your eyes on the sun a-risin
  Gulls and doves fill the sky with feathers
  Cut her loose, boys, for the horizon
  We’ll be home soon in Mingulay
  
  {chorus}
  
  Wives are waiting on the bank, boys,
  Looking seaward from the heather
  Turn around, boys, and we’ll anchor
  Ere the sun sets on Mingulay
  
  {chorus}
  
  Wives are waitin’, anticipatin’
  For the end of our adventures
  Don’t you cry, girls, we’re returnin
  To the shores of Mingulay
  
  {chorus, soft, then louder}
  Sailin’ homeward to Mingulay
  
  
  Ok, I now return you to your regularly scheduled lives already in progress…
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago

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