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[quote Stress007]maybe you could tell him your done, and that your looking for something more stable
if he wants the same he might suggest it to you, so you wouldnt have to =0?[/quote]

I like this suggestion and will def keep it in mind! Thank you!

[quote ~Shie~][quote tmpy~is~back]Aww hey you two!!! Thanx for the welcoming! I feel so loved when I’m here. :)

So Shie!!! This part’s for you! It’s weird how at one point you can talk about anything with your partner, then as in this case, one person starts to wonder about what could be with that partner and it becomes a scary situation. I know that I’m half expecting him to tell me to leave at some point, but I don’t want to provoke that in him just yet. And yes, we’re sort of living together, I’m at his house more than I’m at mine and I can’t remember the last time I slept at home for reasons other than it was snowing. So that’s another thing about this, eh? Would someone who didn’t want a girlfriend invite her to spend the night nearly every night? Just weird, I was always able to talk to Alan about anything and now that I think I may have feelings for him, I just can’t. I’m chicken shizzle, yes! And you’re so right! He COULD have used it, but didn’t; though, I don’t think he ever had any intention that day.
Ok, so for both of you (and anyone else) how the hell would I be able to realize if he does want a formal relationship with me? I’m so lost! LOL :)[/quote]

well.. this is what i think you should do.. and IN MY OWN CASE.. i have to say.. although i have been with my fiance’ for 2 years now.. i have to admit.. sometimes i wonder myself.. what is going through his mind.. and does he feel the way i think he feels.. lol.. i mean.. we are engaged and all… but sometimes.. i wonder… the ifs and why.. and this and that and all those crazy little stupid silly thoughts of why… and what.. if that makes any sense.. i know.. a bit different from your situation.. but… this is what i do… i play a little game.. lol.. yes.. at 34 years old.. i play a little game.. lol.. because although rog and i get along absolutely awesomely.. and the love is there.. im a girl.. i want the cuddling and the caressing.. we as girls know.. men dont do as much as we like.. :) so as a person who suffers with depression and a past from hell.. i find myself thinking of stupid stuff like i said above.. so i do a little test when im feeling blue.. i wait.. sit back and wait until he shows me what i want.. lol.. because im a cuddler.. always going to him.. hugging and kissing him for absolutely no reason.. if i stop doing that.. he misses it.. and so after a few hours.. he starts.. lol.. so what i mean about this little game is this..
spend a night or two at your house.. pull away just that little tiny itsy bitsy bit.. and see how he acts.. i also find that when i do this.. my fiance opens up to talking as well.. :) he is the one who starts the conversation on the emotional side about things.. lol.. i know.. maybe a little immature of sorts for someone my age.. but being a person that was never allowed to communicate my feelings growing up.. im not one to express how i feel.. so i have thought of other ways to get my way of expression out.. lol.. it works for me.. lol..

other than that.. all i can say is.. get em drunk and have a friend talk to em.. lol.. i have always found that drunk people speak the truth.. lmfao..[/quote]

Shie, LOL hun! I don’t know if Alan is the type of guy to do what Rog does, but I might try the staying at home thing for a little while…

I also just got fired from one of my cleaning jobs today, so I’m not in the best frame of mind… Thank you everyone!

Aww hey you two!!! Thanx for the welcoming! I feel so loved when I’m here. :)
Anywhozits, Lucy, I have become somewhat attached to him, however like I said, I am not in love with him. We had a conversation about that too at one point. I had asked him what would happen to ‘us’ if Jamie decided he wanted me back? Or if Joanne wanted him back? He said to me and this is a direct quote cuz for some reason, I can’t get it out of my head: “I’d be upset, but not as upset as if it were someone new.” So right there pretty much told me that I (shouldn’t) look for someone else to love because he is right there… or something… I do know that it will hurtif he decides to go banging around with someone else, but that’s expected in this type of relationship. Like Dawn said, ‘you both want the same thing, just not the title.’
So Shie!!! This part’s for you! It’s weird how at one point you can talk about anything with your partner, then as in this case, one person starts to wonder about what could be with that partner and it becomes a scary situation. I know that I’m half expecting him to tell me to leave at some point, but I don’t want to provoke that in him just yet. And yes, we’re sort of living together, I’m at his house more than I’m at mine and I can’t remember the last time I slept at home for reasons other than it was snowing. So that’s another thing about this, eh? Would someone who didn’t want a girlfriend invite her to spend the night nearly every night? Just weird, I was always able to talk to Alan about anything and now that I think I may have feelings for him, I just can’t. I’m chicken shizzle, yes! And you’re so right! He COULD have used it, but didn’t; though, I don’t think he ever had any intention that day.
Ok, so for both of you (and anyone else) how the hell would I be able to realize if he does want a formal relationship with me? I’m so lost! LOL :)

OMG, this is STILL going?! Well, might as well then:

Yo ho ho and a bottle of whiskey! YAR!!! Mmm, hardtack… Capt. Ciara Ainsling needs more whiskey!

16 sailors on a dead man’s chest, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum! YARRRR!

And now for something completely different! *Oh wait, no, it’s more of the same* SHANTY TIME!!!

It was just after midnight when I heard the captain shout
“Curse the devil behold it there are rats about!”
They were crawling up the gangplanks
They were streaming up the sheets
Every sailor had a hundred snapping at his feet
“What can we do?” cried the sailors as the rats began to dance
“It’s a hopeless situation but we have one chance,
Every man go ashore searching this way and that
Don’t ever show your face till you find that cat!”

(Chorus)
Swing it high swing it low
If it hollers let it go
If it’s strong there’s only one way to take care of that
You must grab it by its feet
Swing it high swing it neat
You can save a life at that
If you can swing a cat!

So we sprang to the docks and we bolted through the town
Every young man among us searching up and down
300 sailors running loose what do you think of that?
And ever salty sailor surely found a cat!
Back to the ship we went running with our prizes
There were cats of many colors there were cats of many sizes
When the rats saw us coming sure they all began to shout,
“Curse the devil below there are cats about!

(Chorus)

So we turned our kitties loose on the unsuspecting hoard
While the rats by the thousands scrambled overboard.
They were swept out to sea, every germy little tail
And the sun rose upon us as we hoisted sail.
Now we sail the mighty ocean, and we’re such a happy crew,
With our kitties here to help us out there’s nothing much to do.
If a cat catches two fish, he is sure to give you one
and they’ll sing you all to sleep when your day is done

(Chorus)

Oh Hell! What’s one more?! :D

What care we how white the spray is?
What care we for the wind the weather?
Let her go boys, every inch is bearing home
Home to Mingulay

{chorus}

Heel your ho boys, let her go boys
Heave her head round into the weather
Heel your ho boys, let her go boys,
Sailing homeward to Mingulay

Set your eyes on the sun a-risin
Gulls and doves fill the sky with feathers
Cut her loose, boys, for the horizon
We’ll be home soon in Mingulay

{chorus}

Wives are waiting on the bank, boys,
Looking seaward from the heather
Turn around, boys, and we’ll anchor
Ere the sun sets on Mingulay

{chorus}

Wives are waitin’, anticipatin’
For the end of our adventures
Don’t you cry, girls, we’re returnin
To the shores of Mingulay

{chorus, soft, then louder}
Sailin’ homeward to Mingulay

Ok, I now return you to your regularly scheduled lives already in progress…

Ahh, I see… We’ll talk on AIM!

God only punishes those who have forsaken him all together love! I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and ask that your father makes it through this awful stretch. I send you lots of love and hugs godfather! As you’ve been here for me, I’ll be here for you! Email me if you’d like to talk more directly, ok? :D

Take all yeh can, give nothin back!

I added you enough21!

And Bogdan, thank you again, I really appreciated the help! how are your eyes?

[quote Bogdan]Your love for him is more companionate than passionate, which means you will have a long term non physical relationship with him, basically as the friends you are now. In the future, you and he may wind up together, because angels are keeping you together, such is a reason his ex-wife couldn’t seperate you. You have a beautiful aura, but I am not definite on the outcome of the situation, sorry.[/quote]

Thank you Bogdan. I appreciate everything you’ve said here! I will be sure to let my friend in the pic know about it. Maybe he’ll stop trying to debunk it lol!

[quote Bogdan]

I also have relatively high eye pressure, which probably doesnt help the situation.

I’d like to thank everyone for their advice, input and caring. I really appreciate it, but it seems there is no major problem.[/quote]

Hey hun. This part sounds like something my dad experienced a few years back. Ask your doctor about Closed-Angular Glaucoma. It’s rarely heard of and no, it’s not the kind that smokin helps… That’s always the first question I hear when I mention this, so to avoid confusion…
Good luck hun, now I’m off to check the pic post again.

[quote lazy][quote ~Break-taking-bitsh~]Time for me favourite shanty[/quote]

melikes[/quote]

You should hear it sung a capella; beautifully done… although i must admit, i changed all the ‘my’s’ to ‘me’s’ :) just sounded better lol

Bogdan, do you smoke by chance? Lack of oxygen can cause you to have those sparkles. Do you see them all the time or mostly when staring into a solid, bright colour? I see them too and I have my own thing to think of them as, but I do smoke also, which is more than likely the reason for it because my eyes are in good health. Good luck and please, do let us know what it turns out to be. And thank you again for all your help on the photo question! :)

[quote Bogdan]This guy, you and he are very close aren’t you? Is he your brother, or boyfriend? There is so much love, but it is a spiritual affinity, not a physical lust. Angels bring you together. Even as friends you are close.

Do you find that he “knows your soul” so to speak?[/quote]

Well, long story short: we met about 13 or 14 years ago, we started dating for a little while about three/four years after that, broke up, but remained friends, really, really good friends. Nothing, not even his ex-wife *god knows she tried* has ever been able to get between us… We still say ‘i love you’ to each other, but I harbor a different type of love for him (he still has lust, but not the real love, you know?) There definitely is a lust factor, but it’s quite minimal compared to the love.
Yes, he knows myne better than anyone and I know his better than anyone (including the girl he just asked to marry him). In fact, when I saw his proposal to her, I cried nearly uncontrolably for hours… but she is a nice girl and good for him.
There was one other thing that brought us really close together, but I’m not going to state it here, people might think I’m weird ROFLMAO!
Thank you again, Bogdan, I do appreciate whatever help you’ve given and continue to give :)

[quote Bogdan]Did you change it back? There is only you, no friend in that picture.[/quote]

LOL, yeah changed it. Now I’ve spoken with the guy in the pic, he already tried debunking it by saying that the sun was behind us. Thing there is, I know when the pic was taken, the sun was behind the camera man. So… and thank you for showing an interest in this. :)