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I agree.
Disagreements are inevitable, but what I really meant was more like I hope they get resolved promptly, you know?…
I wish you the best.
You are thinking right JDL.

Smooth sailing? I wish it were so, but I honestly doubt it. As it were, I’m still human, and she’s still human, and at some point we’re going to do something to piss each other off and there will be another fight. But the only way you get to really know someone is through disagreement. I told her that, while I’m not exactly looking forward to our next argument, I do think they’re important to have when necessary, and am more looking forward to learning from each other and working through things like disagreements. Just not ones as drastic as jealousy and self-esteem issues and the like.

All the same, though we’re bound to come across some choppy waters, we’ve got a really great thing going and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Awesome, I’m happy for you man, Its such a good feeling you must be experiencing.
Live it up and I truly hope it all goes “smooth sailing” from here on, you sound like a great guy, you deserve it.

Two months will fly by, watch.

And your welcome, anytime JDL.
Take care.

Everything’s great. Since the argument we’ve grown closer to each other. I’m not sure how, but now things seem like they can’t be any better. And the best part is that I know they can be.

I’ve managed to save up enough money to go see her in November during Thanksgiving break. I’ll be there for a week, and we’re both very much looking forward to it. At times it feels like two months is a long ways away, and other times it feels like it’s just around the corner. But we’re taking things one day at a time and maintaining communication as best we can despite work and school schedules, as well as time zone differences. It’s really hard, but we’re both willing to stick it out and make things work. We’re crazy about each other. It’s really great. :)

Thanks man.

JDL, how are you doing?

All ok?

Ok man. Thanks for letting me know. Glad things went well.

The talk went very well, though it did bring up a few more things we need to work through. (See my latest post for the skinny.) But ultimately, it made us stronger.

Call her then J.D.L. Just be careful not to overdo it. Its normal to feel anxious, to me its because you have feelings for her and don’t want to lose her.
See whats up, and “observe” her reaction (by her tone of voice, if she acts normal or defensive, etc..that kind of stuff..)

I just can’t see why she didn’t let you know about her side in terms of the situation and basically has ignored you in regards to that.
Im with you man, I understand how confusing and hurtful it is.

Let me know how it goes.

Er, she’s not coming to see me till January, actually. For a week or so.

At any rate, she’s back from holiday now. She posted photos. I have a feeling she’s waiting for me to make first contact, and I’m about to call her, but I’m a bit nervous.

I’m going to be sending her a flower, too. To show her I care.

Still, I need some sort of reassurance that calling is the best thing for me to do right now, or if I should just wait a bit longer. I was talking to my friend last night and he told me I should call, and another friend texted me telling me I should call, so I guess that’s the answer, but still, I’m anxious. We haven’t spoken in over a week. I don’t know what’s changed or if she’s still mad or if she’ll even answer the phone.

Ugh. Anyway, thanks man. Talk to you soon.

Let me know if the girl contacts you in regards of the situation your facing. I have not forgotten JDL, its just that I remembered you saying something about her coming for the weekend…so I have been waiting to see if she’ll talk to you or something while she’s there.

take care, I hope you doin’ good.

Your going the right way man, Im glad you are thinking straight and things are going slow and steady, the important thing is progress and your showing it. Time will help heal that hurt you sometimes feel…Its normal for that emotional “flare” to build up sometimes, the best thing is you yourself recognize that you will be OK, so don’t worry about it much, the flare will come and go until it disolves and stops bothering you. Time helps heal.
Thanks for answering back J, take care. I’ll be around.

Yeah they’re getting there. I thought about her again today and felt that flare of worry begin to build up, and just kept reminding myself ‘Everything will work out the way it should.’ I’ve been doing much better since posting the thread. I even made a few new friends after work yesterday over pints, so that was nice. One of the guys said, ‘I like this guy! Don’t go to England. It’d be boring here without ya.’ So it’s good to know people really do think positively about me.

Thanks for all your help, man. You’ve been real cool and genuinely helpful. That’s hard to come by, especially from strangers on the Internet. So again, thank you.

JDL…just checking up on you man. You OK? Emotions under control?
Take care.