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• What should I do?
  

  Your anger shows by putting his name in. This is your way of getting back. Not wise.
  
  CALMLY tell him it hurts because husbands and wife should confide in each other not ones outside marriage. If he feels he must confide in someone then it should be someone you both have previously agreed; like his father or your father or possibly a Minister. Ask him to share why he feels he cannot confide all in you. Does he not like how you react? Be aware it can be annoying to him if forced to talk.
  
  Then after you talk, do share something fun and enjoyable with him. Do not ask him, just do it. Keep it simple like a board game, doing an easy sport, or sharing a project you know he enjoys. Keep the joy of your marriage a burning torch by relighting it every chance you get. Make sure you are doing it because you want to share joy with him. Do not care whether he reacts the way you want him to. Initially he may not trust the gesture. Nevertheless, keep the torches of joy burning daily. Also, give him a very sweet and long kiss at least once a day. By the way, this is the same advice I give to men in my marriage group. It works in many cases, not all.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

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