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• What causes your depression?
  

  I think everyone has made some interesting points and I can echo a lot of what has been said.
  
  I think depression can be such a personal thing and as others have mentioned can always be there – I feel it is for myself. I can have often have hate against myself and as a result will always perceive anything that happens, to be because of me and my failings. I think part of coping with anything is the relationship you have with yourself. The more you understand yourself, including the good and bad things which we all have, the easier it might be to deal with things. This may also include identifying what you need and not be ashamed of admitting what you need. Some people might feel depression because they are alone or scared and are fearful – there is nothing wrong with admitting you might need help.
  
  As wayneandc mentioned it can be about perception. Two people can read the same identical letter and perceive what is being said to be different. This will be down to the individuals and how they interpret the letter. Equally it can be how they interpret themselves and how they feel they fit (or maybe don’t fit) within life. If you believe yourself to be in the wrong then you can usually find evidence to support it – I know I do.
  
  Myself, I’ve tried medication and have had a variety of therapy. This has included the CBT that wayneandc mentioned and Mindfulness as mentioned by bonnie.
  
  Like you Benton I have joined hoping that I might help others to understand and at the same time help myself to understand. Unfortunately I’m not sure what I can say to help sometimes. I can relay what people have told me over the years such as trying to concentrate on the little things that you enjoy, talking about how you feel and not ashamed of how you feel, etc. Just seems hypocritical of me to give advice that I seem unable to use myself. I hope what I’ve said makes sense and apologise as sometimes I can get lost in the confusion I have myself with life.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• What is wrong with me?
  

  In response to you original question ‘What is wrong with me?’ - I don’t think there is anything wrong with you. To be asking the questions you have I think is normal and can be healthy part of learning about the person you are. Everyone has light and dark within them and it’s both of these things that make us who we are. Learning to understand them rather than bury them is part of becoming a more complete person I think.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• What is wrong with me?
  

  Will let you know for sure - if you find one before me you let me know too :)
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• What is wrong with me?
  

  I’d liked to be able to say for sure what ‘cure’ there might be. Unfortunately I think I’m still looking myself.
  
  Can you use what you are ‘feeling’ at this moment in your writing? The fact you have identified apathy and have questions concerning it might be a basis of writing and might help you learn about it in the process.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• What is wrong with me?
  

  I think i might relate to how you feel rrxapture. I have often felt an indifference to situations in life where others have perhaps had much stronger feelings or emotions. People have often said I should care more when actually if I’m honest I don’t - which is when I’ve often asked what’s wrong with me then?
  
  When i’ve tried to make sense of it myself people have told me that having or not having a feeling cannot be questioned or made to be something different. What you feel is what you feel. That is if you feel indifference then that is what you feel and someone cannot say you should be feeling something different. The immediate feeling you have at the precise moment in time is the feeling you have and cannot be questioned - however what led you to have that feeling can be questioned and depending on what you learn might mean you feel something different in the future if the event happens again.
  
  Does any of this make any sense? Not sure if I’m explaining it correctly.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

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