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Namaste

This happens to me as well. Nothing more frustrating than feeling like your regressing back to a point that is dark in your life. I find inspiration in being able to control my emotions, not have them control me. Its hard as h e l l sometimes and I’ll admit that sometimes I even have to force myself by watching something I know will make me laugh. Or thinking for 1 or 2 minutes straight about nothing but a moment in my life that I can’t help but smile when thinking about.

I don’t know all the answers for sure. But I wanted to tell you your not alone.

On a side note, we’re all human beings with two independently thinking sides to our brains. Im my opinion its a miracle we aren’t more divided.

Just in case your interested, here’s an inspirational and informative vid by a great woman about finding which side of the brain you think with and why. Kind of funny to.

http://ted.org/index.php/talks/jill_b…

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You’ve shocked them a bit. Dont treat it like a huge deal anymore or they will to. That’s for sure.

They’ll get over it once they see your not like that on a regular basis. You’ve got to earn their trust back. Try and forget about it. Just don’t forget what got you there so you don’t do it again.

Don’t be surprised or offended if the next time you drink around them they crack a joke at your expense about it. Even if you never do it again, you now get to be the brunt of the ‘crazy drunk person’ stories told at parties.

This is just my opinion brother. If you try and resist what has happened to you by taking legal action or trying to get them back, your only going to attract more negativity to yourself. This has all happened for reason. Maybe its time to get a new job, you may find one thats better or more suited to you than the one you have now. Maybe its because you truly do need to be resting through this. For whatever reason you aren’t supposed to be at that job right now, and it sounds like it’s because you are about to detox yourself from one of the deadliest drugs around.

Best of Success Brother

Your awesome for making that decision, keep it up then. I also had family issues with drinking. My mom was an active alcoholic when I was your age, and I watched it almost destroy her. I still don’t drink because of that, and I’m an old man now compared to you. Human nature is strong though and it will be more fun and easier for you if you can separate yourself from the boozy people.

It may be hard cause some of your friends hang out with them also, but you’ll find that when you seperate yourself from them, you’ll attract people to you that are more like you, without even trying.

Good luck.

Here are two rules of human nature that will be true for the rest of your life. If you can remember these things at the age of 13, I think they will help you a whole lot in life.

1. Its pretty much impossible to get someone to stop drinking if they don’t want to.(And being so new to drinking they prob think its just fun, its not)This is just the truth. People don’t usually stop drinking once they start. And even as a grown up, it causes huge problems in life. It changes you. Your better off without it, trust me.

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2. You are who you hang out with. You may think this isnt true for you, and that you can be different, but the first person to reply to you was absolutely right. Before long, you’ll find yourself drinking with them, and it will feel natural. You wont realize your a drinker till its too late. It’s only human to want to feel like you belong. Being an athlete though, it sounds like athletes are the people that you may have the most in common with.
Playing football and baseball in school was sooo much fun and an awesome experience and I wouldn’t give it up for anything. Drinking too soon would have ended that before it even started.

Best of Success in the soccer season!

Found that free Think and Grow Rich

http://www.selfstartersweeklytips.com…

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The title makes it sound like its all about money but it’s much more. Very old book but still popular so it’s easy to find. No techniques that rely on you reliving the past either. There’s even a free ebook online I think if you hit google.

If you like the Secret I think you’ll love it.

[quote dthompso]I would say come out and tell her how you feel. You will regret not telling her if you don’t. Even if she doesn’t like you, knowing the truth is best. If she feels the same way, the only way to figure out is if you come out and tell her how you feel.[/quote]

word! what she said

Ok, thats too bad, but that is life. Get used to the rejection as part of dating life. The lame feelings will pass in time and there are truly other fish in the sea. Before long you’ll be smiling with another beauty by your side and life will be cruising forward. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get her out of your mind and go get laid. Look at like a doctor prescribed shot for your confidence.

Getting over it has two benefits. One, you get to move on with your life and meet a new awesome woman. And two, an ex that leaves you for another guy would only consider getting back with you AFTER you’ve gotten over her. They never come back while your longing for them or trying to get back with them. Its always right after you’ve gotten over them that they seem to start calling again. Dont ask me why, or how they know, but they always seem to. I’m not complaining cause sometimes you want that second chance, I’m just saying they have crazy timing, watch out.

You’ll be fine with time brother, go get some.

Dude…your this upset over the break up, but your the one that broke it off? Ask yourself if the reason was trivial or serious. If it was trivial, and you feel that strongly about her, don’t be an idiot go get her back. If the reason was serious…you still might want to go get her back. People deserve forgiveness in relationships. If you made a stupid decision it may not be too late to save what you had.

On the other hand, if the reason you broke up with her was serious enough that you can’t get past it, the others are right in saying you should move on. Don’t dwell in the past.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, just be careful not to let one go that you should have kept. Unlike lust, love is not easily found.

That man loves you two very much, that’s clear. The idealist in me hopes there’s a family reunion in the future.

Oh ****, Im sorry Washu. I glanced, thought you wrote that, and responded with your name on accident? I’m so sorry, that was intended for the anonymous poster talking crap. I wish I could edit that.

And thanks much for actually defending me.

Holy crap are you serious washu?? Your not the brightest star in the sky are ya?

Before you go throwing pretty stupid accusations around, you should notice that my advice to her was to stay with him, not leave him. If I was a piece of crap like you suggest, wouldnt I be encouraging her to leave him, like you did. I believe in honor of commitment and thats the emotion my response came from.

For the record, I am not married(not that it should matter here), younger enough than the woman asking the questions that she’s not even in my age range for relationships, and I am NOT interested in meeting someone through false pretense, much less in meeting someone through this website. I can meet my dates just fine in real life. My advice to this person was genuine and honest. Im here to hopefully get help with the crap Im dealing with, and I figure the best way to get help is to give it. Thats why I responded to her question.

Way to assume something about someone you know nothing about washuchan, and be a real jerk in the process. remind me to avoid you like the plague. Some people…