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- (2 votes) How much control do we really have over our own lives?
Well I believe that everyone has free will. But there is your problem; EVERYONE has it. So like you say; you can set goals, take actions, and all the rest. But so can everyone else. Correct me if I am wrog, but I guess a lot of what you want out of life depends on other people, directly or indirectly. So looking at it that way, there is a lot you don’t have control over.
However, thats not to say you can’t influence others; and thus influence your “fate”, or whatever you choose to call it! The most encouraging words I can offer is to be yourself, while doing what you can to help those around you, and your life will work out for the best. That is something I really believe! :)
- written 1 year, 4 months ago – voted for by Lucerne, melt - (1 vote) Whenever I reach out for a little bit of human compassion, I hit a brick wall.
The sad fact is people in general are scared of what they don’t understand. We have racists because those people fail to understand different cultures, homeophobes who narrow mindedly refuse to accept there are different sexual orientations, countless wars due to varying religous beliefs. In short, we don’t operate well with the unknown.
Not to say there is no hope, because there is a fundemental human mindset I believe will ’save the world’; compassion! There are people who do care, who will offer a sympathetic ear, even if they don’t understand how your mind works or what problems you have. The problem is, compassion is often buried underneath a heap of insecurities, neuroses, and selfish thoughts. Your family and friends may want to help, but simply don’t know how, or are to pre-occupied with their own life.
Have you tried talking to them? Telling them you could do with some encouragement? It’s up to you to help them understand, they can’t do that by themselves. If they know encouragement will help you then they will e much more likely to offer it. They wont want to do anything to hurt you, which unfortunately means often doing nothing. That doesn’t mean they don’t care. Because people do care about you :)
But ultimately, your happiness is in your hands. By helping others, you can help unlock it. You say the depression has strengthened your resolve to fight suffering, well I think that is a big positive!
You’ll be a better person because of it, and make the world a better place.
I think it takes the bad in life to keep us from taking happiness for granted, there is an upside to being down. Take strength in that!
But for someone who hasn’t been through it, it’s much harder to help others. So try not to hold it against those who know you. Instead, resolve to fight harder to beat the depression, to teach them you are all the same, just they aren’t in a trough right now. Show them you are strong, and not someone to be scared of. Most of all, do it for yourself, you deserve a happy life! =)
- written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by smicki - (1 vote) I’m so depressed.
Start off by putting things in perspective. Depression is such a universal emotion, I think when you feel down, your never truly alone. So maybe you know the world better than you think, you feel its pain. And trust me, your life is never hopeless, even if your as low as you can be, then the only thing left is to go up.
Gaining in confidence, and battling insecurities, is something that you can really do something about. Its not an easy process, or a quick one, but its the journey that shapes you.
You must start by loving yourself. Yes its cheesy, yes its cliche, but its right. If you don’t love yourself, its hard for others to love you. And love makes the world go around. Make a list of all your positive points. Dig deep, how many people have you made smile? More than you might think. You’ve done good, and you have a lot more to give.
Remember small steps. You can’t go from shy to confident in a day. Set acheivable goals, like smiling at a stranger one week, starting a conversation the next. Or taking up a club, or doing some volunteering. There’s lot of things you can do to help you, and feel better about yourself along the way.
Believe me, that wall blocking your happiness will crumble, you just have to will it too.
- written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by miskat - (1 vote) Need some advice.
Do what you feel comfortable with. Your happiness is in your hands, gotta make a decision.
If you would rather block her out completely, go for it. She cheated on you, a fresh start might be a good thing. There is nothing to feel guilty about.
But if you know you *will* feel guilty, and bad, about ignoring her. Then talk to her. Like I said before, you can always keep things superficial. Just the niceties. Or if you feel you want a release, tell her exactly how you feel. Or tell her you don’t want her messaging you.
Whatever you choose, make sure you have your own happiness in mind. Your hurting, so I think its best to look out for number one right now.
- written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by kmichelle - (1 vote) why do some christians find it necessary to shove their beliefs down your throat?
So Felicity you have read the bible and “know” God detests homosexuality? Does the bible not also say “Wear only clothes made from 1 cloth”? Do you follow that too? in this day and age I’d doubt it. Times change, so should the understanding of the bible.
Furthermore the bible is littered with condtradictions; it is afterall man’s take on the word of the lord. It is not flawless. God is also all-loving, thus he loves us all, homeosexuals, hetrosexuals, ALL of us. How can you preach such hate, when God gives only love?
Seems to me that you contradict your entire faith with your narrow minded veiws, using it to try and justify homophobia and any other hatful views you may hold. Not the type of Christian that I respect.
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