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• Help me to talk with my dad.
  

  Hi Anna,
  I found this posting by typing in .. “my father hasnt talked to me in 6 years”… I am in the same boat as you are. I want to know why. I called last year only to be ignored, Ive written a card a year hoping it was my stepmom that didnt give it to him. And finally 5 days ago I emailed him. And.. no responce. I desperately want a father and Im 29 years old and Im still not over it. My dad left at 13 and stayed close to my sister, but started ignoring me .Weve tried to patch things. They started to patch up @ age 23 but .. then I met my husband and he didnt like him and when I finally stood up and said no .. you dont have the right to have a say in my life. … I got married and didnt invite him. Like when he had gotten married and not invited me. We are similar in character. We dont want people to try to ruin something we feel we have the right to have . However .. we are different even though Im extremely upset .. I cant disown him as he can me….That was 6 years ago and he hasnt spoken to me since. Ive said Im sorry and its dont no good. The day after my wedding he emailed the most hurtful letter that Ive ever seen , and even numbered it as a list to fail by.He told me that i was going to be divorced and never become anything…among other things that hurt so bad…Well 6 years later I continued to tour the world as a professional figureskater and perform on the LAS VEGAS Strip as a lead dancer and now Im the entertainment director at a major Vegas Nightclub..and yes Im still married…Maybe he cant face that hes wrong.. I will always ask the questions as you do. But I feel I will never have answers. I want to send a nasty email but I dont want to sink to his level. Its hard .. But dont drive yourself crazy . You are beautiful and you cant change him. Although its hard… try to put it out of your mind. Try to do it. Contact him everyonce in awhile and dont expect anything. At least youve done what you can do. Good Luck… and Breathe it will all be okay. - I too am confused on how a father can do this to their child…my mom is tired too and says he loves me, the rest of my family stays out of it .. however I did get the email address from my sister. , so a thankyou to her for that… I figured the email would give me peace and its given me nothing but torment……we sound so much alike girl…. just know you arent alone and there is nothing wrong with you .. Its him…Kat
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago

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