An Undisclosed Location
18, Male, bit of a romantic at heart!
Diehard Optimist!
At night I become wise and philishophical, so watch out! :P
I love exclamation marks!
Through helping others I discover myself.
~ Walking on Sunshine ~ =)
Where did you grow up?
England
Where do you live now?
England
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Cosmic Fool's Top (5) Replies by other users' votesWell I believe that everyone has free will. But there is your problem; EVERYONE has it. So like you say; you can set goals, take actions, and all the rest. But so can everyone else. Correct me if I am wrog, but I guess a lot of what you want out of life depends on other people, directly or indirectly. So looking at it that way, there is a lot you don’t have control over.
However, thats not to say you can’t influence others; and thus influence your “fate”, or whatever you choose to call it! The most encouraging words I can offer is to be yourself, while doing what you can to help those around you, and your life will work out for the best. That is something I really believe! :)
- written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Lucerne, melt
Start off by putting things in perspective. Depression is such a universal emotion, I think when you feel down, your never truly alone. So maybe you know the world better than you think, you feel its pain. And trust me, your life is never hopeless, even if your as low as you can be, then the only thing left is to go up.
Gaining in confidence, and battling insecurities, is something that you can really do something about. Its not an easy process, or a quick one, but its the journey that shapes you.
You must start by loving yourself. Yes its cheesy, yes its cliche, but its right. If you don’t love yourself, its hard for others to love you. And love makes the world go around. Make a list of all your positive points. Dig deep, how many people have you made smile? More than you might think. You’ve done good, and you have a lot more to give.
Remember small steps. You can’t go from shy to confident in a day. Set acheivable goals, like smiling at a stranger one week, starting a conversation the next. Or taking up a club, or doing some volunteering. There’s lot of things you can do to help you, and feel better about yourself along the way.
Believe me, that wall blocking your happiness will crumble, you just have to will it too.
- written 3 weeks, 1 day ago – voted for by miskat
Do what you feel comfortable with. Your happiness is in your hands, gotta make a decision.
If you would rather block her out completely, go for it. She cheated on you, a fresh start might be a good thing. There is nothing to feel guilty about.
But if you know you *will* feel guilty, and bad, about ignoring her. Then talk to her. Like I said before, you can always keep things superficial. Just the niceties. Or if you feel you want a release, tell her exactly how you feel. Or tell her you don’t want her messaging you.
Whatever you choose, make sure you have your own happiness in mind. Your hurting, so I think its best to look out for number one right now.
- written 3 weeks, 2 days ago – voted for by kmichelle
So Felicity you have read the bible and “know” God detests homosexuality? Does the bible not also say “Wear only clothes made from 1 cloth”? Do you follow that too? in this day and age I’d doubt it. Times change, so should the understanding of the bible.
Furthermore the bible is littered with condtradictions; it is afterall man’s take on the word of the lord. It is not flawless. God is also all-loving, thus he loves us all, homeosexuals, hetrosexuals, ALL of us. How can you preach such hate, when God gives only love?
Seems to me that you contradict your entire faith with your narrow minded veiws, using it to try and justify homophobia and any other hatful views you may hold. Not the type of Christian that I respect.
- written 1 month ago – voted for by NisaANYgirl
Another though provoking post. Its funny, because I was thinking about something similar just this afternoon (which is now for me). Thinking about how I hide too much behind the person I *think* people want me to be.
I’d say the persona I portray on this board (which may well change, as I am ever adapting to life as I learn new things), is the closest to the real me.
I think it’s easier to be ourselves in the anomity of the internet, where it is so easy to simply escape from, and harder for people to judge us (though inevetabally some still will).
The trick is to take that into “real life”; the face to face interactions that really shape us. I believe if your truly happy with who you are, then its no longer simply an adopted persona; its the real you.
- written 1 month, 1 week ago – voted for by ne'e